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to want to throw the coffee in her face?

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RockingTheBoat · 02/04/2013 17:53

There is a woman at work, she is higher than me but is a completely different department so I don't work directly with her.

Every time she sees me she asks me to make her a coffee, which I do and then she never drinks it.

Confused

I'm thinking it is just a power trip kind of thing but it's bloody annoying.

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VodkaJelly · 02/04/2013 17:55

What would happen if you calmy replied "It is not in contract to make coffee, sorry" then walk away?

Sounds like a power trip and you are enabling her by making the coffee.

catgirl1976 · 02/04/2013 17:55

She might just be relly busy

But yes, she might be asserting her authority

Next time say "I think it's your turn" or "You never drink them when I do" in a light hearted way and see what she says

MissyMooandherBeaverofSteel · 02/04/2013 17:58

Don't throw it in her face Shock do 'accidently' trip and spill it all over her desk though, she won't ask you again

HeathRobinson · 02/04/2013 18:00

How well do you make it? [buwink]

DuchessofMalfi · 02/04/2013 18:00

If no-one's looking, scoop the water out of the loo to make her coffee Blush :o (I've never dared do that, but have heard tales that it's happened in other offices).

Salmotrutta · 02/04/2013 18:02

Make it very badly.

Too strong/sweet/ whatever.

And keep doing it.

Why on earth is she asking you to make her coffee anyway?

I've never, ever had a superior ask me to do that!

Salmotrutta · 02/04/2013 18:03

Or find a dead spider and pop it in.

That'll learn her.

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RockingTheBoat · 02/04/2013 18:05

She used to do it when I was on my break - she would pop her head around the door and say "would you mind making me a coffee?"

No I didn't mind the first couple of times. But then I noticed that none of them were ever drunk.

Now she does it all the time. It's just such a strange thing to do.

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catkind · 02/04/2013 18:09

That's weird. What line of work? You don't work in a coffee bar do you? Wink

DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 02/04/2013 18:10

Why make it then? Next time deliberately mishear her and say brightly "Oh thanks, no sugar and white!" and dash off.

monsterchild · 02/04/2013 18:11

Can you just not do it? What would happen if you smiles vaguely and didn't give it to her?

McNewPants2013 · 02/04/2013 18:12

Is it in your contract, if not I wouldn't be making it.

When I have meeting with my boss she makes the coffee.

Scholes34 · 02/04/2013 18:13

Just say "Yes, sure" and then forget to make it. If she's not drinking it, she won't notice.

Sparklingbrook · 02/04/2013 18:15

Be all offended. Go on and on about it. 'Don't you like my coffee/what's the matter with my coffee? You never drink it, is it horrible? etc

b4bunnies · 02/04/2013 18:18

get in first. whenever you see her, offer her a coffee.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 02/04/2013 18:19

Make it oddly...if she never drinks it then badly won't affect her. One day, make it with a cocktail umbrella...the next day add a twirly straw. Add stickers to the mug...a fluffy mug cosy...

if she comments say "I'm trying to make them more appealing as you never drink them despite asking me for one daily."

SanctiMOMious · 02/04/2013 18:20

I would say "certainly!" and then just forget.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 02/04/2013 18:21

If you don't have the nerve to do the above...then say "Aw...sorry! I can't. I have repetitive strain injury and my wrist is too sore. Ask someone else!" with a big grin so she can't accuse you of rudeness.

ivykaty44 · 02/04/2013 18:21

next time she asks - look straight at her and say

no as every single coffee I have made for you is disgusting otherwise why else wouldn't you drink them?

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 02/04/2013 18:22

No gosh get one of these! job's a good un!

Original poster
RockingTheBoat · 02/04/2013 18:22

I honestly think I must be like Monica from Friends, I have an uncontrollable need to please people haha.

I do love the suggestions though.

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RockingTheBoat · 02/04/2013 18:23

No gosh get one of these! job's a good un!

Only £4.99 too! sold! Grin

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Calabria · 02/04/2013 18:24

I had a boss who never drank the tea I made him. (Part of my job was making drinks). Whenever I asked him why he always said that it was cold. But it wasn't cold when I gave it to him. Used to piss me right off as he was a fussy git about his tea and I pride myself in making drinks the way people like them.

YANBU!

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 02/04/2013 18:24

And get a little frilly pinny...which you don every time she asks. THen once the coffee is delivered, remove it and say to her "I only wear that when I'm the office maid...I do like to look dainty when I do my menial tasks."

EuroShaggleton · 02/04/2013 18:34

I'm intrigued as to what you do. I can count on one hand the number of times I have asked someone to bring me a drink at work and on each occasion I was stuck on a "quick conference call" that turned into a 3 hr epic so I was "trapped".

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