WIBU to say no to this dad?

[TidyDancer]

This happened earlier this week, and is actually quite trivial. DP thinks I was being a bit mean, so I thought I'd throw it out there!

I was walking through my local shopping centre after work when a small child (3 or 4 at most) took a shine to my bag. In all fairness, it is a rather lovely bag. It's a pink tote bag with a penguin on it. I use it for my lunch and some odds and ends on work days.

Anyway, aforementioned small child squealed in delight at my bag and I smiled as I passed her. Next thing I knew, the father of the child was tapping me on the shoulder and asking me if his DD could have my bag! I was a bit taken aback tbh, and said that I was sorry, but no, she couldn't have it. I was perfectly nice about it, but walked away to get the car. As I was leaving, I heard the dad say to his DD "sorry darling, the mean rude lady said no". There was crying following this.

Was it really unreasonable of me to not want to give away my bag? It was not a free bag and I was quite stunned tbh.

Any opinions? :)

[Pan]

it's been done on film already. Arnie in Terminator 3. " I want your clothes and your motorcycle." Which he gets.

[cocolepew]

How odd!
A friend in work was telling us that a woman stopped her to admire her boots and asked where she got them. Then she asked what size she was and could she try them on to save her going to the shop in case they didn't suit her.
She was doing her shopping at the time.

[PurpleStorm]

YANBU.

Very bizarre, and rude, for someone to ask people to hand over their possessions just because their child thinks it looks nice.

Even if it had been a free bag, YANBU.

[fluffypillow]

Too strange for words

YANBU

[aldiwhore]

I think I'm being cheeky if I stop strangers and say "I have shoe/bag/coat/shiny envy, how fab is/are your shoe(s)/bag/coat/shiny! Where DID you get it, I am very definitely going to copy you".

To actually ask, gesture and expect would be about 99 steps too far!

Poor kid though she'll be posting on here in a few times asking if SIBU for wishing people would stop asking for her stuff because she gives it all away due to a mean lady not being kind when she was out shopping with her Dad...

Dad WABVU and rude, and crackers, and (I DO like saying this) entitled

Tidy YANBU (where'd you get it? It sounds fab. I am so going to copy you, and never give it up.)

[pookamoo]

YANBU (of course!)

But where did you get the bag? I want to see a picture of it! :)

[Pan]

TD - you must google image it now please. I need last minute ideas for dd's mum's Mothers Day.

[DoubleLifeIsALifeHalved]

Ooh I like your shiny bank cards - can I have them?

(walks away in strop as you scream 'police!')

What a cheek!

[TidyDancer]

I'm sorry to inform all penguin bag admirers that I don't think you can actually buy it. :(

We got it from a little pop up shop in a small town near to where we live, I think they printed them themselves. You could probably get a printers to make you one though, you just need to find a good picture and a plain tote bag.

[WhereYouLeftIt]

" I heard the dad say to his DD "sorry darling, the mean rude lady said no". There was crying following this."
I'd have spun on my heel and bitch-slapped him for that! Still, he'll get his comeuppance; that is an intense training in entitlement he's giving his daughter .

[TidyDancer]

I would like to add this one to my collection though! Cute!

[Sailormercury]

Its epic level entitlement.

[BabyMakesTheBellyGoRound]

You know,you think you've heard it all,and if I hadn't have recognised you Tidy I would have thought this was the work of hairy handedness.
If you ever see that man again tell him your child really likes his car,can he have it.

[landofsoapandglory]

The dad sounds quite mad TBH.

I would have probably been very rude to him when he said you were a mean rude lady if I had been you!

[catlady1]

I also think I would have had to say something if I'd heard him call me mean and rude for not giving up my possessions! Bloody hell.

Where does it end? Do you think they go around asking loads of strangers for their stuff? I imagine there are some people who might feel a bit threatened, being approached by a weird bloke and asked to hand over their belongings.

[expatinscotland]

Oh, I definitely would have responded to the mean rude lady comment!

[Still18atheart]

Let me get this straight a man walked up to you and asked if his daughter could have your handbag?

YANBU that is unbelievabley rude.

I have never met anyone who would think that this was appropriate behaviour by a father.

[Mintberry]

No way! That was a weird thing to ask, and personally I think it's damaging to teach a child they can ask for and take other people's stuff at will. I know she was very young yada yada, but those are important years for developing understanding of the world.

[CecilyP]

Haven't read the entire thread, but it was a very odd thing for him to ask. It would have been fine for him to ask where you got it, with a view to buying one for the child, but quite another for him to demand you hand over your bag. Even worse is what he said, implying it is right for his child to demand other people's possessions and expect to be given them.

[TidyDancer]

I think people just assume tote/shopper bags are cheap and throwaway. I'd like to think that if it looked like an. Pensive bag, he wouldn't have even asked. That's not to say that I'm excusing the way he behaved, the entitled behaviour and the rudeness afterwards, just that his logic may have been going that way IYSWIM.

I am buoyed by the fact that you are all in agreement with me!

[TidyDancer]

Grrr. My bag is not pensive. That was supposed to say expensive. Naughty iPad.

[YouTheCat]

Is it not a thoughtful bag?

[TidyDancer]

It possibly is now, it may have thought I was rehoming it!

[GregBishopsBottomBitch]

Wow, how fecking rude to even ask, dont even get me started on the comment.

Its going into a shop, kid wants something, parent says can my daughter have that, and being told they have to pay.

My DD has a learnt the lesson, just because she wants it, dont mean shes gonna get it.