Mil's party, dd and chicken pox.....

[deliakate]

Mil was 70 in March and we have seen her a couple of times since then, including dh taking her to France for 4 days for her present. Fil has planned a birthday dinner for her tomorrow night in a restaurant and we are booked to go. It's a 4-5 hour drive and we are going when dh gets back from work tonight and driving home on Sunday. Well, dd is 23 months and has woken up today covered in chicken pox. She seems ok, but bit grouchy.

Mil is insisting we all still go down for the dinner, she has a babysitter from the village booked for dd and ds. I am suggesting that I stay at home with ds as its just not fair to expect her to travel so far if she goes downhill.

I can't do the crossed out writing thing, but if I could I would add, I would quite like an excuse not to go as I'm exhausted and don't find the family easy company..... But Aibu?

It's likely your child will get very itchy and uncomfortable very soon.

How did it go with MIL?

I semi bottled it and made dh tell her. She was ok about it I think, clearly not happy but she hasn't excommunicated me.

Well done delia, I hope you don't have too much of a terrible weekend with poorly DD and she gets better soon.

For the future I would make sure you agree with DH that when he tells MIL something you have agreed between you it is then not up for discussion!

Glad you appear to have sorted this with your MIL, OP. Even a so-called mild case of CP makes a child poorly and the last thing your dd needs is to be taken away from the comforts of home.

That's not bottling it. She's his bloody mother, of course he should handle most communication!