When I return to work my LO (PFB, I'll admit this!) was going to be looked after between my mum and MIL, then SIL said she wanted to help out too by sharing MIL's days which was fine by me. Now SIL has announced that her and her DH are trying for a baby, but she is still planning on looking after our LO. It's a bit complicated as MIL and SIL job share, when one is not there then the other needs to be.
With this in mind I have found a lovely childminder who can do MIL/SIL's days, I don't want to land my LO on them with the newborn and everything that comes with it. However, they insist they can look after LO, DH is insisting too. In my opinion it's not possible.
I know that SIL isn't pregnant yet, but I worry that I'll let LO's place at the childminder go and then a few months down the line SIL gets pregnant and then realises its not possible to look after my LO too. I'll then be stuck with having to 'make do' with an option I find at short notice. I want my LO to be happy and secure during the day, I just want to do what's best for him. DH says that leaving him with a childminder over family is not what's best.
AIBU to insist on the childminder? I think it's been my preferred choice all along and that SIL's plans have given me an excuse. Or should I see how it goes with SIL/MIL at the risk of having to start looking for alternative childcare in a few months, or is it possible that they will actually manage and I'm being unfair? I also think I'm worried that my LO will be pushed out once the new baby arrives as they will be busy taking care of him/her, a toddler might be a nuisance. We're also planning on another baby fairly soon, I know they won't be able to manage 2 of mine whereas the childminder will take on another.
I don't want to offend them but I don't think they are being realistic, AIBU?
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MulberryJane · 16/05/2013 09:15
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