To find the term "birth mum" offensive when used in the context of stepparents and parents?

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Just been browsing around on here, as you do, and read a couple of threads where the step child's mother was referred to as being their "birth mum". It wasn't being used in the context of adoption or in a situation where the mother has no contact with the child. It was used by stepmothers discussing their partners ex.

Am I being unreasonable to be offended by this? It makes me feel a bit angry to think one day by ex's new partner could be describing me as my daughters birth mum. I'm her mum, plain and simple!

I agree and can see why it would be upsetting. I don't think all people mean to offend, it is just that thing of using grand sounding (but incorrect) terms for things because you have heard them of Jeremy Kyle. A bit like referring to yourself as "myself", adding actually or literally every third word, national television instead of tv show and so on.

That said, they are idiotic anyway and should be picked up for using the wrong words. It could be a hurtful and wrong thing to say.