To think it's not worth it to get upset over a broken plate? How do you react when this happens?

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If the plate in question is a common or garden cheapo one from Tesco?

I'm a bit clumsy...I also work on a keyboard for hours in my profession and so have bothersome wrists.

I walked into the kitchen just with a plate...and it just fell from my hand. I don't bat an eye if someone else in the house does this but DH feels the need to say something!

"What are you DOING!?" type of thing.

I hate this as it's so obvious a reaction...I would just say "Whoops" or something.

For the record he wasn't startled...he was standing watching me when I came in.

Then he said "Oh it's such a pain"! and fussed around a lot sweeping...though I would have done it given a chance.

I just shrug when things like this happen...doesn't bother me at all! AIBU to think the best reaction is none? It's annoying when you drop a plate and you feel a wally so there's no need to ADD to the frustration with silly comments. How do you take broken crockery? On the chin or with a lot of fuss?

If it was a special item, I have some bits that are literally irreplaceable, then I'd be sad, but an accident is an accident.
The juggling plates in this house are plastic.

I get cross with my own clumsiess. I'd get pissed off if DS was doing something daft to break it. Otherwise, well, its just'stuff'isn't it (unless its a family heirloom).

Irritable is a good word to describe him Kelly!
If I react too then he's worse, have learned this over the years, better to not react at all, especially since DC came along!

If it's just a plate - not a plate from a set - then 'meh' no problem. They are so cheap to buy. I think he was wrong to make such a big deal of it. Like a Plate Hero or something.

Yesterday I wAs extremely stressed. I dropped a plate. Not by accident. It was very cathartic.

Good girl!

The Greek God of Plato? Perhaps a new nickname?

I don't get upset about stuff. a broken plate, well, so what? stuff breaks sometimes.

I always say to the kids "nobody is ever in trouble for an accident."

It's just not nice to be worried in your own home about spills and breakages. You can pick up a plate for 20p in our local charity shops. It's just not worth giving a shit about, imo.

Just in case......www.replacements.com They have all sorts of crockery that is out of manufacture. Due to my previous job, I used them a LOT.

my other half has a habit of saying "what did you do that for?!" in an incredulous voice..... like I decided to break the glass on purpose!!!! DONUT!!

incidentally he does this with anything, broken glasses, falling over, crashing the car- drives me potty!!

YANBU - really not worth making a fuss over as noone does this sort of thing on purpose.

My DM used to make a huge fuss over breakages. I remember once I had a teapot and sugar bowl on a tray and the weight shifted and I dropped the lot - think big pile of tea-soaked sugar on the carpet and broken crockery all around. My DMs instant reaction was to start yelling at how careless I was while my Dad's was to worry that I might have scalded myself. I think that brought my Mum up short when she realised that there could be something worse than a mess and a broken teapot.

Last Friday when we were unloading the shopping from the car DH dropped two bottles of wine on the drive and smashed them. Not great but what would have been the point of getting angry - he was angry enough with himself. (The drive smelt a bit boozy for a while )

Slightly annoying only because of the tiny bits of glass/china etc that DD2 could find when she's mooching about but otherwise 'tis of no consequence.

tbh at the moment if a plate broke I'd be secretly pleased. I hate the set we've got, it's nearly 30 years old and is mismatched now.

There will be a point when I can finally say that's it, we get a new one.

funnily enough, i have never made a fuss if something gets broken. never buy anything breakable that costs more than a few quid. no one breaks something on purpose

my dad had a short fuse and used to go absolutely bonkers if we dropped something as children-i mean really angry. and would go on about it forever.

the minute i left home life improved

I love that link, that's totally me too

Apart from initial surprise, I wouldn't give a toss. It's a plate/mug/cup/whatever. It's not the end of the world!

"What are you doing?" seems a v strange question - I guess the only answer is "dropping a plate"?

Tee2072- I need to know more about unbreakable wineglasses....

I got them at House of Fraser. I'll link you up in a minute!

On sale! I may have to get more.

Swimming against the tide a bit here...

I do care. I don't buy a lot of stuff, I buy stuff I really like and I look after it - I'm careful. It's more the fact I liked it enough to buy it - than how much it costs iyswim.

However, genuine accidents are just that. My Mum broke one of my long stemmed wine glasses that I loved - you can't buy them anymore, so I can't get a replacement - she was upset she'd done it, but it was a genuine accident and I was very zen about it :)

On the other hand, I used to live with someone who had 'accidents' all the time - he didn't - 'he had I'm-a-careless-fucker-who-doesn't-give-a-shit's' all the time! Other people's stuff was just 'so what'. We didn't last long

I guess genuine accidents don't bother me - but people being bloody careless does.

I agree with Chipping. I like my stuff. Either I chose it or "inherited" it - not that it's heirlooms, more that when Grandma died I needed crockery - so I'm careful. But, things break and accidents happen, and 70-year-old dishes won't last forever. If it's a genuine accident, I'm sorry that the thing has gone, but not cross with the person who had the accident.

Sorry, non-Mobile version. I actually have the red ones.

I remember quite vividly being absolutely petrified the moment I broke a plate in my house growing up.

As a result, it's firmly an "oh well" matter in my house. "Try to be careful, DS, you could hurt yourself" - end of discussion. Just a plate!

I grew up with my mum who would hit me when i broke anything and i have a depth problem always break things doing dishes so i get really upset and OH says i still flinch as if going to get hit

OH is bril and just cleans up the broken bits we dont have a full set of anything and he does most of the dishes but i do try

If DD breaks anything neither of us makes a fuss just make sure she isnt hurt

i have a good friend, who near enough every time she used my wine glasses (and they where nice funky ones.. not expensive really. but non the less) she would break one so i brought her her very own plastic one.

she took it in good humer.. untill one night i went to reach for the tv remote and knocked my last funky glass over and it smashed every where... she thought it was great and laughed her self silly at me.

i used to get stressy when things are broken. but with two kids.. its just not good for your blood pressure. iv joined the meh group.

I would have got really upset with DH if he'd done this, and massively upset with myself too. Then I got diagnosed with depression, and now (on ADs which help hugely) I react to it mug more calmly.