To be horrified my four year old came home with nail polish ,make up and false lashes on ?

[BahrainB]

Gob smacked that a four year olds birthday party warrants a beautician who applied party lashes , full ( we are talking strictly style) make-up and painted the nails of all the tiny dots that attended. This was our first "drop off " party ever and I am just so horrified . What I would have done if I had actually been there , I don't know. Moreover , I am too shocked to say anything . Thank goodness she is heading to the bath before her daddy gets in on a late flight.

[threesypeesy]

really dont see the harm in it most little girls love girly things and it was a party its not as if shes been out and about dressed lile this.... harmless fun imo

[ElkiesBrook]

this 'harmless' fun is teaching very young children girls that to look good they have to change their appearances

joins emmafrost in looking for OP

[YellowAndGreenAndRedAndBlue]

Oh how depressing that they should think they look pretty in false eyelashes, surely at 4 they are just allowed to not look any way at all? Why do they even have to think about looking 'pretty' full stop?

Of yes, such fun dressing up and looking pretty, thrilling stuff.

[Cherriesarelovely]

Ugh, I think that is really gross. One of my cousins did this for her kids and put photos on fbook of them (aged from 4-6) in full makeup. I thought it was odd and grotesque. Mind you even they didn't have false eyelashes! That is nuts.

[LadyBeagleEyes]

I don't get the shock and horrified either.
It's little girls dressing up and putting on make up.
I like to dress up and put on make up too.
One of my ds's teen female friends used to make up her 5 year old brother with her mates, and do his hair.
He loved the attention.
I'm a bit about the false eyelashes though, surely no responsible beautician would be allowed to use these sort of products on a child's eyes.

[ZZZenAgain]

they use them on those little girls in beauty pageants though , don't they? As well as spray on tan, bleached hair etc

[DesiderataHollow]

I'm just a bit sad that it's seen as acceptable by so many to do this to a pre-schooler. Horrid.
If you want to paint your own child so she looks like an escapee from a beauty pageant that's your own choice. But to do it to other people's children without consulting the parents is wrong.

It's hard to see a heavily made-up child without thinking about JonBenét Ramsey. Just Yuk.

[StuntGirl]

YANBU, its a bit weird. I would have had to say somethng to the other mum.

[piprabbit]

It's a weird concept for a 4th birthday party.

But 'fess up - you're rather enjoying being a drama llama aren't you .

[akaemmafrost]

Maybe Big Scary Daddy is home Sorting Out This Situation so the OP can't post again?

what a load of boo hockey

[Viviennemary]

I think live and let live with the nail varnish. But I'm shocked with the false eyelashes. I wouldn't have even thought a trained beautician would have applied these to a four year old child. Not on.

[ZZZenAgain]

are we right about the false eyelashes? Just checked the OP and she says the beautician "applied party lashes , full ( we are talking strictly style) make-up and painted the nails".

Are party lashes false eyelashes or something else?

[HoldMeCloserTonyDanza]

I think being horrified is a bit Helen Lovejoy.

It's super tacky and cringey but if this happened to my DD she would bloody love it and I would just wash it off as quickly as possible.

[Lucyellensmum95]

yucktastic, i dont like make up on children at all - a bit of nail varnish ok, sweet

But in the scheme of things - no harm done.

It a sensitive debate i suppose - some may see it as sexualisation of youngsters and i can see that, but more in older children, not in tots. In LOs its more about trying to be like mummy. If mummy wears lots of make up i supppse the little girls will try to emulate. I dont wear make up but my DD still refers to her lip balm as lippy and likes to wear as lipstick shes seven, it HAD to have come from school.

[Remotecontrolduck]

Nail varnish, maybe a bit of glitter on the face or something, but the eyelashes sound vile, and the glue near the eye sounds a bit dangerous for a 4 year old!

I am VERY relaxed about playing with make up, but false eyelashes are a step too far even for me!

[Szeli]

As a makeup artist I think it's obscene; I refuse full makeup on under 10s even when asked by parents as it's not just that the makeup I use in a professional capacity isn't tested for children, the brush cleaners used between clients are made up of harsh chemicals that again I wouldn't put near a child's face.

Parents applying small amounts at their own risk and 'childrens' makeup is one thing, I'd question a so called professional willing to apply anything to an under 16 without parental consent.

As for the eyelashes; a skin test should have been performed 24hrs prior and full aftercare information - something I imagine didn't happen with a 4 year old...?! Tbh I'd be questioning it further, were you given the appropriate removers etc for them? Adult clients struggle under the weight of their first set of party lashes, I have no idea how a 4 year old would cope, it's actually so wrong!

Personally and professionally I don't see anything wrong with hair and nail polish but again only with parental consent.

The whole thing is bizarre and so wrong xx

[Szeli]

Zen party lashes are the 'semi permanent' weekend lashes that are applied in clusters xx

[SPBInDisguise]

Ugh

"face painting is in the realm of dress-up. no child is going to grow up aspiring to be a witch, or a butterfly, or spiderman, becuase they had a bit of colour put on their face."
Not sure, ds is adamant he wants to be a super hero when he grows up :)

[ElkiesBrook]

emma

and a Good Job Too

[HairyHandedTrucker]

this op seems so fake except so many posters seem to be totally ok with idea of it. I'm actually a bit shocked that there are people who who would not very upset about this if it were there daughter who had come home with fake eyelashes

[ElkiesBrook]

the only thing i see as fake about this thread is the eyelashes

[Maebe]

Elkies

I'm getting very sad about the number of threads like this over the past few days. Is it the weather or something?

Unless the OP comes back...?

[LadyBeagleEyes]

Yup, there's a fair few 'controversial' threads around tonight isn't there?

[LadyBeagleEyes]

MrdDeVere, her and all the rest.