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To think a grown man should clean up his own shit. Literally.

65 replies

fizzykola · 12/03/2013 22:26

AIBU to think I'm the only one with a DH incapable of using and cleaning a toilet brush correctly?

Just had another 'conversation' with DH about this, as he's just arrived home. I hate bringing it up (we already disagree strongly on many areas of housework and I prefer to pick my battles just like with the kids). Plus we're both tired having worked over 12 hours today each.

But it puts me in a rage to go into the bathroom and see his shit from this morning caked onto the toilet. I go to clean it and the toilet brush is caked too. This leads to me cleaning out the toilet brush holder which is also home to cakey shit albeit floating in a bit of water.

He hasn't really got an answer. I don't really need an answer I just need him to fucking do it. My 4 YO DS is better at it than him which makes me think my MIL never taught him properly in the first place

When we visit other people's houses I always have a quick check/clean after I suspect he has 'been' to the loo.

It's ridiculous I know. It's basic hygiene and courtesy too. People will say 'why do you clear up after him'? Fact is he just doesn't notice. I don't know how to get him to notice and do the jobby properly.

Anyone else? Or just me who's been blessed with this?

OP posts:
Princesspond · 12/03/2013 23:27

sock that is brilliant, changing his log on details is a work of genius.

bedmonster · 12/03/2013 23:34

Sock - amazing.

OP - your DH is disgusting. If my DP left his shitty skids caked on the loo I would be mightily unimpressed. Fortunately he's not a lazy fucker. I don't know what you can do to make him notice if he doesn't already think to clean up after himself though, sorry.

I am very surprised to see a fair few of the skiddy shirkers though, makes me think I might just have picked a DP who is on the cleaner side!

FattyMcChubster · 12/03/2013 23:35

Little I'm not spending £178 a year on cleaning his shite out of the loo. They're gross but a bog brush it is.
Wink

IneedAsockamnesty · 12/03/2013 23:36

One day I may tell you what I did to the profile he had on sex search Grin

Tbh I was more upset about having to constantly clean up the shit,he used to get it under the seat.god only knows how I couldn't even if I was trying.

Op just tell dh if he won't clean his own shit up you will advertise the job with pics and all on a local version of matchfish or Cupid what ever the hell its called.

BOF · 12/03/2013 23:39

Sock, you are neck and neck with the MNer who scooped dogshit into a yobbo's hood for refusing to pick it up. What a star!

IneedAsockamnesty · 12/03/2013 23:42

Hahahahaha I never read about that but it sounds brilliant.

Not sure if I should fess up about the pee in his flask incident.

Catchingmockingbirds · 12/03/2013 23:42

sock I have just had to wake DP up to tell him your story. That is just amazing!

OP sadly you're not alone, DP used to be like this too but eventually after enough nagging and me refusing to clean it he's stopped leaving the toilet like this.

To those posters who don't like toilet brushes, what do you use instead?

HoHoHoNoYouDont · 12/03/2013 23:44

sock you have to tell us what you did to the profile!

BOF · 12/03/2013 23:44

Sock- TELL US EVERYTHING Grin

BOF · 12/03/2013 23:47

Here's the dogshit-the-hood one Smile

SolidGoldBrass · 12/03/2013 23:48

PMSL at Sock. I don't usually approve of vengeance, but if you're going to do it, that's the way to do it.

OP, I'm another one wondering about your H's bowels, really. I don't shit all over the loo, nor does DS, nor (as far as I know) does his father. And if I do have a collywobble that leads to a bit of a pebbledash, just flushing generally gets rid.

kissyfur · 12/03/2013 23:50

YANBU!

My DP does this and it's gross, makes me so mad as I think it's really disrespectful. I'd never leave a toilet dirty like that

BabyFaker · 12/03/2013 23:51

I would rant and rave over this. I would shout and bawl. I would go fucking apeshit basically.

My very first ever leave the bastard!!!

Heavensmells · 12/03/2013 23:52

I don't like bog brushes, they are disgusting imo. Just swish a bit of bleach round after a messy one!

kissyfur · 12/03/2013 23:52

Sock that is brilliant

Magimedi · 12/03/2013 23:59

Sock - you are a real star.

OP - LTB.

KettleCrunch · 13/03/2013 00:05

YANBU

This is the story of my life and I swear, living with it has massively raised my blood pressure. So disgusting :(:(:(

AnyFucker · 13/03/2013 00:19

I find it is intensely saddening that clearing up the shit of a grown man in full control of his mental and physical faculties is described as the "story of someone's life"

PelvicFloorClenchReminder · 13/03/2013 00:21

It's threads like these that make me feel so glad to be single when I'm feeling a bit irrationally sorry for myself late at night.

Some Thanks for all of you (I'm sure they make excellent biodegradable disposable toilet cleaners) and sockreturningpixie - I salute you!

BOF · 13/03/2013 00:21

Yes, Anyfucker, it is really Not Good.

IneedAsockamnesty · 13/03/2013 00:25

Ok I will prefix this by saying that the man made my life hell for 7 years then refused to leave my home for months,I didnt just randomly decide to pick on him.

Sex search ( very filthy website for people to meet up for sex)

Changed his profile from stallion looking for a mare to please. To stallion looking for a mare to please, mare must be prepared to listen to me abuse my mother,pay all my bills,fund my 2 bottle of vodka a night habit,be called names in public and not respond and watch me try to get it on with my best mates wife( who sensibly is not interested) when ever his back is turned.

I uploaded a photo that was taken of him looking a bit like frank from shameless after he had wet himself whilst passed out drunk on the London to Waterloo train.

Again changed the acc details.

Another site the same ended up saying he was looking for rough sex with any and every man he could but I left that email the same and he was bombarded with men chatting him up,took him a fair old time to work out why.

And the day he pissed on me whilst I was innocently sleeping I went downstairs to the kitchen and made up his flask with half wee and half coffee he took it to work, it came back empty.

We parted company at our very first relate appointment.

ThreadPirateFanjoBeard · 13/03/2013 00:28

Never mind the toilet. It's when they smear it on the seat you know they don't give a fuck.

AnyFucker · 13/03/2013 00:37

People (who are not mentally incapacitated) do that ?

Do you continue to live in the same house, or even country ?

ThreadPirateFanjoBeard · 13/03/2013 00:39

Funnily it stopped after I mailed him a picture and threatened to forward it to his entire company...

BOF · 13/03/2013 00:39

Sock, I salute you.

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