woman was trying to force dd to eat a hamwidge

[rosepettel]

yesterday i got told by dd that her mate mum was trying to force her to eat a hamwidge even thou we are veges.. dd got very upset and distressed.. im going to ring the woman and go nuts but what can i say..why would she do this she knows we are veges..im so angry at the min what would you do? woman was saying just eat it i wont tell youre mum but dd was saying no i dont want it and was crying i am so angry.. what will i do please help?

Oooohhh - I've only just twigged that OP is doing the misspelling and mixed up words deliberatly......... was but am now [blish]

it my phone cant help it

well some times

i mean some times i dont know how too

Your username is so cute too OP.
How is it going with the feud?

thenx

the food is fine

Great
I meant, how is the situation with the woman who wanted to force your dd to eat a hamwidge?

I think you need to speak to this woman and explain why it is rude for her to suggest your dd eats meat and keeps it a secret from you, and to say that you are worried about this happening again.

This would give her a chance to apologise, and might mean your dds can carry on going there to play with their friends.

I'd be furious (we're veggie too) and it would be the last time my child went to their house. YANBU. I would do as the others have said, ring her and ask her calmly to explain what happened and how upset your dd was. Then I'd tell her that your dd won't be visiting her house again.

On a serious note, something I've always been interested in knowing (but never having the nerve to ask!) Do veggie parents get angry if their kids want meat? (not getting angry, little to no experience just curious!)

Years ago, a little veggie girl that I knew was given a chipolata by some kids - when he found out, her dad stuck his fingers down her throat until she was sick

True story.

True story? I hope not

That's not going to give the pook kid a complex is it? I can imagine her having a panic attack in the cooked meats aisle of Tesco.

This is great. I am particularly enjoying 'yap'. But the widges are making my eyes bleed.

rosepettel

Your friend is no such thing and I'm sure you can encourage your children to play with other kids whose DM isn't quite so...erm... aggressive?

Also I really, really love the Hamwich, jamwich, cheesewich, eggmayowich thing and am never ever having a sandwich or butty again.

I cannot wait to order lunch tomorrow!

Blimey - that's awful. Poor kid!

SecretAgent (fab name!) - we're not vegetarian but I guess a similar principle applies to kosher food in the sense that certain foods aren't eaten and there's an ideological reason rather than it being due to health or dislike.

I can only speak from my own experience here of course- we're pretty liberal and while we are bringing DCs up to have an understanding of their Jewish identity DH and I agree that it is not the only identity they will have - they may in fact choose to reject some or all aspects of it in the future, but we will respect it and support them regardless.

So in answer to your question; no, I would not be angry if they wanted to eat sausages and prawns and so on, but I'd be expecting them to have the maturity to make an informed choice. I wouldn't be impressed if, for example, they went apeshit and ate all the cocktail sausages etc at a party because that's simply a mindless rebellion.

So I suppose in essence it's not that we'd be opposed to them eating the "forbidden" foods, but that there is a certain expectation that should they choose to depart from the practice, it will be done in a measured and articulate way. HTH!

Honestly, it's true. I was horrified.

kk mumsnets

back ground info

today her dds came to mine and play in my garden with my dds

woman came and got them and i only said mm hmm

You said mm ham?

What did you feed the DC?

humblepiewidges?

the hamwidge thread could run and run....heard from an open window...."EAT YOUR HAMWIDGES WITH A KNIFE AND FOOOOOORRWWKK!!"

or soywidges?

or quornbeefwidges ?