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To feel so hurt by my friends new views on abortion

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AnneNonimous · 19/05/2013 12:14

(This is nothing to do with the current pro life thread happening)

I have been best friends with my friend since school, around 11 years now. Since we met she has consistently been the closest person to me and we have been through so much together. No fallings out which is strange for a female friendship! We both had lots of hard times growing up and she knows me better than anybody else. At 15 I had an abortion. I was pregnant and terrified and it has haunted me ever since. She knows what a deep depression it sent me into and the outcomes of it.

In the last few years she has found religion and is now a Christian. It seems to have been a real saviour for her and I have never seen her so truly happy, so I'm delighted for her. But now it seems that she has become so judgemental and I don't like it. She constantly posts links on Facebook on how wrong abortion is, statuses about how wrong it is etc. I feel heartbroken seeing it wondering how she could be so thoughtless and what must she think of me.

I accept we will have different views, but this has made me almost feel attacked and judged for something I have felt bad about ever since. How am I meant to handle this?

OP posts:
LineRunner · 22/05/2013 11:26

Given that 1 in 3, possibly nearing 1 in 2, women will have a termination at some point in their lives, most of them must be ok about it, or the country would have ground to a shuddering halt by now.

Also most of the women who have terminations will also be mothers either before or after, which sounds like a pretty caring, life-affirming and hard-working bunch of women to me.

LineRunner · 22/05/2013 11:29

I think what the anti-abortioners can't stand is that huge numbers of women have terminations and it doesn't send them mad. Or sad. It makes them free.

JenaiMorris · 22/05/2013 11:54

Yes, yes, yes Linerunner.

wrt prolife lies information, there is a time and a place. And Facebook aint it. I operate a two strikes and you're out policy when it comes to people who post the kind of crap the OP is talking about (not that they care, I'm sure).

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