AIBU?
To be exhausted by constant competetiveness from some people?
superstarheartbreaker · 25/04/2013 19:04
Ok I am not anti-competetion and I think that a proper 1st, 2nd and 3rd is good but it is the petty one-upmanship between everday folk that gets to me:
Competetive parenting, gardening, homeownership, smugness, bullying, competetive misery, bitchyness, wieght-loss gain, clothes labels etc. Everyone just STOOOOOOOOP!
Can't stop the course of human nature I guess but OMG sometimes it just gets a bit wearing.
YouDontWinFriendsWithSalad · 25/04/2013 19:13
I usually say something anti-competitive that is so shocking the person doesn't want to engage with me.
"Look at my new amazing designer shoes!"
"They're nice. Look at mine - I stole them from a nursing home!"
"I built a miniature Eiffel Tower with DD using toothpicks, it was such an amazing bonding experience."
"Good for you! I'm usually too drunk to play with my DC!"
OneFingerSjupesUpTheYoni · 25/04/2013 19:27
youdontwin i just guffawed at nursing home shoes 
I tend to ignore competitive parents because they are still not as fabulous as me haha it screams of insecurity to keep banging on.
I burst with pride when the kids do something well/for the first time especially ds as he is just lovely 
but after the initial 'yey' i don't need to rub it in every other parents face!
quesadilla · 25/04/2013 21:13
Obvious competitive parenting I treat with the contempt it deserves. But there is a fair amount of very stealthy competitive parenting which I find hard to deal with such as one I had the other day: "has dd started classes in (her dad's first language)? Our two have started learning xxx." The response this ridiculous stealth boast deserved: "she is two, ffs" seemed a little harsh for a friend.
It's when it's couched as a question or as concern that its tricky... Harder to be aggressive about it.
SingingSands · 25/04/2013 21:20
I work with a girl so competitive that I come home drained every day. Everything is a competition to her. It backfired on her recently though because she got into an argument with a colleague about who had the biggest head, which she won, and then realised that it wasn't really a victory!
Love the "nursing home" shoes comment!
DomesticCEO · 25/04/2013 21:23
I had a friend like this once - she competed over everything including who had the prettiest cat (WTF???) and the most active sex life (constant boasting and way too much information!).
It came to a head when she got pg with twins four months after I got pg with DS1 - she competed on who was having the most babies/hardest pg/most exciting pg, etc.
Dropped her after that. 
doritosmonster · 25/04/2013 21:42
I am laughing loudly at nursing home shoes, being too drunk to play with the kids, and the prettiest cat!
I've known a few uber competitive people and they really annoy me. Someone on a forum I go on is very competitive. Every post is about how much money she has, and everything she buys has to be the most expensive. It's boring.
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