To expect the washing up to be done properly by people coming round to "help"?!

[Janberryxx]

I've got baby twins and a four-year-old. I'm extremely lucky to have four helpers coming on different days throughout the week, two of whom are my parents. But they all leave large clods and smears of food on the washing up they are supposed to have done. I have to chuck about a third of the dishes back into the washing up bowl to be done again by DH when he gets home from work. It makes us both want to scream! It's disgustingly unhygienic.
I can't bring myself to re-educate them, I find that far too awkward and yet when I insist they leave the washing up, they insist on "helping".
WHAT CAN WE DO?!!

YANBU! If there's still food on the plates, they're not clean. Help is only helpful if it bloody helps. At least your DH is competent, though! There are 4 people I trust to wash up, DMum, MIL and 2 ex-housemates, both men. Note DH, as lovely as he is, does not make that shortlist.

I think YABU tey are helping and if their help is not welcome then dont let them. As it is they are saving your dp at least 2/3 of a job. Probably more as I presume they removed most of the food on the remaining plates.

Perhaps your dp should do them all and then see how happy and grateful you are.

My mum (on the very rare occasions she deigns to visit) "helps" me by ignoring the dishwasher, badly washing the dishes, not rinsing and bunging them in the cupboard while still wet. THEN she dips the cloth I use for wiping the sides in the dirty dishwater and proceeds to wipe the sides down with it. I ask her not to. Her standards of cleanliness are not the same as mine. I don't ask her to do any cleaning and more to the point I don't want her to. I'd rather she amused the kids tbh. She thinks I'm lazy for having a dishwasher (well when I had one. It broke down and we can't afford to replace it).

I wonder if at any point the OP will come back and point out to those saying how hard it is with tiny babies, never mind tiny twins that her 'baby twins' are over a year old?

"If you want something done right, do it yourself"
An old but true quote.
Paper plates if you are too overwhelmed to do them, in this situation.

From OP other posts twins are over 1 yo. I remembered another thread of hers.

OP the help you are getting, while not to your standards, is still help. They are still doing some washing. Maybe just ask for them to play with the DC while you do them? or ask them to do something else?

They're 1 yo? . And op still needs daily help from up to four people, who between them can't keep things up to her usual standards???
You simply can't get the staff these days...

Id like to know why the OP cant do the dishes herself tbh

People offer to do something and then don't do it properly - it's very annoying. There is nothing you can do about it.

Congratulations on your twins. You will eventually in six or so mind numbingly exhausting months get some sleep and this will all be a blur. In the meantime, a dishwasher is a very good idea if you can get one.

First world problem

I had no family near me when my children were babies. Only help was my husband when he came home after a long day at work, but then there was food to cook, shopping trips etc etc. Quite hard to do the washing up properly when you have a baby in one hand and are trying to cook the evening meal in the other, so you kinda get used to smeary crockery.

I sincerely hope this is a piss take else you are acting like a spoilt brat