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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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AIBU to not book a holiday, as it will be crap?

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PartyFops · 10/05/2013 18:14

I really fancy a holiday in the sun this year, nowhere far away, maybe drive over to France and get a nice cottage somewhere just for a change of scenery. Although, whenever I think about it, I just know it will be boring as sin and event-less, DH is terribly boring IMO he doesn't drink (I don't want him to get slaughtered, but to join me in the glass of the local vino would be nice occassionaly), he doesn't like long lunches, he doesn't like sitting in the sun for any length of time, he doesn't like going into local cities as it 'may' involve shopping, he doesn't really read, so he wont sit and relax. He won't go to a beach, and he won't go swimming!

Maybe we just have very different ideas of what a holiday is. Normally, we bring out dog on holiday and his day involves around walking her, which is fine and I enjoy that and love looking at different scenery, but I want to go and relax and do different things from at home.

Plus I would need to organise every single aspect of it, all on my own! Which always puts me off!

What do you do on holiday that's fun?

Anyone want to take me away with them?

OP posts:

Bowlersarm · 10/05/2013 18:32

If you enjoy being with him (although you aren't painting a very good picture of him tbh )then I would just book something on the basis that doing anything is better than doing nothing at all..

BoffinMum · 10/05/2013 18:33

Have you thought of going away with a girlfriend for a few days and just doing what you like? I did that last summer and basically just slept on a sunbed in the south of France and it was brilliant.

sweetestcup · 10/05/2013 18:33

We go to France every year, like you we drive and hire a cottage with a pool. What do we do? Relax first and foremost, potter about local markets, towns, maybe an occasional trip somewhere...mainly stay about the cottage, play in the pool with the boys and have dinner outside every night, its glorious, and so is all the lovely cheap french wine. But the main thing is we enjoy doing this together - we both work hard all years and its a proper chance to enjoy each others company, regardless of what we are doing. Doesnt sound like thats the case with you and your DH though, which is a shame.

Saski · 10/05/2013 18:34

I'm a bit shocked that there's no drinking or shopping or lounging around on holiday. What's left?

hugoagogo · 10/05/2013 18:34

Poor bloke, I wouldn't want to sunbathe or swim either.

Machli · 10/05/2013 18:35

I honestly read your OP and thought how did two such different people end up together ? And I never think like that. He sounds beyond tedious to be around. Go somewhere alone.

sweetestcup · 10/05/2013 18:35

Sorry I can't get over the no drinking, sunbathing and swimming.
Leave the bastard.

sweetestcup · 10/05/2013 18:36

I know we all like different things but Im with saski!

teacher123 · 10/05/2013 18:36

DH and I have vey different ideas about what makes a good holiday. I like nice hotels, good food and sunny weather. DH likes self catering in the middle of nowhere, invariably with no telly, no wifi and no phone reception... So we sort of mix and match. 2011 we went to Madeira and stayed in a lovely hotel, sunshine, sightseeing and pool. 2012 we went to France and had a cottage in the middle of nowhere and did lots of walking around. This year we're going for a week to the Isle of Wight with inlaws (their treat bless 'em and they are amazing with DS and DMIL is the best cook I've ever met) I'm going on two hen dos and DH is going on two stag weekends. Variety works. DH has promised that next year we can save up and go to one of the sensatori hotels, yippee!

travellingwilbury · 10/05/2013 18:37

I can understand some people not wanting to shop or sunbathe. But if they won do anything else either and leave it up to the person who likes those things to do the planning , then its tough shit really isn't it ?

He must like doing something .

I would rather go with a friend tbh .

thebody · 10/05/2013 18:38

Poor bloke!!!!! What do you mean? His only interest is walking the fucking dog and he can do that any day of the week.

Grim op, poor you.

andubelievedthat · 10/05/2013 18:39

Be interesting to hear his opinion of you ?

CurlyhairedAssassin · 10/05/2013 18:40

So he doesn't like sun, sea, sand holidays or reading, having a glass of wine, shopping...... What type of holiday does he say he WOULD choose?

apatchylass · 10/05/2013 18:40

Take him to one of those lovely Keycamps in France that allows dogs. He can walk the dog. You and DC can go swimming, pony riding, kayaking, drink vino while watching DC stay in the pool for another five hours after you got out.
It's not just camping. They have comfortable mobile homes and chalets too, same price as UK.

Get him some nice soft drinks so you can still enjoy a quiet drink at dusk together, you on the rose and him on his erm orange squash.

Teacher - what is a sensatori hotel?

sweetestcup · 10/05/2013 18:43

Thats brilliant!

thebody · 10/05/2013 18:45

Hi there, first post so be gentle. My wife likes going in holiday to drink, swim, sunbathe, shop, sightsee and generally relax and have fun.

I like to walk my dog. Nothing else just walk my dog.

Aibu?

TheOrchardKeeper · 10/05/2013 18:47

Love AF 's response

If he won't come up with anything else then maybe he should just suck it up? Or let you have a girl's holiday etc?

I don't really want to slate the guy as he can't defend himself...but he sounds like a royal pain in the arse holiday wise

saulaboutme · 10/05/2013 18:49

I agree with Af. Looks like you may have to go on holiday alone. Sorry you're married to a person who doesn't do normal holiday things.

Don't invite him, he is going to spoil your fun.

TheOrchardKeeper · 10/05/2013 18:49

thebody are you OP's OH?

It's not unreasonable to not want to do those things, but if you can't be arsed to come up with other ideas to do together that you may both like then surely you should either suck it up or not bother?

OP can't really just do her own thing as she'll have DD, which defeats the point of a holiday really...

TheOrchardKeeper · 10/05/2013 18:50

Maybe he's pretending not to like anything remotely fun that she likes so she has to do everything with DD & he can have a 'proper' holiday?

landofsoapandglory · 10/05/2013 18:51

Can't you buy him one of these? He can take it for a walk, you could get DD one too so she could go as well sometimes, while you get to lie in the sun!

I don't drink, but I do sit and enjoy a meal with DH on holiday and don't object to him enjoying a drink.

LadySlatternlysHoover · 10/05/2013 18:54

Do you share any interests at all?

MrsKoala · 10/05/2013 18:56

i feel your pain slightly OP. DH hates doing things like beach hols becaus ehe can't swim, hated the water, hates the heat/sun and wont sit still long enough to read a book.

However, he does like 'activity' holidays like Mountain biking or Skiing or city breaks with lots of eating sightseeing. But i come home from those holidays knackered. and i really love the warm, and especially swimming in the sea, so i really miss it :(

sweetestcup · 10/05/2013 18:57

thebody Ive just laughed so much at your last post, spilt my drink now!

sweetestcup · 10/05/2013 18:58

Just read this out to my DH and he thought your DH was about 80!

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