Name changed in case this outs me.
Just had a conversation with a family member. I confided in them that I was struggling a bit and was considering scrimping together enough money to send dd to nursery a morning a week or considering ignoring health issues to get a job so that I could have a breather for a bit from just being "mummy". Family member said (quite snottily) that they'd never wanted to leave their children so they couldn't advise me on looking for a nursery or on making that decision as they'd chosen to run the house while their kids were young (despite the fact that they work in childcare so probably see a lot of parents like me so could easily advise me). I pointed out that I'm a single mum so its slightly different having no one to help money or just being there wise. They then said I chose to have my dd (she was a surprise baby) and maybe I should have had an abortion instead.
I'm really hurt and upset that this was her response to me confiding that I was struggling. That maybe I shouldn't have had my daughter. I feel like a crap mum too for needing a break because of the way she emphasised her words when she said that she never wanted to leave her dc's with anyone else. I feel like I can't confide in this person anymore either or ask for advice about dd anymore.
Sorry if this didnt make sense I just feel really sad. AIBU to be hurt or am I being too sensitive?