to think that people who use cloth nappies act superior to those who use disposables?

[DearJohnLoveSavannah]

I think I've just noticed this more because apparently it's National Nappy Week right now.

I have a friend of a friend who is always putting up photos on FaceBook about cloth nappies - such as the birth to potty ratio of how many disposable nappies one baby goes through, or the latest cloth nappy she has just bought.

When she was at the same children's birthday party she gave people a demonstration on how to use them too.

I think it is fine to educate people and promote being more eco friendly, but she does it with such superiority that I feel if I got a disposable nappy out I would be extremely judged.

I have another friend who is like this, but less extreme.

Very willing to be told AIBU - because I'm just basing this one two people.

(Also sorry for posting in AIBU twice in one day)

YANBU. For a lot of people who use reusable nappies, it's a lifestyle choice! It's so cringeworthy when they are sharing photos of their "stash" on Facebook etc.. I'm sure they will look back in a few years and be mortified about how much they went on and on about it!

Also, every baby I've come across who wears cloth nappies has a huge out of proportion bum, looks uncomfortable and smells of stale wee.

The clothed bum crew are obsessed by their purchase,worst extremes of consumerism
Bragging,blogging and tweeting about priduct they buy,its v self obsessed
Yet they're the type who are likely to try be right on baby wearers its all i shop therefore i am

I think it's a bit unhygienic having all those nappy buckets around the house. But as for acting superior I can't think of anything superior about either type.

Its the bragginess of it,i mean who posts a pampers picture,the celebration of shopping

I use cloth nappies. I don't mention it unless someone asks a question. I'm still using the same ones I had for DC1 (aside from some top ups where some had reached the end of their life span) and I have never shared photos on Facebook or anywhere else of my nappies or specifically of my baby in nappies (though there may have been some on hot days where the baby is only in t-shirt and nappy, just as other friends do).

I also find it weird when people say they smell. Personally I find most disposable nappy brands revolting smelling. I guess it's individual.

I think that there are an awful lot of 'normal' cloth users out there. You just get tossers of all nappy dispositions.

Facebook photos?! Nappy buckets everywhere?!

Yes, well, that's just ostentatious & unnecessary, like doing a special dance routine when you blow your nose.

I just wrapped a piece of cloth round the back end of my offspring, then removed it when soggy, rinsed it down the loo if shitty, & chucked it in the washing machine...

I once met a mother superior who introduced her baby gluteus maximus stating he's cloth bummed you know

I'm just far too self-absorbed to notice what kind of nappies other people's children wear.

My baby wears cloth. He doesn't smell. Neither does my house.

YABU but I do find calling disposables 'paper nappies' utterly wanky.

Even'sposies is a bit annoying too.

It's the same as over zealous sling users going on about crotch danglers to describe narrow based carriers, instead of offering polite advice on more ergonomic ones.

No need to be superior about these things.

I speak as a mildly obsessive sling user with a wee one in disposables.

People can be smug about all kinds of stuff. At least this is about something parents have a choice about doing or not. It's when people shudder and say "I'd never have a C-section" that annoys me because I'm pretty sure that if it's a choice between C-section or stillbirth then everyone would choose C-section. (derails thread)

I will add plastic nappies as also an utterly wanky term after reading this thread.

I use the biodegradable ones, only because the DC have nappy rash with standard types.

I did think about washables, but to be honest it seems to much work for me. In hindsight I'd have considered a nappy service to pick up and clean them, too late now!

I once got invited to a sling meet,i was mortified they thought id be interested

I've not been to one yet Scottish, but I fear I'd be shunned for not having any £100+ rare woven wraps. My slings are more in the affordable category. . .

Reusables aren't hard work, I'm embarrasingly lazy and I don't find them any extra work vs chucking disposables in the bin

They aren't particularly fascinating though, I can't understand why anyone turns it into a topic of discussion. I just get on with it. I studied waste disposal /landfill at university so it was a no brainer for me.

I line dry mine and they are beautifully white and fresh smelling after.

