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to feel annoyed at that women in the coffee shop?

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gabsid · 02/04/2013 19:11

Today I sat down at a sofa (2 2-seater sofas) in a busy city coffee shop enjoying my coffee and waiting for DP and DC. A woman with a baby came up to me and asked whether the second sofa was free and I said no since I was waiting - fine. The people on the next sofa just left so she took that seat, when within the next 5 minutes another 3 women with 2 babies arrived!

Had I been by myself I would have offered the sofa and I would have been happy for 2 more people to share my table, but share 2 2-seater sofas with 4 adults and 2 babies? I would have been very annoyed and probably left to find somewhere else to sit. That would have been so rude of them!

Luckily it didn't come to that, but it might have.

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coffeeinbed · 04/04/2013 12:06

OP could have been overrun with beast feeding mums.
Luckily she wasn't.

That's is.
I think.

abbyfromoz · 04/04/2013 12:07

It's a personal space issue.

quietlysuggests · 04/04/2013 12:09

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coffeeinbed · 04/04/2013 12:09

Or the anticipation of a personal space issue, maybe?

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MTSgroupie · 04/04/2013 13:02

gabs You was drinking coffee on your own. It was not unreasonable for the woman to assume that by the time her friendsd turned up you might have left or another set of sofas might have opened up.

It's a bit silly to expect this woman to stand there with her stuff until a table big enough to accommodate them all opened up.

As for being 'traumatised' stop being a drama queen. You said the sofa was not free. She went elsewhere. Where is the trauma? Or do you find women with toddlers intimidating? :)

gabsid · 04/04/2013 13:29

Thanks for explaining the space issue again!

And, it can't have looked as if I was leaving because I had just sat down myself and my cup was full and steaming. And, yes, she was breastfeeding, but maybe she just wanted to sit down for a bit to do exactly that?

But then, the whole scenario happened within 5 minutes ... how much feeding can you get done in 5 min .... I can't believe I am still discussing that ... Smile

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Grockle · 04/04/2013 17:30

"Luckily it didn't come to that, but it might have."

This is my new favourite phrase.

MTSgroupie · 04/04/2013 19:06

It gets better. You are pissed off that this woman with a baby that needed feeding asked to sit at an empty sofa that you was holding for someone who had yet to arrive. Grin

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whethergirl · 05/04/2013 00:44

Someone earlier in the thread explained the whole thing using arses and arse space. God that was funny. And actually a good explanation.

candyandyoga · 05/04/2013 07:20

Leave the bastard.

candyandyoga · 05/04/2013 07:21

Seriously though, find it hilarious you were stressed about that! Chill out!

gabsid · 05/04/2013 08:29

Ok, so it was a non-event I stressed over. Maybe PMT.

But, I still believe it could have been very stressful if it had happened. Smile

I will try and not come back to this silly (but funny) thread!

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Ducklings45 · 05/04/2013 08:48

YANBU! Would have annoyed me too!

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Sunnywithshowers · 05/04/2013 09:55

gabsid I'm wryly amused at the people arriving who haven't RTFT.

:)

Lucyellensmum95 · 05/04/2013 10:03

gabsiddddddddddddd - don't go!!!!!!

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TiggyD · 05/04/2013 11:18

I suggest counselling. You wouldn't want a harrowing situation like the one you were nearly in to give you near traumatic stress disorder or something. I blame the Daily Mail.

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gabsid · 05/04/2013 11:38

I think the joke is done now, but I nearly went to the same coffee shop again today with 3 friends, 2 small DC and 3 8 year olds - but I didn't.

Because friend 1 didn't have a car today, friend 2 had other plans with her DS and friend 3 must have gone on holiday. She didn't tell us about that which was slightly irritating.

So therefore, we decided to meet next week, but in order to avoid any near disasters I invited them to my house.

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