To be really pissed of with DH for telling DD off?

[NaughtyBetty]

DD (7) was in the bath. DH has told her not to mess around with the soap as last time she did (a year ago) he found it all over everything in the bath.

She put some into one of their bath toy containers this evening to make a perfume, I said it was fine, went downstairs, DH went upstairs, saw what she'd done and told her off.... DH and I then had a row about it, I think he is being fucking ridiculous, she is in the bath ffs! He said I shouldn't encourage her to do things like that because she will scout the house looking for things to make perfumes with

I know he is really stressed with work at the moment but I think he's being an utter idiot, aibu??

[Sirzy]

I agree with those saying soap is not to be played with, I find it quite odd that people would play with it actually!

[kinkyfuckery]

But if your DS has eczema that is made worse by soap, and your DD is likely to "cover everything" in the bathroom with soap, surely that's enough reason for her to NOT be playing with it?

[NaughtyBetty]

ChocHobNob- that made me laugh!

[NaughtyBetty]

Can I just say I don't advocate her squashing it/rubbing in on things/dropping in an leaving it in the bath so it goes murky, rather just let her use a bit of it for her potion, she really loved the smell

[NaughtyBetty]

just found this might keep her entertained!

[aldiwhore]

To be fair on both of you it seems to me like a simple disagreement... he didn't know you'd given permission and was excerising his right to an opinion, like you did, it's fairly common. Even though DH and I agree naturally on most parent related things there are times when I or he has given persmission for something the other wouldn't. We REALLY try not to row.

The only way we get round it, is when it crops up, which it does (as we don't give written reports of every permission we give) is to agree that if it does happen, the person who gave the permission should be backed up and the one that didn't initially, should back down.

It seems to work okay. YANBU, and although I don't agree with your DH I don't think HWBU either... YWBU (as was he) for rowing about it.

[babiesinslingsgetcoveredinfood]

YANBU he is. But it's not a big deal unless it happens all,the time.

By the way, I stripped my dm's enormous azalea bush of flowers at it's rather impressive peak when I was 9. I squeezed the flowers to make perfume. I got some lovely pink manky water, which went mouldy after a week of being hidden in my wardrobe as I denied everything despite lurid pink hands . It was not my first foray into scent he may have a point!

[MrsMushroom]

Sirzy it is not "odd" at all. Soap is a sensual thing...some children love textures and especially ones which change according to what they DO with them.
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Soap, sand, earth, water, face cream, shaving foam in a can...it's natural to want to touch and squish that kind of thing.

[pictish]

Aye but it's also costly. Fuck that.