leave my 16 week old DD

[claremp7]

Me and my partner are due to go to a wedding in a few weeks and DD will be 16 weeks old.
I'm breast feeding her so that's obviously one hurdle. I know I can express but have very painful nipples and find it hard. I could do it, maybe I'm using this as an excuse.
The wedding half way across the country away and its a no children wedding. We're only invited to the evening.
My parents who live 350 miles away are coming down to see us for a week and also to babysit. They're really looking forward to it.
I'm sorry for the rambling but I really don't want to leave her and go to the wedding. AIBU to not want to go?

[JenaiMorris]

I wouldn't have gone.

I wouldn't be remotely at someone else doing it, but there's no way I could have expressed sufficient milk and ds rarely took bottles (and not for want of trying - it was a right PITA).

[noblegiraffe]

Did SIL formula feed? That might explain the 4 hours between feeds thing, and the suggestion that you can just trot off for the evening without a second thought.

[MyNameIsAnAnagram]

I wouldn't got that far just for an evening do even without the baby issue!

Yanbu at all, before ds was born I was planning to leave him for a weekend at 6m to go to a wedding, but couldn't in the end.

[maddening]

Could your dps come with you so you can have dc with you and keep up the bfing and just leave dc essentially for a few hours?

You could get a 2 bed holiday cottage and stay with your dps? Built in babysitting and you don't have to be away from dc for so long?

[claremp7]

Hi and thank you again everyone. DP spoke to colleague and DD is invited and always has been. We just got the wrong end of the stick! Now what do I wear?

[diddl]

"Now what do I wear?"

Something bfeeding friendly??

[Illustrationaddict]

Totally up to you, but if it was a good friend I would go. Think its healthy to have a little time together as a couple, remember what it was like pre baby, especially if you have 2 very dependable and willing babysitters. It would just be nice for you to have a proper sleep if nothing else, refreshes and makes for a happy mummy :)

[WoTmania]

YANBU glad it'sall been resolved. You can get some quite nice nursing dresses these aren't particularly eveningy iyswim but for the general idea

[SirBoobAlot]

No way would I leave such a small baby for that long, especially if breastfeeding.

You can go to a wedding any time, the early days with your little one only come once.

[SirBoobAlot]

Oh sorry didn't see there was more than one page to this. Idiot.

Glad you don't need to stress about leaving her :)

You can get some beautiful breastfeeding dresses online.

[DoingTheSwanThing]

If they allowed you to take her along and you wanted to go, get a sling and some ear defenders and she'll be absolutely fine, probably sleep through it! Did a whole day wedding with 5mo twins not so long ago, they loved the evening and danced away in slings (not that they could hear much )

[Secondsop]

What to wear - what about a wrap dress, with a pretty scarf that you can use as a breast feeding cover? That's what I wore constantly when I was breast feeding my baby. Have a lovely time!

[DeskPlanner]

Just caught up with this thread. Glad It's been resolved. Have fun.