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To think my daughter does not love me?

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Maternitygold · 25/03/2013 09:36

It may sound really stupid and I don't know how to put it in words but I really need some help :(

My daughter is about an year old and it feels like she doesn't love me at all. There is no 'mother' connection and I don't see anything special between us :( she adores her father and is always with him. Whenever I want to take her she will push me or say no or will come very unwillingly. We both work full time and I am in a very good job but I feel sucidial at times. When I go to office I feel like not coming back. I took an year off for maternity and spend lot of time with her then why she does that? What should I do? Where did I go wrong? Her father obviously adores her and takes so much care of her but I feel so alone. I don't know what to do.

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DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 26/03/2013 15:20

A friend told me recently her eldest DS was enamoured of her sister when a baby, he took ages to bond with her and screamed his head off when she came into the room. Her older relatives and PILs said oh it must break your heart, she was a first time mum and didn't know what to think but reasoned with herself he was only a baby and couldn't be doing it to hurt her.

It did not last! he is an affectionate little boy, so for now focus on yourself, please talk to a GP or your health visitor, they will have heard this kind of thing before, it is not a failure on your part and you are just as much her parent as DP is.

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