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stranger giving my child money

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trackies · 15/05/2013 22:09

Was at a toddler group with my 3 yo. There was a professional photographer there taking pics as approved by lady who runs it. They sit on a seat infront of a white screen. My child had a turn. My child is very chatty and friendly and likes posing for photos, and he found him easy to deal with. Bit later on my child, who likes attention and chatting to people, chatted to him for few mins, whilst i was there. Photographer was saying how lovely he was and he'd made his day, and then he gave him a gift of £2 and told him to buy some sweets with it. This freaked me out. I was a bit stunned. I tried to politely say that we can't take his money (i didn't want it!) but he insisted on me taking it. As i was leaving i tried to prize the £2 away from my child but he was clinging onto it so i left cos i just wanted to get out there! Got home and explained to small child that should not take gifts from strangers, but it wasn't his fault. I should have done something at the time. I was just caught off guard. Told my DH who said this man should have not been giving money to my child, and agreed that it's weird, but it could have been just someone being nice. But he was not happy. I told couple of Mummy friends who said it was weird aswell. DH said i definitely need to talk to the women who runs the group just to say that it made me uncomfortable and give the money back. Do you think it's weird ? or an act of kindness ? what would you do ?

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Doggybear · 19/08/2024 23:23

Fireplacewatcher · 19/08/2024 07:37

Christ on a bike!

£2 in plain sight with your knowledge because he made his day.

It didn’t happen down the park by an dodgy and your kid came home to tell you.

Context people, context!

Absolutely, its all about context and telling someone about your "good deed" never comes across good. From now on I won't be telling anyone, but I would do the same again if I felt like it :)

Doggybear · 19/08/2024 23:28

HiJenny35 · 05/06/2019 16:31

This is ridiculous, it isn't a north/Welsh/London/south/Scottish thing it's a NORMAL nice thing. Your child was pleasant, he wanted to praise that and gave him a token of money to get something with, how is that weird. What a world when a nice gesture is totally misconstrued. I would have been delighted and said "thank you, how lovely of you". Once a lady in a coffee shop paid for our drinks as the children had been so polite, it's not weird it's lovely. What a shame that you feel the need to make this into a nasty thing.

Absolutely, Apparently everything good has a sinister reason behind. Sad times

ConsuelaHammock · 19/08/2024 23:41

Very common thing here in NI.

ConsuelaHammock · 19/08/2024 23:42

Usually given with a ‘buy yourself some sweets’! Your reaction is strange.

EC22 · 19/08/2024 23:43

Normal nice thing to do.

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