putting DS back into a nappy?

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Genuinely can't work out if IABU or not.

DS1 is nearly 5yrs old and toilet trained day and night, however he has a nasty case of diorreha and today didn't quite make it to the toilet, ok accidents happen but clean up all fine but come bed time I put him into a pull up (he has only been out of pull ups at night a month) incase he didn't wake in time, which now I'm glad I did in one respect as I went up to check on him and he has had another bout in his sleep.

I called EXH to let him know DS is ill so not going to be going out tomorrow as planned and he has gone ballistic at me for putting him in a nappy saying it will put DS back and how is he going to learn if I do this also that its unhygienic because he will be sleeping in it.

Can someone tell me if Ive done the wrong thing or not?

Well, if he has had diarrhoea in his sleep, then change his nappy! I assume you won't let him sleep in it??

But then, yes, he should be off school and activities for 48 hours and should not see other people. He will be contagious.

Hope he's ok soon.

I think you've done the right thing. I would have done the same. It won't put him back he's not well, poor boy. Could you change his nappy now though do you think? I can usually change dd without her waking up too much- he may get awful nappy rash if you leave him until morning. (Exh doesn't have to clear the mess up!)

Of course I changed him, he seems fine in himself other than the dirohea so hopefully its something he ate rather than illness, last thing I need at 6mths pregnant is to end up ill, running around after the 3 DCs is hard enough without us all being poorly.

I see how I wrote it now, I mean DS had a bout in his sleep, obviously I changed him before calling EXH but as I have no idea what time it occured EXH is ranty because DS has obviously slept in it since he was last checked.

Ignore Ex do what you need to make life easier for you & less stressful for you both.

Hope DS is better soon.

Hell, one of my boys had a bout of diarrhoea a few weeks ago and I put him in a pull-up pants nappy overnight for 2 or 3 nights and he'll be SIX this summer. Luckily, it wasn't necessary but he'd have been much more distressed to have leaked poo all over his bedding than to just have it contained in pull-up pants. And I'd have had to clean up the mess! YADNBU.

Yanbu at all I would do the same thing, that's what pyjama pants are for. Your partner can clean the sheets and bedding then!

And actually, I should add that my DS was really worried about going to bed until I said don't worry we'll stick you in pull-up pants tonight. You could see him sort of visibly relax when I said that.

DD2 is nearly 3.5, dry and just had a bout of diarrhoea, too right I put her back in a pull up at night (and in the day for two days).

It's not just for the ease of clearing up, but she didn't want to have it all over her several times a day!

Your DS will wake up if he's in a dirty nappy.

Is your ex going 'ballistic' to poke you with a shitty stick (so to speak ), it's a bit of an overreaction to it, in fact he seemed more bothered about the nappy than how your DS was.

He wouldn't like to be covered in shit when he's in bed, why does he think your DS would?

Glad I'm not the one being unreasonable, and your right EXH isn't the one who would have to change the bedding/ shower DS down at this time of night.
He is probably slightly annoyed as it means Im ruining their plans for tomorrow at short notice but tough.

How are you ruining it?

Your DS is ill, you've hardly chosen that for him have you?

He must be bad if you think he'll blame you for your DS being ill to get at him.