To ask if people judge single mums for not working?

[PigsCanSoar]

I have a 11 m/o, and am a 22 year old single mum. I have handed in my notice to work now, as I don't feel he is ready to be left yet. He has always been very clingy, he will happily go off and play with anyone if I am there, but as soon as I leave the room he will just cry and cry.
He is also still breastfeeding every 2-3 hours, and ideally I would like to let him self wean up until 2.

I have no doubts about this being best for DS, and am planning to stay with him until 2 then look for a job again, but I just feel a bit anxious about actually telling people this, as since he was born it seems to have been constant "so when are you going back to work then" off everyone.

I am very lucky to be back living with my mum, so money isn't much of an issue as this will just postpone moving out for a bit.
So there's no necessity to leave him before he's ready, but I just feel like I'll look "lazy" for not going back yet.

Op hang on,you witness and ignore poor practice by nursery staff.don't report it?
And that's your reason to chose to be dependent upon benefits?cause youve kept schtum about poor practice
You're priceless

Did we get scottish's life story behind the bitterness at any point?

Why can't the OP be on full benefits for a couple of years to raise her young baby? She has worked before and will probably work for the next 40 years after he's a baby.

If your baby needs you, he should be your priority. I would quit and enjoy him when he's a baby.

Unfortunately PigsCan you are very right by my book but I also implore you to keep your hand in somewhere government run at least for a couple of days a week so your CV doesn't become poor.

Hopefully you understand what I'm saying?

You're choosing to give up work,despite being fit,able to work
Just cause you you can

It's poor practice, not illegal practice. I raise issues with my manager if she isn't already aware, as do other staff members, but I can't make her sack someone. And equally she can't sack someone purely for deciding to leave a child crying to do something else that staff member has decided is a higher priority.

You're quite clear,it's not health related.you're giving up work cause you want to
You said the benefits v favourable?
This isn't about me at all,about you.why you're happy to pack in work

It's not considered poor practice. It's doing a job, they don't do wrong they just do what's required, which isn't enough in my book.

Do you honestly believe that a nursery is a substitute parent? really?

Oh my god! Scottish is on one tonight!

Yes I do understand that clipped. I'm hoping the fact it's a year extra rather than until he's say 5, and the bits with the family I'm was a nanny for should help with the CV side of things.

You said the benefits v favourable? what sorry?

"on one" presume that means don't query why adult parent able to work choses not to?
Why not ask?op happy to post on mn.did she only want yea Hun,comments

scottish, can you read your comments before posting, you're not really making much sense, there's random grammar everywhere.

You said the benefits v favourable? and what was that?

OP take not notice of you know who. Don't get dragged in, she's rather funny really in a rather bizarre way.

No one really takes her seriously, she likes to incite.

No, "on one" means repeating yourself again and again and not accepting the fact that in the UK the way the benefit system is set up means a single mum (who may be a healthy work fit adult) can choose not to work until their child is school age and that the OP is making that choice for her child's well being. And "on one" also means asking again and again despite the OP explaining why she is doing this. Repeating yourself won't change her answers.

Fair enough! I am curious about what's behind the fury though!

I see all the Huns are reassuring you,of course you're so right.I'm a bad un allegedly
Really?you think packing in work is a good plan?you're parent you need to be providing not doing the maths on signing on
I Suggest you remain employed other than chose to be unemployed

It astonishes me that so many mothers do not find it a valid reason to quit work that her baby would be really distressed in childcare? I can't get my head round why that isn't a good enough reason. Some babies experience greater separation anxiety than others. Yes it a mothers duty to provide and pay for her children but surely the first duty it to ensure her child is happy and stable emotionally?

Just take it from a long time user that a certain person likes to bang on and incite but I have to say I love her dearly "cyberly of course"

Haha! So if we agree with someone who you disagree with, we are huns? I think you are growing on me, hun!

Op expend you're energies considering why you're happy to quit work
Rather than get huffy at responses you no likey
As parent to two you need to plan solvency and career,not actively pack in work

(Disclaimer: it literally makes my skin crawl to call someone hun argh!)

That's why I personally am so fond of her. She says it as a put down.

On threads like these I can't disagree with her more but on others her insight is worth it's weight in gold.