OMG son and porn what do i do???????

[motherhen1949]

Hi please don't judge me I just need some support.


right over the weekend my son has been away but left his phone at home as he only takes it if he's gonna be out alone (its not a Internet ready phone very basic btw) so husband was having a quick flick through his phone which we do now and again, oh finds a variation code for Goole straight way oh says this if for a email account.

so when ds gets back I confront him about a Hotmail account he admits it says he wanted to go one you tube, I made it clear that I didn't approve of this email account and demanded I view it (he started to looked very worried but gave the password ect when me and oh went on not only had some boy sent my ds 90 or so clips of porn(the manga carton kind)not that it makes it any better

also he had two people we didn't know one was a grown man that that gotton to my son through the popular game website road block.


just to add before I get flamed we are not careless we the PC DOWNSTAIRS, IN THE KITCHEN WE ALSO HAVE PARENTAL CONTROLS WE HAVE AGE RESTRICTIONS AND ALSO A EMAIL ALRET SYSTEM COUPLE WITH A TIMER

THE mistakes we made were allowing dd to have a hour in the Morning when were having a lie in
and also the controls would not work on links sent to him via email

I feel awful and I am going to give myself a I really felt we had done all the safe guards

[morethanpotatoprints]

I totally agree with Feminine.

it is normal and can be a shock. They grow up so soon and are not our babies for long.

My ds's are 21 and 18 and have both been through this, and out the other end. Both are well rounded individuals that know that porn has a place, shouldn't be taken too seriously and most women are not like the ones you see in films

[StuntGirl]

Hentai isn't something on a par with mucky postcards at Blackpool

It may be drawn but it most certainly isn't cartoonish or childish in the 'innocent, roll of the eye and a chuckle, boys will be boys' way some people seem to think it is.

I would be very sad about this too OP and would have a discussion with your son about the porn industry and how it views women.

[recrudescence]

Note: very old thread. The OP’s son is probably at university.

[Wishiwasincornwall]

A Google verification code for a Hotmail account? Google's email provider would be Gmail. Hotmail is provided by Microsoft Outlook. The game is Roblox not Road Block. Do you even talk to your son?

P.s Whacking a few security filters on is not going to stop a 13 year old who is obviously a lot more computer savvy than you and doesn't replace the research on internet safety that you should have undertaken before you allowed him on to the Internet at any age.

[DanielRicciardosSmile]

Zombie Thread Alert...

[HBStowe]

Honestly, the best way to protect your son here is just to educate him relentlessly on what he needs to know - that porn isn’t real life, that it rarely depicts safe sex, that it rarely shows realistic relationships, everything he needs to know about consent and healthy boundaries and respect etc.

At 13 he’s curious and he’s only going to become more interested in these things. You are sensible to have parental controls but you can’t mitigage every risk. It’s so important to arm your son with the information he needs to protect himself and make informed choices about what he’s viewing online, and how he is interacting with others in real life.