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To think a grown man should clean up his own shit. Literally.

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fizzykola · 12/03/2013 22:26

AIBU to think I'm the only one with a DH incapable of using and cleaning a toilet brush correctly?

Just had another 'conversation' with DH about this, as he's just arrived home. I hate bringing it up (we already disagree strongly on many areas of housework and I prefer to pick my battles just like with the kids). Plus we're both tired having worked over 12 hours today each.

But it puts me in a rage to go into the bathroom and see his shit from this morning caked onto the toilet. I go to clean it and the toilet brush is caked too. This leads to me cleaning out the toilet brush holder which is also home to cakey shit albeit floating in a bit of water.

He hasn't really got an answer. I don't really need an answer I just need him to fucking do it. My 4 YO DS is better at it than him which makes me think my MIL never taught him properly in the first place

When we visit other people's houses I always have a quick check/clean after I suspect he has 'been' to the loo.

It's ridiculous I know. It's basic hygiene and courtesy too. People will say 'why do you clear up after him'? Fact is he just doesn't notice. I don't know how to get him to notice and do the jobby properly.

Anyone else? Or just me who's been blessed with this?

OP posts:
Redbindy · 12/03/2013 22:29

YANBU about him cleaning up after himself, but toilet brushes are just yuck.

mummymeister · 12/03/2013 22:30

There is noone else in my household that knows how to swish the brush round the loo, put a bit of bleach in, swirl the brush again and then use the flush to clean the brush. drives me absolutely bonkers and periodically i threaten to shit in the kitchen sink and they realise i have had it and do something. they always slide back into old habits though but i keep on trying. Worse still is that FIL does it when he comes too. last time i thought about cleaning the loo with his tooth brush after asking him several times to sort it out. basic hygiene in my book.

HollyBerryBush · 12/03/2013 22:30

toilet brushes are minging

littlemisssarcastic · 12/03/2013 22:31

How do you clean a toilet brush correctly? (Genuine question, because I honestly don't know.)

Is he not rinsing it or something? He must be having a huge turd if the brush is caked in it afterwards.

thenightsky · 12/03/2013 22:34

OP, I'm with you on this one Angry

I curse and get all blood-pressure-ish as I scrub and scrub because he's not cleaned up after himself so by the time I get there it's all dried on hard. Grrrrr.

narmada · 12/03/2013 22:35

You are not alone OP. I have a skidmark shirker too. It is beyond vile.

What is the alternartive to loo brushes BTW? Agree they are repulsive but dunno what you would use instead? Xxx

QOD · 12/03/2013 22:37

I used to rant at my dh about this, but now I take iron pills I do the skids from hell. Snot much fun cleaning everyone's poo off

littlemisssarcastic · 12/03/2013 22:37

I use these. Never have to wash them out or swirl them around in bleach.

Redbindy · 12/03/2013 22:50

A hand works just as well.Its only shit,it washes off.

Morloth · 12/03/2013 22:55

I have 2 sons and a husband and have never needed to clean up anyone else's shit since the age of about 4.

Even the 3 year old wipes any accidental wee splashes.

He does it because he doesn't give a damn.

ChairmanWow · 12/03/2013 22:56

A hand works just as well.Its only shit,it washes off. Grin. Best keep your nails short then.

My DH leaves skiddies. I get him straight back up and get him to clean properly. He remembers for a couple of weeks then we start all over again. I find it gives our lives a bit of rhythm.

To clean the brush, squirt the product of your choice on it, swish it around in the loo water, banging it on the sides to get the more stubborn poo particles out then flush, running the water all over it. Then you flush again to clean the bits from the loo water and squirt some toilet cleaner down. That's the only way I can face doing it anyway.

Or just throw it out and buy a new one.

Princesspond · 12/03/2013 22:56

Practically impossible to avoid with our new toilet, badly designed imo . I couldn't afford the toilet duck things I'd go through packs every week. And no one ever flushes wee in our house except me!

AnyFucker · 12/03/2013 22:57

Why is he shitting all over the toilet ?

I accept it happens sometimes, but not often surely

But is his aim really bad ? He shits the volume an elephant ? You have an abnormally tiny toilet ?He has some sort of bowel trouble ? What ?

There is no excuse for this.

AnyFucker · 12/03/2013 22:57

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IneedAsockamnesty · 12/03/2013 23:01

Yanbu its beyond vile to my way of thinking unless you are really unable to clean up your own shit then it says a lot about how much you don't respect the person who has to clean it.

DevonCiderPunk · 12/03/2013 23:03

YANBU

Symptom of someone who does not give the smallest damn about how you spend the hours & minutes of your life IMO.

AnyFucker · 12/03/2013 23:03

How ghastly to have to worry about what he leaves behind when he visits other people's toilets

Bad enough he disrespects you in your own home

I would call him a pig...except pigs are cleaner than this

thenightsky · 12/03/2013 23:04

Mine is what I call a pebble dasher Angry

IneedAsockamnesty · 12/03/2013 23:05

Oh and your not the only one my stb exh did it as well,he also couldn't be bothered to wipe his arse properly and had a tendancy to use sites like fuck buddies and leave it open on the pc.

He had a bit of a shock one day when I photographed the loo and had his inside out pants in the pic and added it to his profile on the sex site,I also edited his profile so as well as his lies it said

"The lucky lady needs to be willing to clean and wash these daily"

Then changed his log in details and password.

It took the site over a year to remove the pics.

FattyMcChubster · 12/03/2013 23:10

That's a pound a shit if you clean with those duck things.

AnyFucker · 12/03/2013 23:14

Sock, that is fucking hilarious

I'm just sorry you had to be subjected to that at all.

OxfordBags · 12/03/2013 23:15

Sockreturningpixie, you are my new hero Grin

littlemisssarcastic · 12/03/2013 23:20

Refill packs are £3 for 12 refills, so 4 messy dried on shits for a pound. Grin

ChairmanWow · 12/03/2013 23:21

And mine. Sorry you had to deal with a twat like him, but that's a revenge story you can dine out on for the rest of your life.

MmeLindor · 12/03/2013 23:26

Sock
That is sheer brilliance

OP
YANBU. He's not doing it cause you are cleaning up after him. I'd make it clear that you won't be doing so anymore. Does he do any housework at all?

You both work FT?

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