friend has deleted me from facebook and told me I'm selfish

[bananaandpear]

My XDH and I split last year, during this time I became close to a lady who is older than me and found myself confiding in her a lot. Her DH works away, and she has no family local so she spent Christmas with me and my 2 DSs.

After I split with XH, I got a new DP, and also am applying for college courses (am on benefits at the moment but don't see this being a long term thing.)

So meanwhile friend is going through fertility treatment and we haven't really spoken for a while, I put this down to being busy and so on, but then I sent her a message on facebook yesterday cause I saw she'd updated her status saying she'd had a tough day and she only just replied.

She says she understands I've been busy but she'd been a bit hurt that I hadn't bothered asking her about her or her treatment for ages, also that I haven't contacted another friend who has cervical cancer and "she would have appreciated this a lot" that I still owed her quite a lot of money "I don't enjoy doing this but I really feel in some respects you've been a bit selfish"

Clearly having 2 young DCs and collage I am busy so AIBU?

why do they always take it one step too far?

why do you think that she has contacted social services?

Oh my

I bet shes shagging your boyfriend

Social services?! Weirdest drip feed ever

I don't know just wondered as social services invesitigated about 2 weeks after she'd stayed at mine.

I'm at college but part time as I have the DCs, I hope to go to uni soon.

Youre at college 2 days a week and dont have a job, so what on earth keeps you so busy for the rest of the time that you cant be arsed to make time for your friends? Id ditch you too. did you say to your friend 'im too busy to call, ive got 2 kids'?

Christ. If this is real then I'm surprised you have any friends left at all, OP. you sound very selfish and quite horrible.

Social services?! Weirdest drip feed ever

Innit. Can't wait to see the next thrilling installment .

YYABU

OP if it is real, I have two kids, a Uni course, a wife, AND I work. Yet still have time to keep up with friends. I think this thread is headed for deletion.

When are you hoping to go to uni op? Because if its September you've missed the ucas deadline

Having just gone through fertility treatment, my best friend did not ring me once to ask how it was going. It really hurt especially knowing I have supported her through things in the past. You are never to busy to make a phone call.

Also I think she might have called social services

I called British gas today. My friend told me she called the tax credits line. Phoning people is fun!

I have three kids and a stressful, demanding job-I still have time to ring friends. OP, you sound like a truly dire friend. I'm still interested in knowing what this really good job is that you might get; the one your friend is so jealous of?

You're a wendy

You have got time to winge about it on here - so not that busy. YABU

Wow.....erm....yeah

Not overly believing this

Oh and if it were true, i would ditch you as a friend too

Sooooo....

You get dumped by people because you're selfish and you get visits from social services.

You're really selling yourself to me now. I'm totes weljel already.

who did what now?

I think all is not as it seems.

You don't sound nice.

"yeah have had time for new boyfriend obviously he's important and I love him," So, your friends are not important to you, other than when they were offering you the support, of course, so if they are not important to you, no need to be upset at all!

Right.