AIBU to expect my PIL of 10 years to use my name?

[specialmagiclady]

It's hilarious! We have a bit of an iffy relationship which may be why I've noticed, but I can't remember the last time he used my name. This evening, he was handing out food and it was "pass this to... Your mum" or "here you go...er... " etc but never just "there you go, Special".

It's sort of like the opposite of bingo and I'm wondering how I can turn it into a drinking game... Or anything to make it feel less like a grave insult, tbh.

"even his dog looks at him untill he gets the right name"

It's been 10yrs and ur insulted finally why? Am curious what straw finally caused the pain?

Play bingo I agree, and enjoy quietly.

My dad used to do this to my mum; it became a family joke and she would sign all cards to him from 'Are You There?', because that's what he always shouted to her. They're divorced, btw.

I call DP, and sometimes DD, Babe. I do use his name too though, and never shorten it. He uses my name.

FIL went through a phase about five years ago of getting my name wrong, he'd change one letter it and would become a mans name. Think John instead of Joan. After a while I did feel a bit hurt, mentioned it to DH simply said 'her name is Joan' next time FIL did it. MIL who is a people pleaser went ott in trying to ensure FIL got it right, it was really embarrassing and made me feel that I'd made a fuss about nothing. Although I didn't really make a fuss.

Now FIL has dementia, he barely knows who we are and often forgets that MIL is his wife. I suspect getting my name wrong was an early sign of the dementia and I feel like a total cow for causing MIL anguish.

Arf at 'are you there*

Never in my life did I hear my dad, born 1903, call my mum, born 1905 by her first name. It was always 'Kid' right up until he died at 67.

I have a nickname (eg Liz for Elizabeth, but that's not my name) that everyone uses except MIL, who is the only person I know who uses the full version....