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AIBU to expect my PIL of 10 years to use my name?

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specialmagiclady · 30/03/2013 20:45

It's hilarious! We have a bit of an iffy relationship which may be why I've noticed, but I can't remember the last time he used my name. This evening, he was handing out food and it was "pass this to... Your mum" or "here you go...er... " etc but never just "there you go, Special".

It's sort of like the opposite of bingo and I'm wondering how I can turn it into a drinking game... Or anything to make it feel less like a grave insult, tbh.

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MordecaiAndRigby · 03/04/2013 19:24

"even his dog looks at him untill he gets the right name"

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Wishiwasanheiress · 03/04/2013 19:28

It's been 10yrs and ur insulted finally why? Am curious what straw finally caused the pain?

Play bingo I agree, and enjoy quietly.

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SomewhereInTheMiddle · 13/04/2013 09:20

My dad used to do this to my mum; it became a family joke and she would sign all cards to him from 'Are You There?', because that's what he always shouted to her. They're divorced, btw.

I call DP, and sometimes DD, Babe. I do use his name too though, and never shorten it. He uses my name.

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M6Toll · 13/04/2013 09:29

FIL went through a phase about five years ago of getting my name wrong, he'd change one letter it and would become a mans name. Think John instead of Joan. After a while I did feel a bit hurt, mentioned it to DH simply said 'her name is Joan' next time FIL did it. MIL who is a people pleaser went ott in trying to ensure FIL got it right, it was really embarrassing and made me feel that I'd made a fuss about nothing. Although I didn't really make a fuss.

Now FIL has dementia, he barely knows who we are and often forgets that MIL is his wife. I suspect getting my name wrong was an early sign of the dementia and I feel like a total cow for causing MIL anguish.

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pinkyredrose · 13/04/2013 09:50

Arf at 'are you there*

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HintofBream · 13/04/2013 09:56

Never in my life did I hear my dad, born 1903, call my mum, born 1905 by her first name. It was always 'Kid' right up until he died at 67.

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FryOneFatManic · 13/04/2013 10:08

I have a nickname (eg Liz for Elizabeth, but that's not my name) that everyone uses except MIL, who is the only person I know who uses the full version....