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to hate where i live

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likesnowflakesinanocean · 12/04/2013 16:14

just had to pull the kids in from the park as went past to shop and theres 6 or 7 kids screamung across the park swearing every second word threatening to kick the head in of another child. calling each other every name. politely suggest they dont swear at my kids, get told your not my fucking mum ill swear when i wantAngry everyone round here knows everybodys buisness and gossips about it constantly. we dont fit in, at all and its so lonely and depressing. we have been falsely reported for all sorts and its getting so wearing, want to pack my bags, give my keys in and head to somewhere new but cant afford too. Sad

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Wannabestepfordwife · 12/04/2013 16:43

Yanbu do you live in my hometown lol? Seriously I understand living in an awful area and feeling on edge all the time.

What sort of propert are you in is it mortgaged or rented or ha?

If people are making false allegations about you have you thought about keeping a diary of all dates and what was said to give to the police or la to see if there's a case for harrassment.

Is it just you and dc or do you have a dp

ImTooHecsyForYourParty · 12/04/2013 16:47

How much do you need to move and is there any way you can start a savings account? Even if it's just £5 a month, you may find some comfort in knowing that you're saving to get the hell out of there!

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likesnowflakesinanocean · 12/04/2013 16:49

do you live in cheshire Grin have dp and dc, its ha housing but cant swap as everyone trying to get out. cant afford private rent atm, i love our house just wish i could drop it in a nearby field. its like shameless nice to you one minute reporting you and gossiping about you the the next. diary a good idea have been doing recently due to reported for bullshit reasons. Sad makes me sad that i tag around after dcs but i dont trust the estate. not that it helps me being there i get it worse than the kids usually. thanks for letting me vent. my dp vouldnt give a rats that people dont like us but i am more sensitive Grin

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likesnowflakesinanocean · 12/04/2013 16:50

we are totally skint at the minute but its a good idea for when things ease up

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holeinmytights · 12/04/2013 17:00

I sympathize. We live in a similar situation. Didn't realise before we moved that other inhabitants of out street were so awful, seemed like a nice quiet place. Horrific, rude, violent swearing brats. Worst in summer. Play in the park opposite till late shouting and swearing and throwing things and waking our baby. So embarrassing having people round with litter everywhere. Not much.advice, just to say I feel your pain.

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likesnowflakesinanocean · 12/04/2013 17:06

ah if we were rich we could start our own estate. im a nice neighbour, i lend stuff, bake. have bbqs and like my garden. ill even have small children for the day and feed them long as they dont call me a twat like these do Grin

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minicreamegg · 12/04/2013 17:10

Holeintights you have just described my street! I hate these light nights.

OhLori · 12/04/2013 17:21

have you got a plan, snowflake?

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likesnowflakesinanocean · 12/04/2013 17:22

i dont feel so alone now at leastGrin

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likesnowflakesinanocean · 12/04/2013 17:25

not really, stuck here for quite a while so aside from trying to make the best of the house and garden just keep ourselves to ourselves

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Wannabestepfordwife · 12/04/2013 17:30

Not in Cheshire it begins with g and ends in y but they sound very similar.

Are you managing to sleep ok op?

I think with diary if you go to the la showing who is causing trouble chances are they have already had complaints about them.

In my hometown the council knocked most of one of the roughest estates down and rehoused all the decent people and left the trouble makers to it I hope the same happens for you

marjproops · 12/04/2013 17:31

oh im joining this club. me too. where the hell are these people from? where are their 'parents' if theyre out so late?
the worlds getting worse by the day. and so are people.

no discipline, no decent upbringing so they bring up their own the same, no guidance, no curfews, no respect,i could go on and on.

marjproops · 12/04/2013 17:33

WANNA where are you? wish councils would do that here too. all the troublemakers together in one place and all the decent ones somewhere else.

and no, not being judgy pants, its a fact.

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likesnowflakesinanocean · 12/04/2013 17:38

i have already been told we think we are better than them, i find it v hard not to say your 6yo just called me a c* and do the face. i am willing to give anyone A chance but i have literally no friends herevSad

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Wannabestepfordwife · 12/04/2013 17:44

I was in humberside but dahn sarf now I got to say its the only decent idea the council ever had it should be nationwide scheme.

Op are there any neighbourhood or sure start centres in any local estates where you could meet some new people and if you starting putting routes down in different estate you might be more likely to get moved there

marjproops · 12/04/2013 17:44

same here. ive been called a c**y snob. I actually am in a way!

HA's, for all their good intentions just tend to lump social cases a'la jeremy kyle types (gets ready for a flaming now) against genuine can't help being like this cases -in our case, having a person who, when DC diagnosed with disabilities, bug**d off cos they didnt want responsiblity and shame of a 'retated freak ' (their words). so leaves me to be fulltime carer who cant go anfd earn a wage and get a mortgage...this wasnt my life plan.

but its how things have turned out, and whats wrong with wanting to better ourselves and have somewhere decent and peaceful to live and breathe?

for those who couldnt give a rip about their kids and surroundings, they spoil it for those who want to make the wortld a better place.

cant we on this thread all campaign for us living in the same street?! serious btw.

Wannabestepfordwife · 12/04/2013 17:45

And op you ate better then them and they know it the scrotes

marjproops · 12/04/2013 17:45

retarted freak, meant to type.

MintyyAeroEgg · 12/04/2013 17:46

You poor thing! I would hate this. I wish I could give some practical advice but all I can offer is Brew and sympathy.

OhLori · 12/04/2013 17:47

See my new caravan thread, OP!

Wannabestepfordwife · 12/04/2013 17:50

I think we should do a euro millions syndicate and if we win build an estate lol!

marj that's so sad I wouldn't do smacking but some people really need discipline. Actually I would prefer it if the parents got the birch do they teach their kids some manners and respect

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likesnowflakesinanocean · 12/04/2013 17:50

i like brusGrin all my kids are school age so i dont really go to any centres but its s good idea to try to put down some new friendships. i would love to live on mn street!

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Wannabestepfordwife · 12/04/2013 17:58

You could also put a message up in mn meet up and see if there are any lovely mnetters close to you

marjproops · 12/04/2013 17:59

mn street...that sounds good. like sesame street! or quality street!

why are we stuck in these ruts though? have any of you been down the housing swap/social services etc route? i have to all the time, we get disability discrimination a LOT (have posted about that before) yet we never get the help.

not just that, its 'normal' people too. for flips sake this isnt victorian slum and mansions era any more, so why do we seem to be DEvolving?

Wannabestepfordwife · 12/04/2013 18:05

That's awful marj they should have a points system like people with disabilities and dv victims are first to be housed and good tenants should always get priority over bad ones