To be exhausted by constant competetiveness from some people?

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Ok I am not anti-competetion and I think that a proper 1st, 2nd and 3rd is good but it is the petty one-upmanship between everday folk that gets to me:
Competetive parenting, gardening, homeownership, smugness, bullying, competetive misery, bitchyness, wieght-loss gain, clothes labels etc. Everyone just STOOOOOOOOP!
Can't stop the course of human nature I guess but OMG sometimes it just gets a bit wearing.

I think I may be more exhausted by this than you are, actually. ;-)

I think I have become immune to it as I got older TBH. CBA.

I would like to add workplace politics and trolling to teh list of competetive pursuits.

I'd reply in detail, but since I'm better at you than everything, it would just upset you.

Ahahaha notquite, v good

The clothes labels mean nothing to me. I wouldn't spot anything designer. Plus cars. They all look the same to me-I have no idea what is a 'good' car.

I pity the showoff competative people.

Thank goodness someone else is feeling the same about all this competitiveness - budge up on the sofa :)

I loathe and detest it in any shape or form. My tolerance level is going down. I think I might turn into one of these old ladies who speaks her mind

I usually say something anti-competitive that is so shocking the person doesn't want to engage with me.

"Look at my new amazing designer shoes!"
"They're nice. Look at mine - I stole them from a nursing home!"

"I built a miniature Eiffel Tower with DD using toothpicks, it was such an amazing bonding experience."
"Good for you! I'm usually too drunk to play with my DC!"

youdontwin i just guffawed at nursing home shoes

I tend to ignore competitive parents because they are still not as fabulous as me haha it screams of insecurity to keep banging on.

I burst with pride when the kids do something well/for the first time especially ds as he is just lovely but after the initial 'yey' i don't need to rub it in every other parents face!

Obvious competitive parenting I treat with the contempt it deserves. But there is a fair amount of very stealthy competitive parenting which I find hard to deal with such as one I had the other day: "has dd started classes in (her dad's first language)? Our two have started learning xxx." The response this ridiculous stealth boast deserved: "she is two, ffs" seemed a little harsh for a friend.
It's when it's couched as a question or as concern that its tricky... Harder to be aggressive about it.

I work with a girl so competitive that I come home drained every day. Everything is a competition to her. It backfired on her recently though because she got into an argument with a colleague about who had the biggest head, which she won, and then realised that it wasn't really a victory!

Love the "nursing home" shoes comment!

I had a friend like this once - she competed over everything including who had the prettiest cat (WTF???) and the most active sex life (constant boasting and way too much information!).

It came to a head when she got pg with twins four months after I got pg with DS1 - she competed on who was having the most babies/hardest pg/most exciting pg, etc.

Dropped her after that.

I have the prettiest cat. So there.
Not that I'm competitive or anything

I find this exhausting too! I usually just respond with something nice like "yes, your new designer shoes/ bag/ promotion/ house/ car/ holiday home/ boat is lovely :-D" and change the subject.

I am laughing loudly at nursing home shoes, being too drunk to play with the kids, and the prettiest cat!

I've known a few uber competitive people and they really annoy me. Someone on a forum I go on is very competitive. Every post is about how much money she has, and everything she buys has to be the most expensive. It's boring.

No MostPeople it's me that has the prettiest cat. Pic on profile-where is your pic?

Yes, I fight back the urge to say in response to those people

'well, yeah, my dad's bigger than your dad and he earns a squillion pounds-so there!'

In Rick Mayall style.

Or 'considerably richer than yow' Harry Enfield stylee.

Oh I know what you mean!! Years ago I distanced myself from a friend who did this constantly. After several years we are back in touch and I'm hoping he has changed a bit, it was so wearing!!

DH had a work colleague who was relentlessly competitive. I just think that deep down these people are not very happy, satisfied, centred. So it doesn't really annoy me.

Don't join in then!

Or maybe I don't know any

I have a theory that Cornwall is the least competitive place in the country.

I've found No one gives a shiny shit about designer shoes or new cars, I've found. It's very refreshing.

my county is better than your county

I don't think I do at the moment Hester. I haven't been boasted at lately at all. Everyone has been lovely. Perhaps they are boasting behind my back.