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Original poster

to feel annoyed at that women in the coffee shop?

286 replies

gabsid · 02/04/2013 19:11

Today I sat down at a sofa (2 2-seater sofas) in a busy city coffee shop enjoying my coffee and waiting for DP and DC. A woman with a baby came up to me and asked whether the second sofa was free and I said no since I was waiting - fine. The people on the next sofa just left so she took that seat, when within the next 5 minutes another 3 women with 2 babies arrived!

Had I been by myself I would have offered the sofa and I would have been happy for 2 more people to share my table, but share 2 2-seater sofas with 4 adults and 2 babies? I would have been very annoyed and probably left to find somewhere else to sit. That would have been so rude of them!

Luckily it didn't come to that, but it might have.

OP posts:
Pandemoniaa · 03/04/2013 00:03

I could have died laughing at this thread.

But I didn't.

It was a close run thing though.

LovesBeingWokenEveryNight · 03/04/2013 00:08

SmilingCrocodile - thanks I get it now

BOEUF · 03/04/2013 00:10

Pandemoniaa Grin

meddie · 03/04/2013 01:55

I think its BU to suggest using towels to reserve seats Katie. Not everyone is comfortable seeing San-pro in Costas!

BigHands · 03/04/2013 07:18

What a nasty bunch you lot are.

Original poster
gabsid · 03/04/2013 08:25

Oh my god, I have started something here [surprise] - I haven't even answered yet and a number of people find it necessary to make assumptions and start being nasty, and there are always others who join in. Sad!

I meet my friends at that very same coffee shop regularly (4 of us and 2 small DC) but we would never ask to join a single person an a big sofa table, whether they are waiting or not. I would consider it as very rude to take over their table. I would ask if I was by myself though.

Besides I was waiting less than 5 min for DP and DC.

OP posts:
anothershittynickname · 03/04/2013 08:30

Who's been nasty?

Basically they've taken the piss because you got a bit stressy over a non event - I haven't seen nasty though!!

FWIW - YABU, I wouldn't consider it rude to ask to share an otherwise empty table in a busy coffee shop, I fact, I would consider it ruder to expect to have the whole area to yourself!

Original poster
gabsid · 03/04/2013 08:31

Just read some more of that thread, maybe I should start another one like it if you find it that amusing Grin

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Original poster
gabsid · 03/04/2013 08:33

No, you are right. I started of reading the first page when I wrote my reply.

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gabsid · 03/04/2013 08:34

Yes, but I would I there are 4 of you and there are only 4 seats on the sofas, one of them already occupied.

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BeerTricksPotter · 03/04/2013 08:43

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Lucyellensmum95 · 03/04/2013 08:51

What do you think of mumsnet sofa?

JamieandtheMagicTorch · 03/04/2013 08:52

Gabsid

Yes, they were probably being a bit cheeky. Hoping you would bugger off eventually. Or maybe the first woman didn't know when her friends were going to arrive and just wanted to sit down with her baby.

None of us meant to be mean. Your OP was worded in a funny way, and sometime we get carried away with our punning.

Nottoman amongst us wanted to upset you

BigHands · 03/04/2013 08:53

It's 9 pages of taking the piss. Yes OP was being unreasonable - just tell her that rather than have 200 posts making her feel stupid.

BigHands · 03/04/2013 08:53

X post...

Sarah919 · 03/04/2013 08:54

This thread is the funniest thing I've read in a long time, but I absolutely understand your feelings OP. I've seen that sort of thing happen lots of times in coffee shops and usually the person on their own who was there first moves elsewhere and the other people who were overcrowding them end up with the area to themselves.

BoysAreLikeDogs · 03/04/2013 08:55

och it's all goodnatured stuff

no one has said you precious madam

and there were some WONDERFUL jokes AND SUE's back

I call this thread a TRIUMPH, Gabsid [thumbs up]

HoneyDragon · 03/04/2013 08:56

Gabsid.

Now you're back. Thankyou. Thankyou so much for this thread Thanks. You have made a lot of people very very happy, and I think you have yourself a contender for Classics.

JamieandtheMagicTorch · 03/04/2013 08:59

Sarah

The Mothers Mafia are speccialy guilty of this, but I try and forgive because I remember how very tired you are at that time, and how it is simply not possbible to go around in anything otherr than a tired, anxious yet competitive pack. Not me, you understand. I hate coffee, and overpriced coffee shops.

Grockle · 03/04/2013 09:12

Gabsid, no-one was laughing at you...

The OP was amusing because it was unclear on first reading what had gone on and you appeared completely outraged at something that didn't actually happen. Grin

I've been really ill, am feeling quite unhappy & hopeless but this thread has made me laugh a lot. No-one was mean or attacking you, but it sparked a lot of banter and made many of us smile. I suspect I shall remember this thread every time I meet a friend for coffee.

Don't take offence. This is mumsnet. We're lovely.

Thanks
Maryz · 03/04/2013 09:21

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sherazade · 03/04/2013 09:24

YANBU. How very dare she.

GreenEggsAndNichts · 03/04/2013 09:53

Gabsid (and defenders) I think Grockle's post sums it up. The situation as described in the OP wasn't entirely clear, and it took off from there. If I'm honest, if it had been perfectly clear, the thread wouldn't have been nearly as amusing. Grin

SuePurblybilt · 03/04/2013 10:15

I think there's hope for MN yet if the OP can be gracious about piss-taking and only one person turns up with the 'MN at it's worsed/VILE/Call yourselfs mothers/Nasty thread' comments.

Thanks OP, it was genuinely the funniest OP I've ever seen on MN and you're a good sport.

ginslinger · 03/04/2013 10:20

I have wet mysef and this thread has made up for a lot of the cuntishness in other places