To be horrified my four year old came home with nail polish ,make up and false lashes on ?

[BahrainB]

Gob smacked that a four year olds birthday party warrants a beautician who applied party lashes , full ( we are talking strictly style) make-up and painted the nails of all the tiny dots that attended. This was our first "drop off " party ever and I am just so horrified . What I would have done if I had actually been there , I don't know. Moreover , I am too shocked to say anything . Thank goodness she is heading to the bath before her daddy gets in on a late flight.

[eavesdropping]

I would be fucking furious.

[ZZZenAgain]

nailpolish doesn't wash off

[skratta]

Ugh. YADNBU.

[Rowlers]

What akaemmafrost said.
What exactly would dh have done / said had he seen her?
And why is that an issue?

[thezebrawearspurple]

Putting makeup on a kid at a dress up party isn't going to turn them into a vain, looks obsessed Paris Hilton wannabe anymore than letting them play with toy swords at a pirate themed party is going to turn them into a violent thug, it's just playing.

[PetiteRaleuse]

I might be a little annoyed, but I doubt it. I certainly wouldn't be horrified, or furious, or shocked, or disgusted and I wouldn't worry about Daddy's reaction..

YABU, she probably had a great time, no harm done. And I say that as someone who hates wearing make up.

However the person running the party WBU not to let other parents know in case of allergy risks / sensitive skin?

[ToomuchWaternotWine]

I agree, beyond grim.

Lovely irony on International Women's Day too, yep great lesson to teach our 4 year olds. Why would anyone need or want to do this to those perfect peachy little faces? And no I don't think it's on the same level as dressing up or face painting, this is beauty pageant crap and it's yucky.

[ZZZenAgain]

my ex is a concert pianist from Russia, both his parents are professors of music (violin and piano in Russia), his sister is a concert pianist and lives in Vienna where she teaches and her dh is a prof of piano and so on. (Just saying, this is how I can say what I did below). It is what they told me. They all advised me not to start piano before the age of 7 and my dd's grandad would not teach violin to 3 and 4 year olds and he has taught some people who have gone on to become very good. I don't know much about music but these people do and this is what they told me.

[ZZZenAgain]

sorry wrong thread

[akaemmafrost]

Where IS the OP?

[EnjoyResponsibly]

You're horrified, yet you're not going to say anything?

Is it comfy on that fence OP?

It sounds fairly harmless, if a bit thoughtless of the child's mother. I can see your point on the false eyelash part particularly. But if its bothering you to the point of being horrified I'm confused as to why you wouldn't discuss it.

[IslaValargeone]

Yes indeed and I bet they didn't get where they are today by wearing false eyelashes and lippy.

[ZZZenAgain]

I can understand why she wouldn't bring it up with the mother, you have to try and get on with the parents of your dc's friends for the sake of the friendships. We all let things pass for the sake of keeping the peace

[Growlithe]

I don't mind DD2 (4) having a bit of nail polish. They do it at her school disco and the children are very inventive about what colours they have on each nail - you can tell they've learned 'repeating patterns' in class.

DD2 went to a few of these pamper parties when she was in Y2. I wasn't thrilled but let her go because her friends were going and she enjoyed them. That said, they only did nails, hair up and some sparkle on their faces. We always got a flyer with the invite to sign for allergies.

If it was a real beautician, I'm guessing either she has branched out into children's parties as an extra earner, without thinking it through, or the birthday girl's mum has made a bit of an error in judgement in booking an adult service for children.

Whatever, I'd be livid if either of mine came home with false eyelashes.

That said, possibly not the best message to give the child in saying you are glad it will be washed off by the time daddy gets home. That didn't sit right with me.

[EnjoyResponsibly]

I'm with you Zen, but I'd be prepared to bet my Friday night wine that the "horror" is discussed with all the other party girls mums

[LegoAcupuncture]

@ lip gloom. Obviously I meant lip gloss.

Should have added hat all my DC are boys and they've all at one point wanted to wear nail polish/lip stuff and I've always obliged. Draw the line at mascara though as think its very unecessary for little children to wear it.

[YellowAndGreenAndRedAndBlue]

It says something about the party organisers that they could think of nothing more interesting for kids to do than play beauty parlours. Dullsville. And a dubious message too.

[Growlithe]

Another thought on these parties though. One party is quickly forgotten. Mum putting her face on every morning is more likely to be the thing the girl remembers, and copies as she gets older. So if you wear makeup yourself you may want to pull those judgypants back down.

[DonderandBlitzen]

I think it must have been a very boring party for 4 year olds and it is grim.

[LaurieFairyCake]

I would hate this for age 9-13 as they are starting to become aware, hitting puberty, will start to think that they have to do this to be attractive. In fact I didn't let dd wear make up at that age.

At 4 it's just dressing up. Watching the pretty dancing on 'Strictly' and floofing about like a princess in a fairy story.

It's different IMO.

[fuzzysnout]

Sexualisation of 4 year olds. What message are we giving our little girls about their looks and the behaviour expected of them if they want to be 'pretty/acceptable to others'?

[crunchbag]

Did DD enjoy the party? If so I can't really see a problem, maybe just a bit thoughtless of the parents not to mention it beforehand. It's a one off, nothing permanent.

[bangwhizz]

Did your DD enjoy it, that's all that matters.Please stop being so precious, life is too short to get worked up over every trivial thing.

[DesperatelySeekingSedatives]

I've been known to paint my 5 year old DD's nails since she was a fair bit younger but I'd be very pissed off with the idea of any other make up especially eye make up! The false lashes would make me livid if I'm honest.

So Yanbu

[Floggingmolly]

Ffs, Fuzzy I bet the only thoughts in the little girl's heads were how pretty they looked, I doubt the message that they must look like this if they want to be acceptable to others got through