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To think they did this on purpose? PIL related

302 replies

Dannilion · 02/05/2013 16:01

Bit of background..

PIL's are shit with money. They have had failed business after failed business, declared themselves bankrupt, borrowed £££££'s from friends as investments, asked DH to launder money for them etc.

FIL is nice enough, just made some very silly decisions as well as being on the receiving end of some very bad luck. MIL are very different but get on on a surface level.

Anyways, a few months ago PIL's came round and asked if they could open a bank account in DH's name in order to receive their wages or something as due to their bankruptcy they were struggling with doing so. DH said no, as it was obviously illegal and he is also self employed and didn't want to be investigated. Also PFB was due and we were worried about the effect it would have on us when it came to claiming tax credits etc. Not that we should have had to have given a reason for not wanting to partake in this, but we had plenty.

Fast forward to them coming to visit the baby last week and bringing some letters for him that had arrived at their address. He gets the odd one every so often. He opens one and it's from Santander, thanking him for opening a new account. He never opened a new account with them, ever.

PIL's were very quick to say 'oh your father opened an account with them but they did it in the wrong name by accident, never mind all sorted now etc' and changed the subject.

I just can't see how a bank could open an account in the wrong name for someone who hasn't lived at that address in years. All his other mail comes here so if there is some sort of grand database it would had him at our home address surely?

I haven't broached this with DH yet as it would be devastating for him. But AIBU to think that they have probably gone ahead and opened a bank account in his name? Obviously if they have we will have to deal with it ASAP.

OP posts:
SayMama · 02/05/2013 20:21

Oh you poor things, you don't need this stress now with the new baby here (congratulations btw!)

I dont know if anyone has said it but Noddle credit check is free and instant. I think you need to check just incase they've done it before!

SugarPasteGreyhound · 02/05/2013 20:23

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OhTinky · 02/05/2013 20:24

There's a credit check company called Noddle. It does free instant credit checks. No catch that I could see, but did very cleverly list all bank accounts/mortgage/linked family members at my address etc within about 10mins - might be worth a go. Hoping that its only 1 account and not the tip of the iceberg! How worrying!

breatheslowly · 02/05/2013 20:25

Have they closed it or suspended it or something?

InLoveWithDavidTennant · 02/05/2013 20:25

you defo need to get the police involved. family or not it is fraud. you wouldnt think twice about it if it was a stranger.

i agree with the posters that mentioned loans and credit cards. jeez they could have borrowed 1000's in his name Shock

they dont care... and they'll never learn unless you do something. act fast!

alienbanana · 02/05/2013 20:29
Shock

This is unbelievable!

msrisotto · 02/05/2013 20:30

Wow...just wow. What a new low, to defraud your own son. I am sure you are incandescent with rage and your poor husband is devastated. I do hope he tells Santander that he did not open the account, you have to protect yourselves.

ENormaSnob · 02/05/2013 20:31

This is awful.

You need the police involved asap.

What a set of bastards they are. Absolutely no regards to the welfare of their son and grandchild.

filthypig · 02/05/2013 20:32

this is identity theft surely. Awful.

claudedebussy · 02/05/2013 20:34

sorry, but police are the only way to go now.

his parents have committed serious fraud.

imagine if they went overdrawn. you'd be liable and that's effectively stealing money from your kids' mouths. unbelievable.

50shadesofbrown · 02/05/2013 20:39

As Cosytoesies said. Once they have breached your trust, they forfeit all right to any 'family loyalty'.

TidyDancer · 02/05/2013 20:40

Jesus Christ. What shits they are.

I realise this is very difficult, but I would broach the subject of the police now.

cozietoesie · 02/05/2013 20:40

I just signed up with noddle. Looks like a great little free service.

KeatsiePie · 02/05/2013 20:48

That is appalling, I'm sorry.

Can you put a fraud alert on his name? That would prevent anyone from doing anything that involves accessing his credit without contacting him/you first. Each of the big three credit bureaus (Experian, Equifax, Transunion) will have a separate link for you to do that, after a quick look I think I would set it up with all three of them. It's supposed to be easy to do it.

From one of the sites: "An initial 90 day fraud alert indicates to anyone requesting your credit file that you suspect you are a victim of fraud. When you or someone else attempts to open a credit account in your name, increase the credit limit on an existing account, or obtain a new card on an existing account, the lender should takes steps to verify that you have authorized the request. If the creditor cannot verify this, the request should not be satisfied. You may also request one additional free credit file disclosure.

An extended fraud alert is similar to an initial 90 day alert, except that it lasts for 7 years, and to verify your request a creditor must contact you on the telephone number(s) you provide to Equifax when you requested the extended fraud alert. A valid police report showing that you have been a victim of identity theft is required to place an extended fraud alert. Also, you may request two additional free credit file disclosures, and your name is removed from prescreened offers of credit or insurance for 5 years."

TiaMariaandSpringCleaning · 02/05/2013 20:52

Wow. Hard to fathom how a parent could do that to their child. I agree with others, you really need to report this - your poor dh could be signed up to all sorts and liable for the lot if he doesn't.

MikeOxard · 02/05/2013 20:54

Bloody hell. What has the MIL said about it?

Dannilion · 02/05/2013 20:59

Well it turns out the account was opened recently when PIL's went into the branch to open an account in FIL's name. The account has no money in it and no transactions have been made yet

DH has just got off the phone to MIL, who explained that the girl doing it was 'in a rush', and only realized that she had opened it in DH's name right at the end. Apparently she assured PIL'S that she had cancelled it.

When asked how the bank had managed to obtain all DP's details like DOB etc, MIL was stumped but insulted we could think they'd stoop that low. Even though they were going to anyways Hmm

DH obviously wants to believe his parents. Me not so much.

OP posts:
cornyderpy · 02/05/2013 21:01

you know that's an absolute crock of shit? There is absolutely no way that could happen if they were using FIL's ID.

BerthaTheBogCleaner · 02/05/2013 21:02

So is DPs name the same as FILs then?

Definitely get mail forwarding so any post in dp's name sent to their address gets automatically sent on to you.

cozietoesie · 02/05/2013 21:03

Just how did she get DH's name then? Is it the same as his father's? (I'm not even going near the DOB and the other proofs of identity etc.)

cozietoesie · 02/05/2013 21:04

Check those credit reports, OP. I don't believe her.

FairhairedandFrustrated · 02/05/2013 21:05

This is awful :(

SolomanDaisy · 02/05/2013 21:06

Umm, what a load of bollocks. They went in to open the account they can't get cos of their bankruptcy? And the cashier accidentally opened it in the name of an entirely different person which just happened to be their son's name? Why would anyone believe that?

AudreyParker · 02/05/2013 21:07

This is serious. I really hope you go to the police.

CSIJanner · 02/05/2013 21:07

Your DH may want to believe his parents but he can request copies of the identifying documents used to open the account. If they've used his birth certificate, photo ID etc then they are clearly lying. If this is the case, then family or not, they will need to be reported for fraud as Santander will flag this up against your husband.

Am really sorry you're going through this when you should be enjoying your new baby Flowers Congrats btw

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