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Original poster

To wonder if my friend is completely taking the piss?

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Gossipmonster · 29/03/2013 22:20

Went out for the day today with my friend, her child and my 3DC.

We came back to my house where I cooked a meal for everyone.

While we were waiting for the meal to cook the kids (all teenage) occupied themselves while my friend and I had a glass of wine.

She then asked if she could watch Neighbours - her "guilty pleasure". She knows I never watch any soaps. I said yea okay if you must.

While she did that I made a fire as she complained she was cold, and continued with dinner.

After Neighbours she watched Home and Away while I joked about turning it off, and said why do you want the TV on.

Two of my DC's came in after that and sat down and turned it over to friends, which she complained about massively. I then sent a couple of texts to my partner who is supposed to be on patrol with the RN but has been delayed, saw him for 2 days this week after 5 weeks apart and he is supposed to have gone away for 15 weeks with no contact and now will be next week. She complained constantly about wanting to watch Corrie as "I was in my phone".

She left later and I text her to see if she got home safe she replied "yes thanks, you were some what preoccupied but always here for you".

WFT?

How do I respond?

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Jemma1111 · 29/03/2013 22:23

You could say that the next time she visits you will have some grapes in and will sit peeling them for her

GreenJeans · 29/03/2013 22:24

I wouldn't reply at all....

PenguinBear · 29/03/2013 22:24

I'd say just ignore it!

weblette · 29/03/2013 22:25

Personally I'd be telling her to just fuck off but you're obviously nicer than me...

gallifrey · 29/03/2013 22:26

My friend came round the other day and spent most of the time on her bloody iphone!
I was so tempted to say something like "am I boring you?" but I didn't because I'm not brave enough...

GreenJeans · 29/03/2013 22:29

I stopped meeting up with a friend as she spent the whole of each meeting either playing on her phone, talking on her phone, or talking about herself.

aldiwhore · 29/03/2013 22:30

You're probably both NBU and BU.

You had a whole day together, you should have both known when to say goodbye (before tea/programmes/need to text people).

Original poster
Gossipmonster · 29/03/2013 22:32

I texted my partner a couple of times. After tomorrow I won't be able to text/speak with him until July.

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pigletpower · 29/03/2013 22:33

Text her that she was too preoccupied being a cunt to notice anything you did for her!!!

ImTooHecsyForYourParty · 29/03/2013 22:37

I would probably reply, I am surprised you noticed. Did you glance over at me between soaps?

Bluelightsandsirens · 29/03/2013 22:37

A simple Really? Would be all I sent back.

Does she not have sky + ? Any worthy tele addict records everything incase they need to miss it!

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Gossipmonster · 29/03/2013 22:38

Yes she told me mid Home and Away she had it all Sky Plussed anyway Confused

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AgentZigzag · 29/03/2013 22:38

There are some friendships where you just act as though you were in your own home, and in that light it'd be good she felt so comfortable and knows you so well she thought she had telly voting rights as to what's on.

But her having a dig at you about you not paying her enough attention when she was glued to the box is a bit bloody rich!

If you get on with her normally and she's either not prone to being like this or you've accepted it as an annoying, but small, part of her, I agree you should ignore.

If your DH is off for a while you might need all the support you can get?

AgentZigzag · 29/03/2013 22:40

Hahahaha No! don't do what piglet suggested Grin

It's a crying shame to waste such a good text though Grin

bugdem · 29/03/2013 22:41

Gossip, I would be careful what you are saying about when boats are deploying and being delayed. Loose lips sink ships and all that.

Original poster
Gossipmonster · 29/03/2013 22:42

Yes you are right Az. Sad

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Gossipmonster · 29/03/2013 22:44

Oh thanks bugden that hadn't crossed my tiny mind Hmm

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babanouche · 29/03/2013 22:46

Could it be that you were preoccupied making the dinner? Maybe she felt a bit out on a limb. I agree she sounds a bit off. Just offering a different perspective.

bugdem · 29/03/2013 22:46

It wasn't a dig, when you are in the lifestyle it's easy to talk about it and mention stuff without realising, have done it myself in the past. Confused

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Gossipmonster · 29/03/2013 22:48

Well I never do. I am not in the lifestyle. I don't know anything to mention anything.

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AgentZigzag · 29/03/2013 22:49

Although it's never better to have a friend who makes you feel like shite than no friend at all.

It depends on how much of the time she's like that.

And people are always pointing out negative things they see in other people when you know full well they're the worst for doing it themselves!

They just can't seem to see it in themselves for some reason.

bugdem · 29/03/2013 22:50

Well you just did mention that the boat was delayed and that it's sailing tomorrow. That's exactly the sort of info you don't share.

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Gossipmonster · 29/03/2013 22:56

Where is the boat going from? What is the name of the boat?

Where is it going to?

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AgentZigzag · 29/03/2013 22:56

It'd be a very sad spy who had to resort to MN to get details of what the RN are up to bugdem Grin

You'd hope they'd be gunning for something a bit more definite and helpful than sketchy details which could have been changed.

AgentZigzag · 29/03/2013 22:56
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