I will try and keep this as brief as poss. My daughter is in Y1 and one of her classmates, a boy, often harrasses her. She has been pinched and hair pulled during carpet time and put in a headlock during playtime. I have asked for this boy to stay away from my daughter and her teacher has made efforts to do so.
Today, the same boy attacked four girls. He bit one on the neck and drew blood. Another girl was bitten on the arm five times, no blood. My daughter was attacked as well but she managed to escape with no injury. Obviously my fellow mums and I are outraged. Nothing was done to discipline the boy, so he can't grasp the enormity of the fallout of his actions. My daughter, certainly, was left shaken, trying to make sense if it. This boy has a fascination with vampires, but we all wonder what has he seen to act this way?
I am all for complaining to the school, but dh wants our daughter to just kick him in the balls if he tries again. What message will that give, when she has to fight back to survive?
My daughter is a toughie, and can defend herself, but she bottles up her true feelings. The teacher doesn't see that she's upset, because she only lets it go when she's home, and we have a blubbering child needing our care and understanding. Is it unreasonable to ask the school makes sure our kids are safe thru the day, and this boy is either excluded, or has some sort of intervention?
AIBU?
to demand a child is excluded from school?
Tubemole1 · 17/05/2013 23:12
I second Float62
You seem to automatically jump to the conclusion that this kid is terrible etc etc without considering exaggeration on your DDs part. Your condemnation of the teacher is bollocks, seeing as you weren't actually there and have only heard her reaction through the grapevine, so to speak.
I personally feel your reaction was OTT seeing as your child wasn't actually hurt herself - even if he's been picking on her for a while, exclusion wouldn't be the solution so you don't seem to be being reasonable.. 
you sound delightful op you are expecting a head teacher to bow down to you and your vigilante gang of other mums!! there may be some background to this little boys behavioural issues.
apart from other "picking on" incadents you have mentioned you're child was not actually injured on this occasion and those who were are nothing to do with you that is for their parents to deal with, are you going on what a young child had told you or what an adult has told you regarding the non punishment of this child?
and to teach a child to kick a boy in the testicals as a way of retaliation is an absolute disgrace, that is something that could permenantly injure the said little boy,
you need to attend a meeting with those appropriate and come up with an action plan that is realistic to all those involved, i can understand feeling upset or frustrated at a situation like this as its you're child but you seem to have taken on an attitude that comes across as you expect your childs needs to be put before all the others in the class and its simply not the case the little boys needs are just as important and i do not believe having him suspended is going to do anyone any good.
From your last couple of posts, i would not be able to determine whether the 'team of girls' weren't bullying and excluding the boy 
If it happened as you report, them yes, the teacher I'd failing her safe guarding duty. But given the attitude/approach of you and the other mums as described, I think there is probably another side to this story
Well we left the local school anyway as the junior department didn't have the same ethos and ds would have been excluded in time from there anyway if we had stayed.
Ds has autism, at five it was glaringly obvious he had SEN (he couldn't speak, was in nappies etc) I found the ignorance appalling tbh.
He had a ft statement on entry to nursery what the parents didn't know was that it was my complaints about the school to the LEA that secured more funding for breaktimes and lunchtimes because the school weren't supporting him properly. The HT had no option but to fight ds's corner as she had been leaned on by the LA.
Ds eventually moved to a school thirty miles away but he still has the bad boy reputation as I discovered when one of the petitioners asked me 8 years later if he was still naughty. I said "no he still has autism. I see you are still as thick as pig shit as well, some things don't change" 
Funnily enough she's never spoken to me since 
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