to take back everything we bought my daughter?

[WestieMamma]

My beautiful, kind, gentle daughter (19) has just been dumped by her boyfriend of 4 years :(. They've been living together for the last year in a town about a 2 hour drive away. She rang me yesterday evening in a terrible state so we went and collected her and her cat and brought them home.

Her stepdad wants to go back as soon as he can to collect the rest of her belongings including all the things he bought her when she moved out to help them set up home together, which means pretty much everything except the sofa and the tv. Do you think this is ok?

I agree with many of the other OP. if you/she bought it then you should collect it all ASAP. Ask him if he'd like the bed (either buy it or give it to him, your choice) but don't leave it too long.

Fair enough TidyDancer.

But personally I don't understand how your post was jovial, or meant to offer support.

I must be suffering from joviality failure. Best I move on.

Well I'm sorry you misunderstood. Have a nice evening. :)

I think your dd and her ex need time to sort this out for themselves. Surely there's no hurry and if the split is just sad rather than acrimonious I think there's no need to go in all guns blazing to take back what's yours/hers. The op gave the stuff to them as a couple. They don't belong to the op anymore and if the dd really wants thngs back she needs to speak to her ex about it nce she's in a calmer frame of mind.

I think if your daughter is old enough and adult enough to be in a relationship and live with her partner, then she is old enough and adult enough to decide herself if and when she wants to go and pick up stuff that was given to them to help them set up home together.

Give her a few days to get over the initial shock and upset and have an adult discussion with her ex about his they're going to split their belongings.