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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To think little boys can be a bit disgusting sometimes?

90 replies

Whirliwig72 · 28/02/2013 13:02

DS is 4, I love him to bits but he keeps grossing me out at the moment. If he's not eating bogeys he's making dodgy smells (on purpose), burping or exploring his body parts in great detail. Where has my sweet little baby gone that smelt of vanilla and cake? AIBU to feel this way?

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babiesinslingsgetcoveredinfood · 28/02/2013 14:29

Amber we have spiky poos here too. I told her it was because she'd eaten crisps. I feel mean now, she's not eaten crisps since! I asked her if she'd had any spiky poos recently & she swore she hadn't. She's totally fallen for it.

I wonder if I can get her to believe that watching, playing & generally banging on constantly about octonauts causes pins & needles or something....

AmberLeaf · 28/02/2013 14:38

but must say most adult men I know don't go round farting/talking about willies and shit all the time, why would they do that?! Surely they only do that if their parents have been all indulgent and "tsk, boys, what can you do - they're all like that!" when they are growing up

I don't think it is indulgence, My EX was very um anal about farting etc, but his Mum was a bit of a prude so I think he was ashamed, Id rather my boys feel its ok as it is a normal bodily function than be embarrassed about it, we all do it afterall.

I know a number of men that have no qualms about letting rip, but they know that I won't come over all 'Im a laaaaaydeeee' about it if they do.

I think Im doing my future DILs a service by showing my boys that farting etc is not the preserve of 'the lads' so future DILs won't sit with extended stomachs holding in their farts around my sons!

Definitely not a boy thing. I would be as 'free' about it if I had girls.

AmberLeaf · 28/02/2013 14:40

That funny babies, my youngest said it felt like it had crisps in it once!

MrsMymble · 28/02/2013 14:43

YABU. It isn't a boy thing unless you approach it with a 'boys eh? Aren't they revolting and smelly?' attitude. Mine say 'excuse me' if they burp, laughing at farting etc is discouraged. The only thing we have to remind DS1 (5) now is to leave his willy alone when he is with other people! However I don't think that is particularly confined to boys either - a friend's DD made her fanjo sore when she was the same age as she fiddled with it so much Grin

whateveritakes · 28/02/2013 14:50

WOW MrsMymble beat me to my exact comment!

Mine thinks burping and farting are impolite because that's what I taught him. He'll giggle if he does it but seems to have a good grip of his body and he rarely does either.

Will show me if his willy does something unexpected but has never been a fiddler.

So there.

pigletmania · 28/02/2013 14:59

I think big boys are grim. I was watching kavos on tv and some were being sick and drinking it back again and describing the taste Envy

Locketjuice · 28/02/2013 15:02

My one year old has just eaten his shit for the second time Hmm

gingeme · 28/02/2013 16:25

Boak locketjuice. That is grim. I thought only dogs did that Shock

My boys will say pardon if they pass Wind as I was taught to but never learnt it was disgusting. After all everyone does it.
One thing does make me laugh about my 5 year old DS if he doesnt want to wipe his own bum after his poo he shouts 'Mum can you check my bum please it smells messy !' Wink

AmberLeaf · 28/02/2013 16:55

Mine thinks burping and farting are impolite because that's what I taught him. He'll giggle if he does it but seems to have a good grip of his body and he rarely does either

They are normal bodily functions though?

Obviously it would be impolite to let rip in public, but that's a given.

Good grip of his body? seriously?

gingeme · 28/02/2013 17:06

As Fiona (Shrek) says ' better out than in ' Wink

Whatsdoneisdoneisdone · 28/02/2013 17:08

Yabu, ALL children can be disgusting sometimes.
My ds is 3 and generally he is pretty housetrained. No willy obsession, no farting or pooing obsession. Actually he doesn't seem to like fart or poo jokes at all! My dh finds them funnier, sadly.

We spent one lunctime last week watching my friend's dd (4) eating, then opening her mouth and taking it all out, smearing it everywhere then eating it again. She thought it was funny. It was disgusting and she is definitely a girl. However my friend didn't tell her off, I'd have been cross with my ds.

Generally most children like farting and bodily function jokes. It amuses them.

whiteflame · 28/02/2013 17:17

On the subject of males and poos, I once did a really big one (tmi sorry!) and my DH was annoyed that I didn't call him in for a look before I flushed. Annoyed!! Why on earth would he think that I would do that?!

gingeme · 28/02/2013 17:17

Whatsdone she should have been told that is not the way to act at the table. Suprised to hear that at aged 4 Shock.

fromparistoberlin · 28/02/2013 17:19

I think this thread should be moved to Feminism

the gender conditioning here APALLS ME

Grin
AmberLeaf · 28/02/2013 17:20

Yes yuck to bad table manners!

Maybe her Mum was trying the ignore it approach though?

whiteflame · 28/02/2013 17:21

I spent a weekend with a friend and her 2 year old recently. The 2 year old had a cold, and my friend picked his nose for him, without a tissue, and deposited it all onto her plate at the dinner table. No more eating for me, then!

I therefore propose that grown women are also disgusting.

YouTheCat · 28/02/2013 18:03

I know if my dd says she smells popcorn, not to breathe in. It is code. Wink

I don't generally wander about farting but I do like to let rip at home. Whole evenings can pass by with us all slowly gassing each other. Yay to being disgusting. Grin

thezebrawearspurple · 28/02/2013 18:13

It's most young children, they have no sense of disgust. Dd eats muck, bugs and recently pushed a slug she found into dps mouth as a 'present'.

gingeme · 28/02/2013 19:26

Whiteflame I think I just sicked into my mouth reading that Sad

I knew a guy who told me when he was little and he and his sister had a runny nose his Mum used to suck the snot out with her mouth bleurgh !!

Oscarandelliesmum · 28/02/2013 20:03

My six year old boy smells his own farts.

HairyHandedTrucker · 28/02/2013 20:12

well DD likes to stick her arse in the air before farting.. and laughing. has also eaten her own poop.

twolittlemonkeys · 28/02/2013 20:16

YANBU.

I was just reflecting recently on how civilised my childhood was in an all-female household. Just me, my mum and my sister, then when I was 18 a couple of female lodgers who were a similar age to me. It was great.

Now I feel like I'm suffocating in a sea of rude sounds, smells, jokes etc from DH, DS1 (almost 7) and DS2 (5). I can confirm that although DH is great at housework, he is just a big kid who still loves toilet humour, thinks farting is hilarious, makes up songs about bodily functions and has to be forced to shower Hmm I long to have my own place where I can be free from all the disgusting habits of the boys in my life. I can often be found wandering around Ikea, daydreaming about the lovely girly things I will have in my flat when the boys have moved out!!!

whateveritakes · 28/02/2013 20:26

Good grip of his body? seriously?

Yes.

I agree we all burp and a fart. I don't agree you can't control them...as described by a previous poster who had taught her boys to fart at will I think.

YouTheCat · 28/02/2013 20:35

Poor Will Sad

AuntieMaggie · 28/02/2013 20:37

good grip of his body?

So because I can't hold a fart in then I don't have a grip of my body? Hmm.

Its actually bad for you to hold it in and force it back into the bowel.