to be ? that a teacher told my dd (6yrs) to wear cycling shorts under her summer dress if she was going to be doing cartwheels?

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Our kids put their shorts on for playtime, like they would for pe. I agree that little girls should be able to do anything they want to, wearing whatever they want to, but look at it from schools perspective. If you girl ended up in facebook, skirt over head, being commented on by idiots, and that photo had been taken by someone passing the school fence or overlooking the grounds, dont you think school would be partly responsible for not recognising this risk? the local authority would go to town on the head and governors for not spotting this. this is the sort of shite we have to risk assess on a daily basis. Imagine the risk assessment we have to do to take kids out in public places! Trips you should be excited about, you spend hours writing down what you will do about paedophiles, child snatchers, terrorists... The teacher in question probably agrees with you entirely.

Any 6 yo who strips off her nappy isn't going to be NT!

You reckon? In fact some of the kids in my DDs YrR were still wearing pull-ups. They weren't SN.

It doesn't really ask what you will do about paedophiles, child snatchers, terrorists on the risk assessmnet form does it BeQuick? (Serious question, I'm not being sarcastic!)

Olgaga, she has severe autism and developmental delay, operating at 18 months to 2 years, she is toilet training though and getting there

I was secretly pleased as she kept saying 'bum' when she took nappy off..I said 'good speaking'

Fanjo, good speaking!

I thought everyone knew my Dd was very SNtastic

Do 6yos honestly get made to wear shorts under skirts at school? Does that not kind of defeat the point of a skirt?

Have never heard of anyone doing this before!

I think it is really unhealthy to wear tight cycling shorts with nylon in all day, I find wearing tights in winter with the school heating on can cause problems as well and always breathe a sign of relief when 100% cotton dresses can be worn. Pants are cotton, tight cycling shorts are not, and much tighter than nylon trousers (which are ghastly). People keep saying 'oh children do smell you know after running around even in primary' - no wonder, if they are encased head to toe in nylon.

Who do you think you are, Fanjo, MN royalty?

Yes, don't you know who I am?

Who do you think you are, Fanjo, MN royalty?

She most definitely is

Fanjo do you know how many people use this site? No I don't actually know them all - or their family circumstances. Do you?

Yes, a royal pain in the arse

Olgaga. My bad.

Oh, olgaga, sorry to wind you up!

I mostly just did t think as dD in nappy is just normal to me, don't have other kids

I have never heard of girls wearing shorts under school uniform. I have never seen any 'sexy' underwear for children. I don't believe primary school children are wearing thongs because thongs have been out of fashion for at least a decade. I do not understand why anybody would think having a picture of Hello Kitty on your underwear was sexy or attention seeking.

Why Ellen please don't worry on my account! And Fanjo no offence intended - or taken.

The fact that a growing number of children (not necessarily SN) are starting school without being adequately toilet trained has been an issue in schools for quite a while, so obviously your DD is doing well.

Still, as long as they wear shorts over their nappies!

Everything poppyfield said.

If you want your dd'd to wear short's under skirt's why bother wearing skirt's at all.

OP here - flippin' eck - didn't realize this would cause such debate.....I can assure you all, my 6 year old's pants are approriately big and snug fitting -- as there was some discussion a few posts back about whether gaping knickers might have elicited the comment from the teacher. My daughter did not ask for shorts - just told me what the the teacher said to her. My gut reaction was that it was ridiculous for the teacher to say this to my daughter - but if my daughter wanted to wear shorts I would nt say no either.....have an older daughter and between them they have been to 4 different schools and I have never come across this before - but obviously from the posts here it is a common enough practice - either dictated by the school or as the individual choice/request of the parent or child.

I'd probably put my DD in boy-short type underwear under a dress, or actual shorts. I see so many little girls standing still on the playground because they're wearing dresses and don't want to show their knickers.

I don't think it is about being ashamed of your body, I think it is about teaching kids that private parts are special and private. DId the teacher say "you should be ashamed of your knickers?" or is that people projecting?

I think this is important. Children need to know what is acceptable behaviour and what is not. If they think it is normal to show people their pants, then how would they beable to determine in what situations it would be wrong of someone to ask them to show their pants etc?

it is not about modifying behaviour, a woman can wear what she wants and should not be attacked, the same way a child can wear what he/she wants and should not be abused.

The difference is a woman would know if someone came up to her and said do a handstand, oh what nice underwear you have, that it was inaapropriate, where as if for a child this is normal behaviour and a grown up asked them to do this then they wouldnt see anything wrong with it and see it as normal behaviour.