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AIBU?

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Original poster

WIBU to say no to this dad?

150 replies

TidyDancer · 09/03/2013 19:06

This happened earlier this week, and is actually quite trivial. DP thinks I was being a bit mean, so I thought I'd throw it out there!

I was walking through my local shopping centre after work when a small child (3 or 4 at most) took a shine to my bag. In all fairness, it is a rather lovely bag. It's a pink tote bag with a penguin on it. I use it for my lunch and some odds and ends on work days.

Anyway, aforementioned small child squealed in delight at my bag and I smiled as I passed her. Next thing I knew, the father of the child was tapping me on the shoulder and asking me if his DD could have my bag! I was a bit taken aback tbh, and said that I was sorry, but no, she couldn't have it. I was perfectly nice about it, but walked away to get the car. As I was leaving, I heard the dad say to his DD "sorry darling, the mean rude lady said no". There was crying following this.

Was it really unreasonable of me to not want to give away my bag? It was not a free bag and I was quite stunned tbh.

Any opinions? :)

OP posts:
Pan · 09/03/2013 19:55

FFS it's only a bag. That poor child will be scarred now. YABVU Sad

catgirl1976 · 09/03/2013 19:56

Pan, could I have your car?

DS will cry otherwise.

MsPickle · 09/03/2013 19:56

Apart from the fact it's a ridiculous request, what did he expect you to so with the contents? Hand those over as well?

What a daft wally.

expatinscotland · 09/03/2013 19:57

'FFS it's only a bag. That poor child will be scarred now. YABVU'

It's a tenner. If a child came up and asked you for a tenner just because they wanted it to you hand it over? Or your phone case or phone? The OP's son chose it for her.

Pan · 09/03/2013 19:58
Sad
Lovelygoldboots · 09/03/2013 19:59
HecateWhoopass · 09/03/2013 19:59

I think pan must surely have been joking. Grin

Wallace · 09/03/2013 20:01

I think it was Pan Grin

Lovelygoldboots · 09/03/2013 20:01

I assumed pan was messing about.

Original poster
TidyDancer · 09/03/2013 20:02

Yeah I think Pan was joking. I hope so anyway!

OP posts:
Lovelygoldboots · 09/03/2013 20:03

Was it the arctic animal or chocolate biscuit on your bag?

OkayHazel · 09/03/2013 20:03

Laughing a little bit at the image you going 'Why yes, of course she can', and then unloading your belongings into your arms and carrying on with your day.

What a knob.

Pan · 09/03/2013 20:05

In years to come that poor little girl will be in counselling, and...

Well It's the bear pit that is AIBU!

The man's a feckin' loon obv.

Original poster
TidyDancer · 09/03/2013 20:06

I have a creature on my bag, Lovely. I think it's a gentoo penguin. :)

OP posts:
BananaramaLlama · 09/03/2013 20:06

Could he have been asking if she could hold it for a minute? Am clutching at straws because otherwise it is so bizarre that he would ask for it.

nipersvest · 09/03/2013 20:07

i'm going to try this when we're out tomorrow, maybe with a mulberry. will get the dc's to have a tantrum Wink

yanbu, bloke was rude for asking, what kind of a message is he sending his dd, if you see something you like, just take it!

Lovelygoldboots · 09/03/2013 20:07

My favorite penguin Smile

GlaikitFizzog · 09/03/2013 20:07

Pans the daddy!!

Pan · 09/03/2013 20:08

They are probably a double-act, a la Oliver!, collecting odd items from strangers based on crying girl, and then ebaying them.Grin

midastouch · 09/03/2013 20:08

How strange, i wonder why he didnt just ask where you got it from

thenightsky · 09/03/2013 20:08

I might have handed it over, but I'd have asked for, oooh, about £50 Grin

catgirl1976 · 09/03/2013 20:09

Oooh nipers

I want a Mulberry. Cracking idea. DS has amazing tantrums so I reckon we could score one Grin

Fakebook · 09/03/2013 20:09

I can see this being in a sketch show. The guy asks for the bag and you hand it over along with your trousers, top, bra and knickers and walk out of the shop whilst he stands there gobsmacked. Brilliant.

Pan · 09/03/2013 20:09

Glaikit - nah, I just nick stuff.

Sailormercury · 09/03/2013 20:10

Cheeky bastard!