Baby shower

[mrsjrob]

Hi today is my friends baby shower,I have never been to one so I wasn't sure what to buy ended up getting a baby blanket and clothes in a hamper type thing however last night I received a fb message from my friend with a list of a gifts she wants,cot, changing table,Moses basket etc and stated at the bottom "no clothes please" wibu to ignore this list and just give her what I have got.i can't really afford another present and everything on the list seems quite expensive and i happen to know that she is only having the shower because she doesn't have any money for baby equipment,which she has had 9 months to buy.thanks

[therumoursaretrue]

Can't believe people are so grabby as to ask for a cot and changing table!!

My parents bought a beautiful changing unit for DS but it was a surprise, I would never have asked for it and was so so grateful.

YANBU to give the gift you have bought, it sounds lovely.

[BiteTheTopsOffIcedGems]

I hate it when people do this as it makes baby showers all grabby. I had one and just wanted an excuse to see all my friends at once.
I bought food and cake which I paid for and cooked myself.
A few people asked what to buy but I said no thanks to presents, some people did anyway and I was greatful, they were gifts like clothes.
A cot is a huge gift that a generous grandparent might buy.
I would not bother going to her shower and tell her why, everyone else who is invited is probably just as missed off.

[BiteTheTopsOffIcedGems]

Pissed off!

[expatinscotland]

Baby showers are the ultimate in counting your chickens before they hatch and twee silliness as it is.