To not take dds packed lunch to school?

[BastardDog]

Dd is 12. Last week I put her onto packed lunches as it was becoming obvious that she was going without eating all day at school and then going to the shop in the evening and using her dinner money to buy items such as a six pack of crisps, a 4 pack of Tic Tacs, 3 100g bars of chocolate etc.

So today she has forgotten to take her packed lunch to school and has no money so has asked school reception to ring me and ask me to deliver her lunch, a one hour round trip as I have no car.

I am not working until 12 today so in theory I have time, but I feel cross to have been put in this position.

School have said they will not lend her any money, which I understand.

We really don't know if the school didn't offer the school meal immediately.

The OP hasn't said they refused to feed her at the start, she said her daughter asked them to call her and bring in the lunch.

They might well have offered it to the DD who then said that she would rather ring her mum.

Given the circumstances of her starting to take a packed lunch, it wouldn't be surprising if she had said that she wasn't allowed to have school dinners any more (rather than admitting she is not trusted with the money to pay for them) and had to ring her mum for her packed lunch.

I'm not cross that she forgot her lunch.

I'm cross because until a few days ago she chose not to eat at lunchtime and save her dinner money for buying rubbish from the shop each evening, but saw fit to make a fuss at school today about having forgotten her lunch.

In her shoes, knowing the reason why I had been changed from dinner to a packed lunch, I would have tried to make arrangements myself at school to borrow from a friend, share someone's lunch or have gone without. I would not have dared, in the circumstances, ask school to ask my mum to spend an hour of her morning bringing my lunch to school.

Apparently the reason school didn't initially offer to provide an emergency dinner card is because a large minority of parents don't repay the money to school.

Do you think you can talk to her about her unhealthy eating habits? What is she like with food at home?

Glad you got it sorted OP and for what it's worth I wouldn't have made an hours round trip either.

I'm cross because until a few days ago she chose not to eat at lunchtime and save her dinner money for buying rubbish from the shop each evening, but saw fit to make a fuss at school today about having forgotten her lunch.

Ah, I getcha. Cunning minx.

imho, I think it is risky to expect her to remember to put packed lunch in her bag every day, I would personally put it in her bag for any kid under 16. I have one who would certainly never eat either, otherwise.