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to think that we should all let our dh's off the hook on Mother's Day?

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pictish · 09/03/2013 22:49

Well am I?

To put it into context, I don't think they should look to us on Father's Day either...but in truth few men seem to. In general, it's us women who hold stock by these things.

It is very nice to feel appreciated. I understand that. But Mother's Day is about appreciating your mother surely?

I can also relate to having your dh take the opportunity to let you know he appreciates you as a mother, but expectations of how elaborately he expresses this seem to be high and getting higher.

Give them a break. Your turn will come. Your grown up children will come and spend time with you on Mother's Day.

If your dh puts out for his own mum, then he's doing alright. That's what we like to see.
Your turn will come.

I wish everyone a good day tomorrow. Personally, I will be getting homemade cards and breakfast in bed, then dh and I are leaving the kids with dh's aunt, and going out to pick up some craft materials and have lunch out. He will be popping round his mum's later with a gift and a posy. No hassle, no stress.

Remember, if someone doesn't know that they are being tested, they are never going to pass.

Perspective is a good thing. xxx

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ohcluttergotme · 10/03/2013 17:11

I said to my mum that I would pop in & see her today but she said why not pop in with children yesterday as it is my day too. So we went visit my mum with cards, chocs, flowers, us & then went to visit my mil. Both were delighted with this. Today my ds (3) gave me 2 homemade cards & lots of kisses & cuddles & told me he loved me a lot. My dd (13) gave me huge box of chocs, lovely card & plant & got up to come to church with me & the boy which was nice. Dh was working at 7 but supplied dd with the funds for chocs etc. at church we all got daffodils. I feel loved & blessed & have had a lovely day & spent lovely time with my mum & mil yesterday.
Hope all other mums are having a good day.
Next Sunday dh, dd & ds are going to a cup game for football & will be out from 9am to 7pm. I CAN NOT WAIT!!!

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ubik · 10/03/2013 17:16

My mum is in the arctic circle right now, but will send her a text Grin

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Thingiebob · 10/03/2013 17:35

Last year I got a bunch of flowers... from MY mum!

A lovely card saying 'to a brilliant mummy, you deserve them'. I was so touched and surprised. I wasn't that fussed about Mother's Day to be honest.

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KentuckyFriedChildren · 10/03/2013 21:41

ubik ??? Is she really?

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ubik · 10/03/2013 21:55

Well - the Norway part Grin
But she is taking husky rides, searching fir the northern lights and sampling an ice hotel.

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KentuckyFriedChildren · 10/03/2013 21:59

That is epic :o My mum is in NZ (because she lives there) and I skyped her last night, but she didn't know it was mothers day til I told her. She's not interested in that kind of thing anyway. But good on your mum! I want to be like that when I'm older Wink

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fluffypillow · 10/03/2013 22:01

op if Mothers day is about appreciating your Mother, then why did your DH take you out to lunch, and leave your kids with a relative ?????

How has your DH been left 'off the hook' exactly? You are being treated to breakfast in bed, cards and lunch out. If you got none of these things, and your DH totally ignored the fact that it was a special day for you, only treating his own Mum............would you be fine with that??? Not give it second thought?

I doubt it.

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