to discourage my son from having a baby with his girlfriend?

[AcidWashSkinny]

My son is 19 and has been dating a girl of the same age for just over a year now. She got pregnant accidentally and then sadly she had a miscarriage (about a month in).

They are now planning on having another baby.

I know it's none of my business but she stays over most nights here and it feels like she almost lives here.

I've suggested to my son that why don't they save up until the point they are able to afford their own place and have the freedom to go out with their friends, go on holidays be selfish and treat yourself to clothes/nights out etc without having to feel guilty.

I just don't understand the rush to have a baby and why they cannot wait until its better for them?

Before jumping down their throat at where are you going to live etc., you could ask why they want one now? It could be due to the miscarriage as the gf feels a deep sense of loss and wants to replace it with another baby.
Head should rule over heart obviously in this situation, but the gf might need someone to talk to about the miscarriage before that happens. Just one view perhaps :)

Hmm. I'm not so sure about that. The OP should be very careful before trying to influence them on whether they should have a baby. However strongly she may personally feel about this, it is their decision and they could legitimately tell her to MYOB.
The housing issue is the one that most affects the OP and that's the one she should resolve. Of course, the lack of suitable accommodation might then influence them on the baby issue...

Where has the OP gone?

That's the trouble with these threads. People ask for advice and then disappear.

Well, the op Worra hinted at has a tendency of doing that. Post and run if she does not like the responses.