My cousin, clearly the first woman in the world to ever give birth 
, has just had something called a gender reveal party.
They went for the scan, then had friends and family around, ramped up the suspense for a couple hours, then she opened a big box of balloons that were.... pink! It's a girl! Awwww.
AIBU to think this is the wankiest thing ever? Or am I a joyless hag?
My family think it's cute so I need you nest of vipers lot to restore my faith in humanity.
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AIBU?
to think the world does not need 'gender reveal parties'?
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dreamingbohemian · 04/04/2013 09:21
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SpecialAgentTattooedQueen ·
04/04/2013 11:53
Arabesque Thu 04-Apr-13 11:19:05
YABU. We are inviting all our relatives around next week to tell them where we're going on holidays. We're going to have a cake and when we cut into it the flag of the country we're visiting will be revealed. We are not expecting any presents AT ALL, but I have told my mum that if anyone asks I would like flip flops, sarongs or American dollars.
Snort You're joking right? Why on earth would you need to assure people not to give you presents because you're going on a holiday? Why would you get presents in the first place? 
Why would anyone ask if they need to bring a present?
I am a grumpy ass. I never wanted a baby shower (my DM was desperate though) But when I found out we were expecting DTs, that was my excuse as I refused to find out gender. I enjoyed dressing my boy and girl in yellow, green, pink, blue, whatever. Green is really DTD's 'colour' so if I'd only had pink to dress her in I would have been sad. Do my kids wear gender specific clothes? Of course. Do I give a shit if they don't? Of course not.
Their nursery is yellow with a strip of wallpaper with fish and ducks. Some of my happiest memories of being PG was the choosing mobiles, decorating the room, guessing names, whether they'd be identical, etc etc. Ignores memories of non stop farting and maternity jeans that made me look like I'd swallowed a few basketballs
Sorry for the rant. 
The idea of gender reveal parties has bought a very strong emotion out in me... Why put your child in a box before you even meet them? What's the point in having lots of blue and toy cars/trucks when all your DS wants is a tea set?
Okay, rant over sorry
dreamingbohemian ·
04/04/2013 11:56
Arabesque 
Actually I guess it's true that you could do something really sweet in connection with finding out boy or girl (lovely story browneyes!) I think it's just the whole big party thing that seems a bit over the top.
I'm taking on board the AIBUs though. It's true, I can just ignore it. I really don't think I'm being smug about it, it's just .... I don't know, it's just too much for me. If you want to have a party, have a party! It doesn't need a wanky name and a colour theme.
Although I do like the idea of gender reveal parties for grownups so perhaps I'm a big old hypocrite.
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SpecialAgentTattooedQueen ·
04/04/2013 11:56
No, it's too reveal that OMG! My baby has a cock/vag! Aren't you excited!?!
Seriously, just save cake from your hen/stag do.
orangebuccaneer ·
04/04/2013 12:00
I'm in the US and I get a 'parenting' magazine. One of the articles this time around was all the different options for revealing the gender at one of these horrific events.
My favorite was to give everyone a glass of water and then hand out sachets of colorless powder. Everyone pours this powder into their drinks at the same time, and the powder turns the water blue or pink....
I find these parties just the most navel-gaving thing ever. Surely congratulations on simply having a baby is enough: why do we need to get all flappy about its gender (since it's clearly going to be one or the other...)?
TheRivieraKid ·
04/04/2013 12:04
"Why put your child in a box before you even meet them? What's the point in having lots of blue and toy cars/trucks when all your DS wants is a tea set?"
^ THIS. I hate, absolutely despise the gender segregation based on colour. Drives me insane. DD wears whatever colour I pick out that day, her nursery is green. She plays with boy toys and girl toys (her fave at the moment is to put her toy cars in her pink handbag). This whole 'gender reveal' crap is just another way to push the way people (and the unborn children) into a pink = girls, boy = boys mentality. 
dreamingbohemian ·
04/04/2013 12:05
orangebuccaneer
Now THAT is the wankiest idea ever. Good god.
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carabos ·
04/04/2013 12:10
Call me old-fashioned but I thought the sex reveal usually happened at the birth.
It's not even that exciting is it? It's going to be male or female, there's nothing you can do to change it and whether it's "now" or "later" it will be revealed in the short term. Not much suspense there...
JenaiMorris ·
04/04/2013 12:18
YABU
Whilst I'm more than a little about the gender stereotyping, these parties, like baby showers, are a cute bit of frilly nonsense.
You lot are miserable cahs.
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