To think it's not worth it to get upset over a broken plate? How do you react when this happens?

[NeoMaxiZoomDweebie]

If the plate in question is a common or garden cheapo one from Tesco?

I'm a bit clumsy...I also work on a keyboard for hours in my profession and so have bothersome wrists.

I walked into the kitchen just with a plate...and it just fell from my hand. I don't bat an eye if someone else in the house does this but DH feels the need to say something!

"What are you DOING!?" type of thing.

I hate this as it's so obvious a reaction...I would just say "Whoops" or something.

For the record he wasn't startled...he was standing watching me when I came in.

Then he said "Oh it's such a pain"! and fussed around a lot sweeping...though I would have done it given a chance.

I just shrug when things like this happen...doesn't bother me at all! AIBU to think the best reaction is none? It's annoying when you drop a plate and you feel a wally so there's no need to ADD to the frustration with silly comments. How do you take broken crockery? On the chin or with a lot of fuss?

My husband can be like that, over the most unimportant petty things.

I am slowly training him up to be different.

("Did you mean to be so rude?" comes to mind).

My reaction depends if someone is in the room where it gets dropped. If yes then I'll yell something like don't move ,because we're unshod slobs, or if not then it'll be don't come into the kitchen/dinning room/wherever then I set about cleaning it up.

I can't get worked up over bog standard stuff and can't see any benefit in getting worked up over special items. I have been known to utter "ffs" when I've had a run of dropping things but really, the most important thing is that no-one gets glass in their feet.

Re questions like "what are you doing?" in these situations I take it as a face value Q and answer accordingly. What are you doing? Bringing my plate into the kitchen. Why are you walking around on high heels? (my OH). Because these boots are high heeled. It's a way of me not taking on board things like guilt at having broken something or resentment at the other person's reaction.

Much, not mug. Are mugs calm?

Grew up with my Dad making a MASSIVE FUSS about any minor drop / mistake / scratch and we all lived on edge, so am completely the opposite now. Life is far, far too short to worry about little things like this.*

*unless it was a Ming (?) vase or something...

I probably would over react at first in shock, but apologise almost immediately. if someone was doing something stupid with the plate... balancing it half over the edge, juggling it, carrying far too many in a wobbly heap I would make my displeasure known later.

Why do people ask "what are you doing"??-when it's bloody obvious??

Here we ask "are you OK-need any help to clear up"??

For me, it would be a big deal; my plates all match and have been discontinued Smashing one would upset the numbers

We are just the same. DH over reacts and I'm laid back.

I have been know to say its not the end of the world, calm down

Its worse when someone asks 'why did you do that??'

I am super clumsy though. I managed to break a very expensive (but rather ugky) statue that I chose from my late mums collection of expensive and ugly porcelains. Its poot head was shattered and it was a couple of weeks after the funeral. Noone was actually very suprised.

My DH is just like this. I used to get upset if he shouted at me for dropping plates etc, but it's all just a hangover from his childhood, when everyone in his house was scared of his dad over-reacting to everything. He jumps out of his skin and gets really on edge at any loud noises.

I've learned to not let it bother me. Other day i stub my toe and shriek. He comes running: "What are you DOING?!" Me: "Stubbing my fucking toe, what does it look like?"