To be horrified my four year old came home with nail polish ,make up and false lashes on ?

[BahrainB]

Gob smacked that a four year olds birthday party warrants a beautician who applied party lashes , full ( we are talking strictly style) make-up and painted the nails of all the tiny dots that attended. This was our first "drop off " party ever and I am just so horrified . What I would have done if I had actually been there , I don't know. Moreover , I am too shocked to say anything . Thank goodness she is heading to the bath before her daddy gets in on a late flight.

[orangina]

Totally bloody grim.

Anyone remember the MN campaign "Let girls be girls"...... This is what it is all about.

(Hoiks bosom)

[LegoAcupuncture]

The only thing that would really bother me is the false lashes. My DC loved having nail polish on when they were this age and a little bit of lip gloom/lipstick.

Just how much make up was on her?

[orangina]

And it is NOT the same as drawing a butterfly on a little girls face w facepaint....

[teatrolley]

Well I suppose it makes it easier to pick who you're happy for her to have play dates with.

[OutragedFromLeeds]

@ lip gloom

[MoominmammasHandbag]

YANBU I once dropped then 6 year old DD off at a friend's house for tea prior to going to the school disco. Picked her up from the school disco only to find she had been given the full make up treatment by her friend's Mum. Mortified does not begin to describe how I felt. I think it was worse because I felt other people would think it was my idea.

[akaemmafrost]

"shocked"

"Horrified"

"Thank goodness she is heading to the bath before her daddy gets in on a late flight?"

Why? What would the Man Of The House have to say about this outrageous event?

Sorry this has made me .

No its not ideal but its not a massive great big deal either. I painted dd to look like a cat today, I don't think this is dissimilar. At this age its just dressing up. Plenty of time to make sure she knows the implications as she gets older.

Out of interest what WOULD you have done at the party, if you had been there?

[ponyandpotatopie]

I don't think it's a big deal either.

[akaemmafrost]

I think I would have laughed when I saw her.

[anonymosity]

I'm surprised the kids at 4 weren't completely bored by that and it does seem a little young. But I wouldn't be horrified, I'd only be truly horrified if my 5 yr old DD came home with a real tattoo or nose piercing or similar.

[seriouscakeeater]

I wouldnt have like it either and neither would DH would have been annoyed too.
Wouldnt like the fact that my 4 yr dc was having glue stuck near her little eyes.

[ZZZenAgain]

I wouldn't have liked the make-up and nailpolish but I would haveremoved it and not mentoned it. However, glueing on false eyelashes I would be really annoyed about.

[HairyHandedTrucker]

if this is real...I would lose it on the parents. anyone gluing anything to my child's face would be in for a world of hurt

[silverfrog]

I'm with you, OP. I would be horrified too.

dd2 still hasn't had the present that was given to us for her when she was 3 which was make up and all that shit. who on earth thinks that is a good present to give a small child? it baffles me.

why on earth anyone would be ok with it - why start indoctrinating small children into the whole beauty regime thing? jesus, why can't we just let small children be just that, not slather them in full make up and make them into mini-adults.

[thezebrawearspurple]

I think it's sweet, little kids love dressing up but they should have warned the other parents beforehand in case of allergy issues. I suppose some people will have a moral opposition to it, which is fine, there are also parents who don't like their kids playing with toy weapons etc... you can't really know what others are going to be horrified by.

[HildaOgden]

Hope none of them had conjunctivitis,or else they all will.

Ridiculous of the beautician to do it ( and of the party parent who didn't check with other parents first),where I am adults have to be 'patch tested' for allergies the first time they use eyelash dye,I wouldn't imagine eyelash glue is much less allergenic.

[Clary]

It's truly icky IMO.

LOL @ people saying they'd only be horrified if a 5yo came home with a real tattoo!!! Errrr well yes I would think that would be a bit horrifying!

I had a friend whose DD had very pretty blonde curls when she was this sort of age. People used to ask her if they were natural! Noooo, I bleach and curl my pre-schooler's hair.

[Floggingmolly]

I don't believe the lashes were glued on, the beautician would surely have known better than that. And the makeup is just another version of face painting which is all the rage a 4 year old's parties. If she'd have come home as a butterfly would you have been so outraged?
It wouldn't have bothered me.

[silverfrog]

face painting is in the realm of dress-up. no child is going to grow up aspiring to be a witch, or a butterfly, or spiderman, becuase they had a bit of colour put on their face.

a young girl, being pampered, and encouraged to preen, and being made to look 'beautiful' is highly likely to grow up to believe that the world revolves aorund looks. and that is a shit message.

[thebody]

No I wouldn't like it either. Little kids painting their nails and playing with makeup is ok but for an adult to glue on false eyelashes is pretty strange.

It's not pretty face painting its the creeping in of the American patgent queen culture and its not nice or healthy for girls IMO.

4 is way too young.

[Whipps]

Ugh, ugh, ugh. YANBU.

[silverfrog]

I don't want my daughters growing up thinking they have to use make up (in increasing quantities if what I see on teens these days is anything to go by) to look 'better' than they do.

they are fabulous, and wonderful the way they are. they do not need to start thinking they need a lifetime of beauty products and make up - and especially not from the age of 4, fgs!

[Floggingmolly]

It washes off . The op doesn't have to leave it on and take her dd clubbing...
She'll have forgotten all about it by next week.

[WoTmania]

YANBU - nail varnish I could cope with, playing with make up (think garish colour everywhere) fine but 'proper' make-uo and eyelashies. Nope. Not going there. I'm not teaching my daughter that there is a certain appearance she must adhere to. Particularly not at the age of 4.

[Teeb]

I can't believe the mother didn't tell any of the parents she was planning it, or that it was the 'theme' of the party, at least to give parents the opportunity to mention allergies.

Really bad form on mums part.