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Original poster

To not help my son look after his baby?

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SPsYoniTheOneAndOnly · 23/04/2013 10:33

This is my first AIBU thread so go easy.

He has a baby and I refuse to help him out. He decided to have this baby so all responsibility is his in my eyes.

The baby is currently naked with only a hat on and he feeds her every 10 minutes but she drinks the whole bottle! All she does is cry and laugh.

He has asked me to look after her but I wont. He seems to think this isn't fair and shouts 'oh why?' The mother isn't on the scene either and the baby has only been with him a couple of months.

She is currently wrapped up in a car mat as he thinks this is an acceptable bed. Should I intervene now or leave baby where she is?

My son is young but he wanted the baby so I think he should look after her. He has named her Baby which I'm not sure goes down well on MN.

So AIBU or should I help out a little?

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SPsYoniTheOneAndOnly · 23/04/2013 13:01

I had a doll once. I put it in my blow up back pack (stylish) and hid it under the bed as it did my head in.

Baby is on the naughty step! No idea why but I can hear him telling her to say sorry and she can play. He then came and asked me for dinner but baby cant have any.

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SPsYoniTheOneAndOnly · 23/04/2013 13:02

Ready I know! If I was going to troll Id have changed my name and thought of something better. I'm a little hurt they think I couldn't do any better Grin

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Tee2072 · 23/04/2013 13:05

Must try harder, SP!

You've let me down, you've let yourself down but, most importantly of all, you've let the Trolls down...

Oopla · 23/04/2013 13:19

*Sirboob*absolutely HOWLING at having to be tunip Grin

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SPsYoniTheOneAndOnly · 23/04/2013 13:19

Not one person even asked how old my son was Tee Isn't it protocols to ask ages? Grin

Nothing was a lie and I was accused of been a troll. It hurt deep

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quoteunquote · 23/04/2013 13:24

I fear for my grandchildren,

I once caught one of my DC taking a velcro nappy off baby, and saying ,'naughty baby, you pooie bott bott', and then making the dog lick the baby.

I did think it a slightly genius solution.

gordyslovesheep · 23/04/2013 13:26

Dd 3 keeps her 14 babies in a box most of the time ...none have had their jabs although they do get od'd on calpol daily ...she has been known to leave them unattended in a bath overnight

Ledkr · 23/04/2013 13:30

Dds babies all have pierced ears (dressmaking pins) and wear make up from birth. T
She brushes their hair until they are nearly bald and then forgets about them for weeks.

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SPsYoniTheOneAndOnly · 23/04/2013 13:31

Ledkr She sounds like a brilliant mother. Least she doesn't over feed them Grin

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nannyof3 · 23/04/2013 13:34

The baby needs u!!!

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 23/04/2013 13:35

Quoteunquote - that sounds like a very environmentally friendly option - your dc is a genius! Patent the idea now, while they are still too young to realise.

PickledInAPearTree · 23/04/2013 13:36

Maybe I should get ds a doll. He might stop sitting on my actual baby then!

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SPsYoniTheOneAndOnly · 23/04/2013 13:37

Nanny Its fine as it is. Car mat looks quite comfy

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MrsJohnHarrison · 23/04/2013 13:37

Haha at the folk who didn't realise! DDs baby doesn't even have a name, is naked and burps and farts way more than normal. Maybe it's all the cereal but no milk?

FeckOffCup · 23/04/2013 13:38

My granddaughter is called Pear and gets a dummy shoved in her gob whenever she's not drinking a bottle. She also regularly gets taken in the car without being strapped into a carseat and often falls on the floor going round corners.

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SPsYoniTheOneAndOnly · 23/04/2013 13:40

Feck Is she carried by her arm?

These young parents all seem to parent the same. Maybe its how it should really be done

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PickledInAPearTree · 23/04/2013 13:42

You should teach him to breastfeed. I keep finding ds trying to express with my breast pump and looking confused.

quoteunquote · 23/04/2013 13:46

GDTG brilliant, Grin

they also had green pen rubbed all over as sunblock, even when I pointed out that it wouldn't come off, they applied it to the others, unlike my stupid parenting, they only had to do it once, where as I do it all the time,

Their babies use to be left floating face down in the bath every night, and all day in the paddling pool naked, this was called swimming, SS didn't seemed concerned, my next door neighbour is a head teacher, she could clearly see the pool from her house, she never mentioned it to anyone.

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SPsYoniTheOneAndOnly · 23/04/2013 13:52

Baby is laid on sofa with a heavy book on her head. Hes so gentle with her

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FeckOffCup · 23/04/2013 13:53

Pear is generally carried by a leg or the back of the babygro.

SirBoobAlot · 23/04/2013 14:09

Randall that made me Grin Hope you've got the money for the therapy he will need Wink

Tortington · 23/04/2013 14:13

it took me a good 5 mins of reading before I figured out that this is a toy.

I was quite distressed until then tbh. so fail to now see any humour

RandallPinkFloyd · 23/04/2013 14:14

I fear it's something I'm going to have to seriously consider.

I'm a constant disappointment to him but he looked more confused and hurt by this than he did when I smacked him in the face with the Hoover.

Limelight · 23/04/2013 14:23

I have MUCH sympathy OP. My DD is shameful.

Her warped sense of good exercise for her babies is to pile them on top of each other in the pushchair (not fastened in mind, and no sign of any developmental buggy toys). She pushes the pushchair at top speed the length of the house until it hits the backdoor step and the poor loves fly out into the garden.

I do wonder what the neighbours think when they have naked babies flying past their windows.

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SPsYoniTheOneAndOnly · 23/04/2013 14:30

lime No developmental toys either. She falls out of the pram and he blames her though he forgot to fasten it. Sometimes I want to step in but decide not to as shes his responsibility

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