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To wonder if women don't get PMT/S anymore?

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LEMisdisappointed · 02/05/2013 10:06

I was laying awake in bed last night (as one does) with my nipples on fire, following a difficult few days emotionally. I have a mirena coil so i don't actually have periods and when i did have them they were irregular, but i did get horrendous PMT. But i was wonderin if my symptoms were PMT related.

Then it occured to me that i never notice any posts or threads about PMT on here - I'm having an abberation aren't i? but im here ALOT too much and i never notice anything in Active convos or any of the threads i read theres a lot of those too

Is it something that we don't talk about anymore? or is it i suspect this is more likely because im not visited by AF that i just don't pick up on it.

Its a bit of a feminist issue too, isn't it? goady

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ArthurCucumber · 02/05/2013 10:11

I'm sure I've seen a few mentions of it on here - certainly mentions of being "hormonal" crop up quite a lot.

What I don't like is when it's used to describe a woman (often by the woman herself) who is rightfully angry about something.

tungthai · 02/05/2013 10:13

I get it. After my second child my horrendous debilitating periods became pain free and manageable but were replaced with awful PMT which is a new thing for me. I feel bleurgh for 3 out of 4 weeks now.

TheSmallPrint · 02/05/2013 10:14

I don't get PMT but I do get cross at people being idiots and that's when I notice people like to accuse you of having it. It's like a woman is never allowed to be cross or upset unless it's hormonally related. Hmm

I am sure there are plenty of people who do suffer from it though. Just as there are many. many men whos lives are affected by their hormones.

TheSmallPrint · 02/05/2013 10:14

Can I ask why your nipples were on fire though? Grin

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LEMisdisappointed · 02/05/2013 10:18

You may ask, but alas i don't know - i think its, um, hormonal Grin My poor dog got launched from my lap last night for daring to put his paw on one - he's quite lucky he wasn't slam dunked tbh!

YES - to the annoyance "have you got PMT" my DP would be guilty of this, he doesn't say it anymore because he risks the following answers

  1. No, you are simply being a cunt
  2. Yes I have, now hold still while i saw your cock off with this breadknife

Its best not to ask

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Fakebook · 02/05/2013 10:18

I do. I get angry and lash out and become emotional over stupid things about a week before my period. When I'm pregnant I become laid back and happy for the whole 9 months.

Birdsgottafly · 02/05/2013 10:20

I don't think PMT is a feminist issue, more a female medical condition, unless it is used in an insulting, put down manner, which female health conditions often are. Most of my friends have found that their PMT has gotten better after pregnancy and as they get older, so perhaps that is why we don't see it bought up. Better contraception methods and information about how to manage hormone fluctuations,probably help. I agree that posters do say "hormones", which is a valid self observation, no different from recognising being tired, or stressed.

mrsjay · 02/05/2013 10:21

What I don't like is when it's used to describe a woman (often by the woman herself) who is rightfully angry about something.

I was angry with another woman on facebook she was being an idiot aparently she called me a middle aged menopausal hag I had deleted her, no love you were being an arsehole.

there is loads of PMT threads on here I have started a few myself in the past, I am always a bit Envy when i hear women say oh i get a little cranky the day before Grin

Callycat · 02/05/2013 12:57

Can't say my female friends ever mention it. I'm lucky in that I have never experienced it, and as it is never discussed in my circles I do wonder if it is a bit more rare than people (i.e. blokes who like to call PMT at every woman who argues with them {grin}) think.

ScumbagCollegeDropout · 02/05/2013 13:02

I've noticed it a lot more since becoming a lone parent.

I am definitely more irritable towards DD1 the week before my period, unfortunately.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 02/05/2013 13:04

I wish I didn't get it.

I think some people on here (including me) post when they have it in an errr robust manner

mrsjay · 02/05/2013 13:20

I actually dont speak to RL women about it I know you are real women but I like posting about it on here about it because even though it won't cure it sharing the looniness and pain of it does help for that few moments you are on a thread it shows that you are not alone

ShowMeTheYoni · 02/05/2013 13:24

I get really crabby a few days before. Then I turn into a 1950s housewife, clean and bake! Neither of which is like me. I am Jekyll and Hyde! I used to get awful pains and cramps, but this stopped immediately when I switched to a mooncup. I do get pmt as above but just carry on. The kids avoid me until I am at the baking stage Grin

Weegiemum · 02/05/2013 13:28

I don't get it any more (hooray for premature menopause!)

However, my 13 yo dd came in last week and said "mum I couldn't help it I had to have chocolate!" Then bit my head off 5 mins later when I asked about homework and music practice. Glad we're not getting it together!

meglet · 02/05/2013 13:45

My hormones are becoming a real problem now I'm tipping into the peri-menopause (am 39). It's so bad I'm starting to think I should be confined to the house on my own 2 days a month.

WTFisABooyhooISBooyhoo · 02/05/2013 13:49

i get really bad moods on the few days after my periods. it's horrible.

Molehillmountain · 02/05/2013 13:50

I can confirm that women still get it, as I went to the gp to get help with my raging irritability which occurs at precise times in my cycle. Luckily, I don't just have pmt, I get it when ovulation too and have about a week a month where I feel normal. Doc has put me on the pill. I, and all my family, really hope it works.

DionFortune · 02/05/2013 13:53

I feel like the world is ending every month, then am always surprised by the realisation that it may in fact, quite possibly be just my hormones.

Every time.

YoniOneWayOfLife · 02/05/2013 13:55

My hormones are becoming a real problem now I'm tipping into the peri-menopause (am 39). It's so bad I'm starting to think I should be confined to the house on my own 2 days a month. Yep, that's me. I would gladly go and live in a hut on a deserted island, and I'm just booking the ticket when my period starts and I realise why.

EmpressMaud · 02/05/2013 13:58

I get cramps and breast pain, other niggles and pain. Mood doesn't really seem to fluctuate, not that I've noticed.

HoneyDragon · 02/05/2013 14:03

I get it. I know I get it. Which means every week before my period I second guess everything as I don't trust my reactions.

My ds is nearly 10 and picks up on my general demeanour bless him, I have explained all about hormones and always apologise if I'm snappy, but my god, the rage I feel inside about minor things is vile Sad

TheYamiOfYawn · 02/05/2013 14:04

I get really bad PMT. It pretty much dominates my life, as for around a third of my adult life (apart from when pregnant and before my periods came back) I am properly depressed and have no energy. I can do various things to ease the symptoms, but they are always there, just quieter now.

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 02/05/2013 14:25

My mood doesn't fluctuate with it as it used to when I was younger, but I get awful anxiety, back pain, random limb pain and facial tingling.

I am currently on Day 2 of my period and starting to feel much much better.

YoniRanger · 02/05/2013 18:09

I have 2 days of dark black depression and seriously consider suicide. Every month.

I know it's PMT which is how I drag myself through it. I tend not to discuss it though.

StuntGirl · 02/05/2013 18:16

Oh god yoni :( Could you see a doctor about it? That sounds vile.

I get it every month. Horrid :(

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