to keep insisting that the school uses our correct names?

[Aika]

When we married both my husband and I kept our maiden names, him remaining Mr X and me - Ms Y. Our daughter's name is Miss Y-X.

When filling school applications we (obviously) used correct names for all of us, however, the school seems to be very confused and keeps calling my husband either Mr Y or Mr Y-X. At first, we giggled and asked them verbally to change it. Then we called them several times and wrote increasingly more aggressive emails. Yet, every couple of weeks we receive a new letter with a new version of our names, except for the correct one. The latest was the best - Mr and Mrs Firstname Y-X.

My husband used to laugh, but now he takes offence at paying large bills with a wrong name on them.

I am probably being unreasonable, but one would have thought that in the 21st century people should be able to deal with wives and husbands having different names?

Could it be a case of people not doing right because they're so worried about doing wrong?

If you take it that it's much more common to have different family members with different names now, emphasising how important a persons identity is when it's linked to their name, some might feel damned if they do damned if they don't. (I'm thinking of a thread saying about some children getting miffed with having 4/5 different surnames over time).

Which is when they might try to fall back on a default position of how they think the norm would work in the split second they've got to remember what to call you as you're marching up to them with the gathering clouds of a storm on your face approaching.

Computers are a separate thread in themselves and are accountable to no-one.

what will happen when your child with double barrelled surname meets and enters a partnership with another double barrell. quadruple? it is a fad that has really taken off in the last 10 -15 yrs.
Double-barrelled names have existed for centuries - hardly a fad! I think most people follow the usual pattern when they marry e.g. Mr X-Y and Miss Z become Mr and Mrs X-Y. Mr X and Miss Y-Z become Mr and Mrs X. I'm sure there are other ways of doing it too.

YANBU, some people are complete imbeciles.

YANBU. And I doubt a man would be so sanguine about being called by his wife's name on what seems like a near constant basis.

We have all this to look forward to OP as we have the same set up here, with the added bonus of a foreign name thrown into the mix!

This is why all of our letters go out

To the parent/carer of (child's) surname.

I stupidly went down the double barrel route and it causes nothing but confusion. My OH and I are always being addressed by the wrong names, but we find it funny much more pressing issues to make me angry