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AIBU?

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Original poster

to be annoyed that friend told other friend that I had kissed the guy she was seeing?

66 replies

PrimRosePetals · 14/03/2013 00:17

Went on a night out on Saturday and got quite drunk. Bumped into a guy that a friend of mine had been on about 3 (maybe 4) dates with, when I asked her about him about a month ago she said she wasn't going to see him again because there hadn't been a spark.

We ended up kissing, that was it.

I text my friend the next day to tell her what happened and she was completely fine with it and even said I should go on a date with him etc.

Met up with her today and she admitted that the friend I'd been out with had text her on the night and told her about what happened.

Aibu to be a little upset by this? I think said friend should have said to me I think you should tell her what happened or I will etc. Because I was always going to tell her.

(Just a little disclaimer I would never have kissed him if he was still dating my friend or if she was still interested in him)

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ripsishere · 14/03/2013 00:20

YANBU, the go between gossip friend is though. Silly mare.

LovingWINE · 14/03/2013 00:22

I think she probably shouldn't have text your friend and told her, she should've mentioned it to you instead...however...you mention that you were drinking, and I know that sometimes my sensible head falls off after a few drinks! Maybe the friend that you were out with was trying to create a bit of drama without really thinking it through. I can see why you are upset tho.

TheFallenNinja · 14/03/2013 00:23

Now you know who to trust, so does your friend :-)

MammaTJ · 14/03/2013 01:37

I was all set to tell you YABU from the title, but I now see that she had not wanted to continue seeing him due to lack of spark.

YANBU. The friend who text her was though.

She would never know something that was not common knowledge if she was my friend ever again.

wineandroses · 14/03/2013 09:26

What an odd thing to do! This other friend is a bit of a troublemaker isn't she? Does she like you? Sounds like she doesn't much, or perhaps she was a bit jealous. In that situation, if I thought a friend was trying to muscle-in on another friend's BF, I'd be having stern words, but not sneakily texting other friend. As it happens, in your case the guy wasn't a BF, so no stern words needed anyway. Snitch is a stirrer, now you know.

mrsjay · 14/03/2013 09:29

is your friend 15 how immature but she was sniggering like a school girl when she sent the text to your friend, your friend seems fine with you seeing him if you want it is the other friend you need to worry about ,

Tiredmumno1 · 14/03/2013 09:42

I agree with ninja, now you know who to trust.

Have you said anything to said friend?

SamuelWestsMistress · 14/03/2013 09:48

Sounds as if you and your friend are mature and reasonable people. What a horrid tell tale troll your other "friend" is though. I'd give her a wooden spoon and a pot of shit to stir to be honest.

scaevola · 14/03/2013 09:53

Don't shoot the messenger.

Put yourself in her shoes: she saw friend's date (who she might not have known was about to be dumped) kissing someone else, and thought friend should know that new man isn't being exclusive. Her intentions are not necessarily trouble-making.

catgirl1976 · 14/03/2013 10:07

Hmmm I thought YWBU from the title, but reading your OP I don't think you were but your "friend" was

Avoid her from now on

YouTheCat · 14/03/2013 10:19

Are you all 14? Hmm

pinkyredrose · 14/03/2013 11:51

Just what I was about to write YouTheCat

Wants4 · 14/03/2013 12:11

YouTheCat - words out of my mouth.

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PrimRosePetals · 14/03/2013 13:37

Put yourself in her shoes: she saw friend's date (who she might not have known was about to be dumped) kissing someone else, and thought friend should know that new man isn't being exclusive

They hadn't seen each other for two months and there was no "getting dumped" because they were never a couple.

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PrimRosePetals · 14/03/2013 13:38

Thanks YourTheCat Wants4 and pinkyredrose I was quite upset about it, but fully prepared to be told YABU.

But your comments were just nasty and spiteful.

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Hullygully · 14/03/2013 13:39

textED surely?

LoveUntilYouBleed · 14/03/2013 13:41

Why people petitioned to get you back I'll never know ...

KellyElly · 14/03/2013 13:43

To be fair PrimRosePetals it does all sound very immature - drunken snogs with a bloke your mate snogged a few weeks ago, drunken texts telling said friend you've snogged her ex. You must see how it reads. Takes me back to Saturday nights when I was 16 Grin

Hullygully · 14/03/2013 13:43

It was a genuine question. My mum says "text" as in "I text him that yesterday" and I don't correct her because it would hurt her feelings, but seeing it here I wondered if it was part of the whole text lexicon thing.

And up yours too btw

SpringlingSpaniel · 14/03/2013 13:46

I don't think saying it sounds as though you are all 14 is nasty and spiteful. It's an opinion and based on the contents of your OP, a reasonable one!

KellyElly · 14/03/2013 13:47

Why people petitioned to get you back I'll never know ... Eh?

LoveUntilYouBleed · 14/03/2013 13:48

It was a genuine question.

No you wrote it to be nasty, which is all I ever witness from you on here.

Which you again demonstrate by saying - And up yours too

Hullygully · 14/03/2013 13:49

okey doke, love

bloodyschool · 14/03/2013 13:49

How old are you ? You sound like a bunch of 14 yos

wrongsideoftheroad · 14/03/2013 13:50

lol loveuntilyoubleed Grin

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