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AIBU?

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To think it's not worth it to get upset over a broken plate? How do you react when this happens?

61 replies

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 26/03/2013 15:08

If the plate in question is a common or garden cheapo one from Tesco?

I'm a bit clumsy...I also work on a keyboard for hours in my profession and so have bothersome wrists.

I walked into the kitchen just with a plate...and it just fell from my hand. I don't bat an eye if someone else in the house does this but DH feels the need to say something!

"What are you DOING!?" type of thing.

I hate this as it's so obvious a reaction...I would just say "Whoops" or something.

For the record he wasn't startled...he was standing watching me when I came in.

Then he said "Oh it's such a pain"! and fussed around a lot sweeping...though I would have done it given a chance.

I just shrug when things like this happen...doesn't bother me at all! AIBU to think the best reaction is none? It's annoying when you drop a plate and you feel a wally so there's no need to ADD to the frustration with silly comments. How do you take broken crockery? On the chin or with a lot of fuss?

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anonymosity · 26/03/2013 15:10

I don't make a fuss. i grew up in a house where one parent hit the roof if someone did this, but if they did it they'd go "oh well, never mind". And the hypocracy of that taught me an early lesson

Pandemoniaa · 26/03/2013 15:11

YANBU. I've always had the same attitude as my dm "It's only a plate. Worse things happen at sea". Because it is only a plate. Not a major disaster. Accidents happen. Even to the most careful people.

NettoSuperstar · 26/03/2013 15:11

Bog standard stuff, I really don't care, I smashed a plate last night.
My good things I'd be more bothered about, but still wouldn't make a massive fuss.

grovel · 26/03/2013 15:11

Give him therapy in a Greek restaurant.

anonymosity · 26/03/2013 15:11

hypocrisy

hellsbellsmelons · 26/03/2013 15:12

I don't think anyone does it 'on purpose'!
It can be a bit of a shock and there is that instant reaction.
But then I calmly think about it and it's just a thing so it doesn't really matter.
It is a pain and you have to get the kids to wear slippers etc.. for a while until you know it's all cleared away.
He got on and cleared it up though so good on him!

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 26/03/2013 15:13

Maybe his Mum fussed about such things? I'll have to ask him...MIL certainly has a lot of OLD kitchen equipment and sets store by keeping things for years.

SHe has one set of plastic plates which she always tells me are 40 years old. They bloody look it too!

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butterandbread157 · 26/03/2013 15:14

I think I'm with you on this one!

I don't really see the point in a big over reaction! Nothing you can do about it anyway!
These things happen.

My DH on the other hand!!!! He took a major huff and actually kicked a door when DD2 kicked a bowl of cereal out his hand, all over the fabric couch!!
Wasn't ideal but I never reacted to his outburst and he quickly felt very ashamed and had to fix the door!!!

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 26/03/2013 15:14

hells I don't make my kids wear slippers till I know it's all gone! Never even thought about it.

I run a damp cloth all round the floor for the little bits.

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 26/03/2013 15:14

YANBU. 'No use crying over spilt milk' springs to mind. I also grew up with one parent who makes a HUGE fuss if anything gets spilt, broken, dropped etc.... but who, last time she stayed at mine, managed to buckle a very heavy-gauge, not to say expensive, frying pan!

OhYouBadBadKitten · 26/03/2013 15:15

I may well shout in surprise - I can be quite jumpy and sometimes I might react in an irrational way but I do try not to. I dont stew on things after.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 26/03/2013 15:15

butter I can sort of relate to getting the rage when someone boots your cornflakes out of your paw!

Firstly the loss of the flakes would bother me and then the sofa being all milky! But kicking the door's ott.

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fluffyanimal · 26/03/2013 15:16

Ha! The other night, I was washing up and knocked over an empty wine bottle, which crashed into a wine glass and smashed it. It was a cheapie wine glass, nothing special, only matching one other glass. DH did the "what are you DOING?" thing too. This flustered me so much that when I reached to move the offending wine bottle out of the way, I knocked it over again and smashed another (equally cheap and unimportant) wine glass. I sympathise, OP!

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 26/03/2013 15:17

BadKitten

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peppabacon · 26/03/2013 15:19

I couldn't afford to replace it ATM so I would be upset. I know it's silly.

Tee2072 · 26/03/2013 15:19

Well, when my husband broke yet another of our really good wine glasses that we got from France for a wedding present, I wasn't pleased or anything but I hardly made a fuss beyond 'not another one!'

And then went out and bought wine glasses with titanium in them. Really. They claim to be break-proof!

Things break. That's life!

KellyElly · 26/03/2013 15:20

My DD spilt a whole bowl of cereal on herself and the floor the other day and I started with the "oh for goodness sake, what are you doing etc" amd then I looked at her little face and felt so bad. Was because I'd just cleaned the house and was in a rush to get her ready. Obviously none of that is her fault and she didn't do it on purpose. I'm quite an irritable person, so maybe your DH is too. I just make the effort to catch myself before I go into moan over-reaction mode :)

gobbin · 26/03/2013 15:22

My husband dropped one of our Denby (wedding set, used every day, 22 yrs old) plates filling the dishwasher last night. 20 yrs ago I would've got my knickers in a twist about it. Now it's just 'meh' as it's amazing they've lasted so long with tiled floors! We've replaced two bowls only in all that time so we're doing well really. Guess which shopping outlet store we'll be visiting next week lol!

MintyyAeroEgg · 26/03/2013 15:22

My dh goes disproportionately nuts if something gets broken or lost. It REALLY pisses me off but its something he has inherited directly from his father.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 26/03/2013 15:24

Peppa we're not well off but a plate is a pound in the pound shop and less in a charity shop.

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mrsminiverscharlady · 26/03/2013 15:26

My parents literally shriek in a completely ott way if they drop something Angry It's bloody annoying. I'm with you - no point in making a fuss, particularly if it's easily replaced.

OhYouBadBadKitten · 26/03/2013 15:27

Neomaxi Grin thats had me in hysterics. Yes, that is me!!!

Acandlelitshadow · 26/03/2013 15:28

I expect things to get dropped and broken over time. Doesn't bother me in the slightest.

OhYouBadBadKitten · 26/03/2013 15:29

Doorbell ringing can have the same effect.
(perhaps I need valium or summat!)

BakeOLiteGirl · 26/03/2013 15:31

Yesterday I wAs extremely stressed. I dropped a plate. Not by accident. It was very cathartic.