Baby shower

[mrsjrob]

Hi today is my friends baby shower,I have never been to one so I wasn't sure what to buy ended up getting a baby blanket and clothes in a hamper type thing however last night I received a fb message from my friend with a list of a gifts she wants,cot, changing table,Moses basket etc and stated at the bottom "no clothes please" wibu to ignore this list and just give her what I have got.i can't really afford another present and everything on the list seems quite expensive and i happen to know that she is only having the shower because she doesn't have any money for baby equipment,which she has had 9 months to buy.thanks

Can't believe people are so grabby as to ask for a cot and changing table!!

My parents bought a beautiful changing unit for DS but it was a surprise, I would never have asked for it and was so so grateful.

YANBU to give the gift you have bought, it sounds lovely.

I hate it when people do this as it makes baby showers all grabby. I had one and just wanted an excuse to see all my friends at once.
I bought food and cake which I paid for and cooked myself.
A few people asked what to buy but I said no thanks to presents, some people did anyway and I was greatful, they were gifts like clothes.
A cot is a huge gift that a generous grandparent might buy.
I would not bother going to her shower and tell her why, everyone else who is invited is probably just as missed off.

Pissed off!

Baby showers are the ultimate in counting your chickens before they hatch and twee silliness as it is.