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WIBU to mention this to the nursery?

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catgirl1976 · 27/04/2013 15:57

DS is 17 months

He goes to nursery twice a week and has started saying 'Hiya' when he sees other people or children

I know it's a not the biggest deal in the world but it makes me a bit itchy and I know he's not picked it up anywhere else

Would mentioning it make me look like a total twunt? I haaaate it :(

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ShipwreckedAndComatose · 27/04/2013 16:08

Ae you saying this nursery is..... common!!

Shock Hmm

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catgirl1976 · 27/04/2013 16:08

But I do like the jazz hands idea Grin

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VinegarDrinker · 27/04/2013 16:08

I tend to greet people (casually) with "hey" or "alright?"- I assume this is To Be Frowned On too?

Groovee · 27/04/2013 16:09

I much prefer Hiya. Must be the common in me as a nursery nurse!

I taught my son ta! Someone told me that it was so common. My child said Ta at the right times. Early start of manners!! Unlike her child who still doesn't say please or thank you at 11!

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catgirl1976 · 27/04/2013 16:09

And roller is right they probably wouldn't and couldn't do anything (except laugh at me)

In fairness though, they told me off for saying 'bum shuffling' as 'we don't say 'bum' here, we say 'bottom' Confused Hmm Grin

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TidyDancer · 27/04/2013 16:10

What's actually wrong with hiya?! Why would you correct it?!

And he won't grow out of it. He'll pick up some more harmless speech like this as well.

He's your PFB isn't he?

UniqueAndAmazing · 27/04/2013 16:10

I do get pissed off when people say "ta" to DD though - especially when they say it when they mean "please" (as in, they put their hand out for something and say "ta?" when they could just say "please may i have that?" like normal bloody people do. Hmm
babies say "ta", not adults.

UniqueAndAmazing · 27/04/2013 16:11

(and I think it confuses the baby - how do they know which is please and which is thank you if you say ta when you mean please?)

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catgirl1976 · 27/04/2013 16:12

He is Tidy Blush

I just personally don't like 'Hiya' or 'Ta'

I don't mind other people using it, just not my PFB Blush

He can say 'fank oo' so I'm alright there.... Blush

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clippityclop · 27/04/2013 16:14

When he says it to you, respond with 'hello' a very determined voice! It would irritate me too. And as for 'ta', I nipped that in the bud ASAP. We don't have bums either. Nothing against those who do, mind...

TidyDancer · 27/04/2013 16:15

Don't worry, catgirl. We've all had those moments. :)

You just need to make sure you think with a normal perspective rather than a PFB perspective if you're thinking of saying anything like this!

You will have to accept you won't be able to stop this though. And it will get even better when he starts school. Grin

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catgirl1976 · 27/04/2013 16:16

MN is my filter Tidy

I can pre-check my twunty level before acting

It's lucky as it it would I appear I was registering high on the twuntometer on this one, so MN has saved me from going publicly full-twunt Grin

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ShipwreckedAndComatose · 27/04/2013 16:17

You're welcome Wink

UniqueAndAmazing · 27/04/2013 16:18
Grin

i know that DD picked up thank you and not ta because she's heard it in the shop - my customers and I say it each about 8000000000000 times per transaction. that's how i know it's not ta.
that's how i know it's developmental.

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catgirl1976 · 27/04/2013 16:20

Plus had just returned from the park where he was doing it non-stop and I said

'No Tristan, it's 'hello' and another mum gave me a proper [hm] look

So I was a) hating him saying it because he'd done it about 100 times and b) concerned for my twuntyness given the look the other mum gave me

But I'm glad you've cleared up I am being a PFB muppet :)

I shall try to rein myself in Grin

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YoniOneWayOfLife · 27/04/2013 16:21

in the park once a completely bonkers another mum dragged her 3 year old over to me to apologise for his bad language. He'd said hey to me, as in "hey, that looks fun" - and she made him apologise and then apologised profusely to me while I stood there all Shock Hmm [pfb] I should have said "hey, that's alright"

OutragedFromLeeds · 27/04/2013 16:23

The fact that it bothers you makes you a twunt, yes. You don't just look like one, you are one when you start correcting a 17 month old for saying hiya.

BeerTricksPotter · 27/04/2013 16:23

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digerd · 27/04/2013 16:25

Aahh, so cute " Fank oo", and I think Hiya is the advanced form of Hi, which I get on my e-mails from adults . Be proud of him, he sounds a lovely little boy. Smile

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catgirl1976 · 27/04/2013 16:25

Yoni Shock

I wouldn't mind 'hey'......it sounds pretty laid back :)

And yes.......it could be 'awreet'

Or 'oi, oi!' Grin

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catgirl1976 · 27/04/2013 16:26

Thanks digerd he is pretty lovely

not that I have raing PFBitis, oh no :)

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ppeatfruit · 27/04/2013 16:27

seriously cat if you start 'correcting' him at home he'll know it winds you up and say it more (maybe not now he's very young but definitely later on) I would suggest you go with the flow.

Children are actually personalities apart from you you can't mould them into what you want them to say and do believe me.

Sirzy · 27/04/2013 16:27

You are going to correct a 17 month old for saying "hiya"? seriously?

UniqueAndAmazing · 27/04/2013 16:28

oh, yeah, don't correct him, just make sure you say the right word.

ie:
DS "Hiya"
CG "hello DS!"

ShipwreckedAndComatose · 27/04/2013 16:29

Least he's being friendly and polite!

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