I don't use them at night though, I find disposables last better.

I loved using cloth nappies on mine. I chose to use them partly because of the cost and partly because I wanted to reduce the amount of chemicals my babies were exposed to. I don't think I've ever initiated a conversation about cloth nappies but I have probably been slightly evangelical about them when on the receiving end of critical and mis-informed comments.

I couldn't afford to use disposables so that's why I used cloth ones. I got pregnant young and we didn't have much money so it was proper terry nappies handed down from a family member for me. I don't think I acted superior about it though, I wouldn't get the chance with all the people sneering at me for having a baby before I could legally vote.

Wow this old thread is full of ignorance and misinformation. Maybe the reason cloth nappy mammys are all in your face about using them is because of all the old myths. There is no contact with shit, it goes in the toilet where it can be treated. If you look on disposables packaging it says that shit should be flushed.

Also need to comment on the people that have tried it and gave up, there's a reason behind most problems. Smelly, rashes, leaking, it's not the nappies fault. It's how your washing them. And some rashes are inevitable unless you know as soon as baby pee, teething pee is acidic so will burn if left too long. Don't blame the nappies. I do not spent all my time scraping shit. I don't even touch shit. I do not have a stinky baby. I do not have a house full of wet nappies hanging up. I don't not do loads of extra washing. You don't need any special creams, washing powder, or any old fashioned soak stuff. You don't soak them at all. You can't wash most above 60 so none of that waste of energy shit. What temperature do you thing the plastic in disposables has to get to to form the beads that absorb the pee?

I think mammys that talk about cloth nappies are trying to get the word out there

See there the thing,i dont want to hear someone braying the word.or preaching
I don't need an eco lesson in nappies,or getting some hippy getting the word out
Someone eulogising about their purchases as if they're dead worthy is crushingly dull

Ignorance and closed minds

No closed mind.i simply don't want to hear someone bragging about their purchases
Its grating,to eulogise about ones purchases.and whilst it may suit some,its not for all
I dont need to get the word out there about my purchases

You will come across a few posts on mn about people getting the word out about their purchases. Either incase others didn't know about them or in the case that some had assumed wrongly to their mechanics, maintenance or running cost. It's positive to review worthwhile products. I don't see any reusable nappy ads on tv, who else is going to do it if not the users

I regularly get my poor MiL to check DS reusables don't smell of old piss. ( she also tells me if my house has a doggy aroma from my pooch) Anyone who has clean nappies that smell are going wrong somewhere with their washing method.
I have a 'friend' in FB who regularly posts photos of her dd 'flashing the fluff' and of her stash after a good 'stuffing session' . She is also a baby wearer that regularly updates us all with pics from her meets

We used cloth nappies with all three DCs, good old Motherease. They are virtually indestructible - the DS1's nappies are still going strong on DD3. I admit it does make me smug, but not for environmental reasons :) I feel a warm glow inside me just thinking of all those thousands of pounds which did not get spent [on disposable nappies]. I did the maths 7 years ago and back then the cost of disposables birth to potty was around £3k mark for one child! This is presuming that you do change regularly and not 4 times a day as some disposable users on here would (eek). Newborns poo frequently and for bigger babies teething poo can be very irritating to skin. I really cannot see how anybody would use only 4 nappies a day without baby's skin going sore.

The good thing with re-useables is changing more frequently does not cost you anything. As previous posters said, it is not difficult, it is more about routine. My washing machine washes the nappies for me, all I need to do is put them on the line to dry. Never used softener or nappy soak or bleach. There is no need. You also need to use a lot less detergent that the manufacturer would "recommend", as the fabric loses its softness due to a detergent build-up caused by the excessive amount of washing powder.

I might sound evangelical, but I absolutely love my cloth nappies. And I love the amount of money these pretty things have saved me over the years!

Why would you presume disposables mean 4 per a day?its as and when needed
Are yiu suggesting you avoid sire bum(as you put it) but disposable users limit to 4?
I recall changing nappies every 3hours