To go on a sex strike

[SkinnyLove]

Last night, over a drunken meal with chums, dh stated that The Scent of a Wooooman is "the worst smell in the entire world" and that he hates oral sex.

AIBU to go on a sex strike? I was really annoyed at the time as it feel as though every time he has deigned, its just been out of a sense of duty. And obvy, now i feel like a smelly hobag to boot. Plus we've been married for years, so any comment about that area feels like a dig at me!

Unfortunately ive married the arse, so think i might follow FA guidelines and just stick him on a ban.

hairtearing how many vaginas have you smelt in comparisson to yours? If its many then fair enough.

But if it isnt, you simply cannot tell me my fanny doesnt smell nice because it does.

I quite believe yours doesnt smell nice, but that is yours. Not mine.

SkinnyLove please give yourself a break, you've not long given birth, posy c.section. You dont need to be thinking about dropping loads of weight or changing back, you need to concentrate on your baby, your general well being and happiness, and giving your husband a bit of an ear bashing.

He did look like an arse, and I hope it's really out of character...

That sort of remark can really hurt, as hairy grotter demonstrated.

if it's really what he thinks, and not just said drunkenly or for affect, its him who has the 'issues' and not you.

Best of luck.

racheael what. The. Fuck?

skinny- for Gods sake do not listen to a poster who cannot spell 'her' own name.

Goodness me!

I'm not sure I would ever want to be with someone who obviously loathes women so much tbh. I would find it very very hard to get over a comment like that, especially as it was a public one.

I realise that is the most unhelpful post ever but I am stunned.

racheal I don't even know where to start with your post!

Rachael if that's how your relationship works then :(

racheael what kind of men do you consort with? I feel sorry for you if this is the reality in your world.

OP your DH was an arse, I hope you guys can get past this. Don't call yourself a fat bitch either, you've just had a baby fgs.

And mine smells great, if anyone cares .

Given 30% of married couples stray and presumably a third of mumsnetters and their husbands I suspect racheael's post has some sense in it.

I dont need to be pressured or blackmailed into sex, thankyou very much!
I dont much fancy it though, understandably!

Fidelity is a massive issue with us both and we prize our relationship. I am secure in that, if not how he sees me sexually right now. Oh, he can just cock off tbh.

You're being pretty reasonable I reckon.

Confession. I'm a guy. I read your first post and was pretty horrified and thought a male perspective might help. Forget the sex strike, that's just silly and aggravating a situation but definitely tell him what an idiot he's been and make clear that no matter how pissed he may get, that's not ok.

Women have different 'scents' - stronger or less regardless of how much they wash, etc. It's just the way it is. None are unpleasant when actually clean so it really sounds like your other half just needs to get over his own issues.

And ignore racheael. If that's a bloke is like then, you've got bigger issues than a stupid comment he's made.

My minge doesn't smell :/

Just not a fragrant area. me think some posters doth protest too much, some posters are being a bit overly nasty to me, I was making a general comment not a nasty one.

"I was making a general comment not a nasty one."

Your "general" comment was that all women's vaginas smell disgusting.

That is a very nasty thing to say.

And untrue.

Does it make you feel better to imagine all women smell as offensive as you obviously do?

Doth protest too much?

Really?

It was you who pressed the fact that your vagina doesnt smell pleasant and tried to tar as all with the same unpleasant brush.

I was simply trying to explain to you, that you cannot assume mine smells unpleasant just because yours does.

I was not being nasty at all.

I'm kind of intrigued by a "sex strike" weeks after having a baby.

Umm, hair tearing, I don't think anyone's been nasty to you. The thing is, you seem to have an issue with your fanny...

"nobody smells nice down there,just nobody does.." and "fannies don't smell nice, I can't imagine arguing otherwise,"

and you seem to expect everyone else to feel the same. Many of us don't.

Fannies only smell bad when the owner has some kind of infection/imbalance, like vaginosis.
Sometimes you go in a public toilet, and it REEKS and you want to yell "Oi! You in the next stall! It's not supposed to smell like that you know!"
Maybe, because of the age-old schoolboy insult about fish etc, some women think that a bad smell is normal hairtearing.
But, yeah, normal healthy fanjos smell fine-a slightly salty/musky lady-smell.
I think your husband was being a tactless know OP, and you should only ever have sex if you feel like it, which now obvs, you don't.
I actually couldn't stay with a man who didn't like giving head. It's my actual favorite thing. I have actually canned men for being "meh" about it.

That's "canned" as in "fired" btw, not caned. I have rarely had to cane anyone.

I was back in the saddle three weeks after csection. My choice. Felt great.
:)

Lol oh dear I at no point said disgusting , I don't, stink at all i imagine ill get Dp to report back ! but I have waxed many a lady and even clean looking women can be a bit phwoar,many vary.
It doesn't have to be an infection, a hot day does not bode well in my line.

I'd be so upset.

And it would really put me off oral sex with him for a long time. How could I enjoy myself when I'm worrying that he hates my fanjo?

Anyway sorry if I have derailed OP! Hope you feel happier soon.

Blimey . what a thread.
I am not sure I smell that great. Infact I know I don't. But dh says he loves it, so I assume all is o.k.

lots of comments from my post -i am just being honest many men cheat.think about the famous people who have been in stip clubs caught with/been with protitutes a lot of them their wife partner forgive.its living in a life wrapped in cotton wool if you believe nobody has affairs or cheats.i know my husband has been in strip "gentlemans "clubs when he is away with work .he has a high flying jobs and they are taken out by other companies to earn bussiness deals its usually a meal and drinks.men do these things its life .why is there nothing out there for us ladies!not that i would want to i love my nights in on the sofa in front of tv.
in life 2 wrongs dont make a right.so dont refuse sex have high standards and rise above.dont lower yourself to the same standards you are better then that.talk to your husband he probably regrets and sorry talk in future ask him to be more tactful and have a proffesional reserved manner rather than a rough outspoken dont mince words attitude and follow the rules=== always treat others how you would like to be treated yourself -if you havent got anything nice to say ,dont say it at all. is he usually smooth,reserved and polite or rough ,rugged ,speak your mind bloke is it out of character?if you are married has he always been like this or has he recently changed?

Ohhhh, that kind of hairtearing :o